need help (I'm broken )

[for christ]

hi all
I'm posting here cos I feel like my life is a total mess right now, plus I've got a lot of things on my mind ( and yes I know to tell the lord when I have things on my mind) but that's only half of it . ever since my date ( and before you ask yes , he's 100% christian) last week end I've bin very depressed and missing him so much (my bf ) , I've also found it hard to getting on with everyday things, guys if you could help me out that would be fab,

 

[stephen]

hi all
I'm posting here cos I feel like my life is a total mess right now, plus I've got a lot of things on my mind ( and yes I know to tell the lord when I have things on my mind) but that's only half of it . ever since my date ( and before you ask yes , he's 100% christian) last week end I've bin very depressed and missing him so much (my bf ) , I've also found it hard to getting on with everyday things, guys if you could help me out that would be fab,

Dear Lady this is not the end.

He's the healer of broken hearts
He'll mend your shattered dreams
He'll pick up the threads of your broken life
And weave them together again.

To your soul He'll bring peace and joy
A friend indeed He'll be
He's the healer of broken hearts
Is Jesus of Galilee.

 

[for christ]

Dear Lady this is not the end.

He's the healer of broken hearts
He'll mend your shattered dreams
He'll pick up the threads of your broken life
And weave them together again.

To your soul He'll bring peace and joy
A friend indeed He'll be
He's the healer of broken hearts
Is Jesus of Galilee.

I'm sorry I might of, not explane this well enought . I was depressed cos I miss being away from my bf (boyfriend) and that I feel so depressed to be with out him, sorry if this don't make sense again , but it's hard for me to talk about

 

[smile]

for christ I really encourage you to focus your attention on God. Pray often, read scripture and focus on having a strong relationship with Him. I went through this with an ex boyfriend. It was a time in my life where I strayed away from God and revolved my entire life around this bf. I ate,slept, breathed this boy and missed him all the time. I did not have a strong relationship God and I did EVERYTHING to keep him...even things that God does not want us to do with men we are not married to. I am not saying that this is the exact case for you but if you are getting depressed over this as much as you say you are it can become a very slippery slope that you can fall into. Its one thing to miss someone and another to dwell on it in an unhealthy way. I'll be praying for you, God Bless

 

[Kat13Rid]

for christ:
I completely understand what you're going through. I was in a similar position myself once, not so much depressed, but I did not enjoy leaving him.
My boyfriend and I were living a life centered around each other. Which is why, I realized that, it did not work as we had originally thought they would. (Though, I could do without his insistence that there's no way in the world it will ever work again, how does he know? He knows not of God's plan, nor do I, but I'm not insisting anything but a need for a friend. But that's for another place and time)

I heard a wonderful sermon on Christian Dating at my church a year ago (almost exactly,) and I revisited it a month and a half ago, for insight into my failed relationship.
I will now share it with you.
There are two approaches to dating, the right way and the wrong way.
The wrong way, can be known as the Hollywood way.
1. Find the right person
2. Fall in love
3. Fix your hopes and dreams on this person for future fulfillment.
4. If failure occurs, repeat steps 1,2, and 3
This is commonly seen in many reality shows, and celebrity relationships with the foundation being this small tip that the whole relationship balances on, (think inverted triangle.) The foundation of these relationships are physical attraction, followed by emotional attraction, then psychological, this is like chemical changes, then social, getting to know friends and how that person acts with their friends, and lastly spiritual, which usually comes in the form of marriage.
Again, the wrong way, with the basis of the relationship on attraction.

This is the right way, or better yet, God's way.
1. Become the right person (Galatians 5:22-23)
2. Walk in love (Love like Christ Loved) (Ephesians 5:1-2 & 1 John 4:19-20)
3. Fix your hope on God and seek to please Him through the relationship (Hebrews 12:1-2 & Colossians 3:1-2)
4. If failure occurs, repeat steps 1, 2 and 3. (This is not relationship ending failure, but failure to become the right person, or to walk in love, or fix your hope on God)
God's way is the opposite of the wrong way. The triangle is now right-side up, with spirituality is the basis of the relationship. It's a strong foundation. The people in the relationship are committed to following Christ in the relationship. Then get to know the person in a social setting. Now you can let those chemicals in your brain go all weird and then you can get emotional, and then once you're married to this person, you can get as physical as you want.

I encourage you to pray about your relationship. Talk to your bf about this, maybe do devotionals together, or a weekly Bible study together. Anything that would strengthen your relationship with God.

I don't mean to scare you, but make sure this relationship is centered around God, or else it is more likely to fail.

I hope something I've said helps a little bit, it may seem like a lot, but it all is necessary.
If there is one thing out of all of this that I think is most important, especially for you now, it is number 3 of God's way. Focus on Christ, Set your mind on things that are above, not of this earth; Placing your hopes on God, for he is the only one who can really fulfill us.
If you want clarification on anything feel free to ask at any time, I'll be sure to respond when I can.
I'm praying for you. You'll be ok.

 

[Brighthouse]

Great words everyone!! What I am about to say to you for christ,is only for you to consider! For not knowing your situation, I can only speak to you about how i felt as a male missing my girl. After becomeing saved in Jesus, there was this girl I had met,I could not tell you I loved her,but like you, she seemed to always be on my mind.

If fact so much so,I had little time for prayer or the Lord,I believed the Lord understood this!!AH!! no he did not! After a couple of weeks of this going on, I went to Church,and a brother got a word from the Lord to someone,LOL that someone he did not know was me!!( please read eph 4:7-16)

If we go to buy clothes, they will never fit us if they are not measured correcly,this we know and understand,all things in life Dear sister in Christ are measured,and what I have found out is this. What we most consider to be most inportant to us,we think about,and or do as well.

Jesus has to be most on our minds,for if he is not,we rob ourselves of his measure, that he want to give to us,and that we really need as well from him! So as I put into proper perspective my life in Jesus vs my own life in what I wanted!! I found a vacant part in me that needed to be filled. Can we love another,without knowing how much we are loved by the Lord?

And if we truly believe the Lord does love us,can we or would we ignore him? A man who died and rose again just for you and me? I was measuring what I wanted,not what the Lord wanted in me. When I decided to change this,and make HIM my FIRST LOVE,I began to understand what Jesus was talking about to the Church at Ephesus.( rev 2:4-5) The feeling of depression,and having no peace left me.I am not telling you to give up on your boyfriend!! Not at all!!

What I am telling you in love through Jesus in me is, that you like I did, need to set what is most inportant before your eyes,and heart. This I speak to you only for you to consider!! I will be praying for you,and am thankful that which is measured in love by our Jesus has no end to it.amen

 

[rizen1]

James 1 (New Living Translation)

James 1

Greetings from James

1 This letter is from James, a slave of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ.
I am writing to the “twelve tribes”—Jewish believers scattered abroad.

Greetings!

Faith and Endurance

2 Dear brothers and sisters,[a] when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.
5 If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. 6 But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. 7 Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do.

9 Believers who are poor have something to boast about, for God has honored them. 10 And those who are rich should boast that God has humbled them. They will fade away like a little flower in the field. 11 The hot sun rises and the grass withers; the little flower droops and falls, and its beauty fades away. In the same way, the rich will fade away with all of their achievements.

12 God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. 13 And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong,[c] and he never tempts anyone else. 14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.

16 So don’t be misled, my dear brothers and sisters. 17 Whatever is good and perfect comes down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens.[d] He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.[e] 18 He chose to give birth to us by giving us his true word. And we, out of all creation, became his prized possession.[f]

 

[for christ]

Great words everyone!! What I am about to say to you for christ,is only for you to consider! For not knowing your situation, I can only speak to you about how i felt as a male missing my girl. After becomeing saved in Jesus, there was this girl I had met,I could not tell you I loved her,but like you, she seemed to always be on my mind.

If fact so much so,I had little time for prayer or the Lord,I believed the Lord understood this!!AH!! no he did not! After a couple of weeks of this going on, I went to Church,and a brother got a word from the Lord to someone,LOL that someone he did not know was me!!( please read eph 4:7-16)

If we go to buy clothes, they will never fit us if they are not measured correcly,this we know and understand,all things in life Dear sister in Christ are measured,and what I have found out is this. What we most consider to be most inportant to us,we think about,and or do as well.

Jesus has to be most on our minds,for if he is not,we rob ourselves of his measure, that he want to give to us,and that we really need as well from him! So as I put into proper perspective my life in Jesus vs my own life in what I wanted!! I found a vacant part in me that needed to be filled. Can we love another,without knowing how much we are loved by the Lord?

And if we truly believe the Lord does love us,can we or would we ignore him? A man who died and rose again just for you and me? I was measuring what I wanted,not what the Lord wanted in me. When I decided to change this,and make HIM my FIRST LOVE,I began to understand what Jesus was talking about to the Church at Ephesus.( rev 2:4-5) The feeling of depression,and having no peace left me.I am not telling you to give up on your boyfriend!! Not at all!!

What I am telling you in love through Jesus in me is, that you like I did, need to set what is most inportant before your eyes,and heart. This I speak to you only for you to consider!! I will be praying for you,and am thankful that which is measured in love by our Jesus has no end to it.amen

oh for goodness sake I've told you many times before my bf is CHRISTIAN and as for the other thanks much for your ''advice''

 

[Kat13Rid]

for christ, it doesn't matter if he's Christian or not. You're depressed when you two are apart, correct? Then your focusing on him too much. You need to change that focus to God.
You won't be depressed when you two are apart, if you have God to fill your time.

 

[RPAB]

Ya, that's what I was going to say. .
u know u'll see ur b/f again right? so... Why worry? u also know that ur b/f is a Christian, so he's in God's hands, and that's another reason not to worry.