Hi Broncos1982,
1Cor.7:1-2 it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless because of sexual immorality let each man have his own wife and let each woman have her own husband.
1cor.7:8-9 but I say to the unmarried and to the widows; It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control,let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 cor.6:18-20 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, who you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit which are God's.
I know what you mean when you say you have talked to your men's group till you are blue in the face. It seems that many are set in there ways and no matter what we say they just won't listen or is that they don't want to listen and choose to ignore the truth because its easier to give into the flesh? I've dealt with others in the past who were pretty much the same way and even would ask me if i missed it...my response was always the same"how can i possibly miss what i've never had" to this day there are still people who flat don't believe it, but yes there are those of us who haven't and won't till the day we marry. If we are telling others to live by God's word then we better be living by it too.We are called to spread the word of our Lord and His truth and because they don't believe or refuse to believe doesn't mean its any less true...it will remain unchanged and true for eternity. Once we have presented the Lord's truth then it becomes time for us to back off, pray and Let God take over in the matter.
They want to know what the big deal is if you are monogomous with one woman...the big deal is God tells us in His very written word to flee sexual immorality...He said don't do it..that's the big deal...He didn't say its ok outside of marriage...as we see in the above verses in 1corinthians Our Lord says its forbidden and He goes on to say if someone can't exercise self-control then its better for them to marry and why because of sexual immorality or sex outside of marraige which is sin. They also need to realize that their bodies are not their own...they are infact God's and the very temple He resides in and when they do commit the act of premartial sex they are taking the temple our Lord lives and resides in and turning into something it wasn't intended for...God intended it to remain pure in Him and then when we marry we give unto to the one He has choosen for us and whom we will love for the rest of our lives and even then we are to keep the marriage bed pure.
In 1cor.6:13 Foods for the stomach and the stomach for foods, but God will destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord and the Lord for the body.
We are to present ourselves as pure glorifying Him not only with our mouths but with our very bodies by keeping them pure and not giving into the flesh or its lusts...its battle but
through our Lord Jesus we can do this and be victorious. Its one of many giants many people face today...but by the grace and power of our Lord Jesus Christ we can fight this giant but we must keep in His word and block those things which can be temptation to us and remove them anyway we possibly can.
The enemy wants nothing more than for these young men to believe His lies...many will say oh it feels good or how can it be wrong...my answer satan isn't gonna come knocking
on your door saying " here i am i'm satan and im gonna cause you to sin and im the bad guy" no he is going to disguise himself and his lies make the things that are most dangerous to us look the most inviting. So, the very thing they are saying is no big deal is a lie of satan put there to derail them from any walk they may have now with our Lord.
Keep praying for them and when God leads you keep talking and telling them of His truth and what is in His written word. I'll also be praying for them as well that God's truth is manifested unto them and that it would seep into their hearts, minds, and souls and they would infact be changed through our Lord Jesus Christ.
God bless you and keep you always.