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[Starspiritfire]

Hello, my name is Lisa and I am trying to get back on track with God. My life has been somewhat of a whirlwind as of late. For the first time in my life i am dealing with depression and anxiety. These things are stemming from my 20 yr old son. He was recently kicked out of the marine corp for drugs and is now back home. (He spent a year in california 2000 miles away). The distance took a toll and now that he is back home there has been non stop tension. He does what he wants and has no regard for my feelings. He is supposed to start a new job tomorrow and i haven't even seen him since yesterday. I feel like im coming apart, because this is all i think of i feel like i do not know how to get a grip on the situation. I cry alot and stay depressed. Nobody in my family understands. I need some prayers and guidance, he is baptized btw but is extremely far from God at the moment and that scares me the most. Thank you in advance.

 

[lilstarsmum]

Hello, Lisa! I’m so sorry to hear about your son. From your message, I can tell that he’s blessed to have a loving and caring mom. I know how painful and frustrating it must be for you. A mother’s heart will always ache for her child no matter how old they are. Your situation reminds me of my parents who faced a lot of challenges because of my brother’s behavior. Their unconditional love and prayers brought him back to the Lord. He is the pastor of my dad’s church right now. Be encouraged and know that our God is more concerned about your son and is able to work mightily in his life in answer to our earnest prayer. I just said a prayer for him, asking the Lord to reveal His healing presence to him in a special and powerful way, filling him with His love, peace, and strength in the days ahead. I’d suggest that you talk to a therapist/counselor for your struggles. You might also want to check out this organization: Lighthouse Network (Home - Lighthouse Network: Free drug abuse counseling helpline | Christian drug rehabs). I know it’s not easy, but stay strong. May God’s comfort and peace be real to you at this time. Sending hugs & prayer your way!

 

[Starspiritfire]

Aww...so sweet and caring of you. Thank you for praying for my son, i am seeing a therapist currently because it just became too much. He still has attitude but only with me never his stepdad. So it can get frustrating i will no doubt continue to pray for him. Thank you again so very much!

 

[Andyindauk]

Hello, my name is Lisa and I am trying to get back on track with God. My life has been somewhat of a whirlwind as of late. For the first time in my life i am dealing with depression and anxiety. These things are stemming from my 20 yr old son. He was recently kicked out of the marine corp for drugs and is now back home. (He spent a year in california 2000 miles away). The distance took a toll and now that he is back home there has been non stop tension. He does what he wants and has no regard for my feelings. He is supposed to start a new job tomorrow and i haven't even seen him since yesterday. I feel like im coming apart, because this is all i think of i feel like i do not know how to get a grip on the situation. I cry alot and stay depressed. Nobody in my family understands. I need some prayers and guidance, he is baptized btw but is extremely far from God at the moment and that scares me the most. Thank you in advance.

Oh dear, poor you Lisa. Your lil boy is struggling and not doing very well. Something somewhere seems to have damaged him, maybe in the forces - does he speak positively of that period? Maybe something before that. I think you're wrong when you say, 'he has no regard for my feelings'. From what you say, his attitude towards you is indicative of a lad that's hurting and wants to share that hurt by hurting the one that's closest to him: you. Is drugs still a part of his life? If it is, that's your problem. Either way I suggest you regularly reach out to him by chatting, email, SMS or a short letter, letting him know that you're there willing him better, reaching out wanting to help and together work out and untangle the mess. Let him know that you're praying for him and go into some detail about your prayer, rather than a glib 'I'm praying for you'. Do that and expect to be rebutted and hurt more but be strong and don't give in or give up. Eventually his eyes will open and he'll see just what a balloon he's been.

Meanwhile, focus also on yourself. You need to be v strong so rebuild your strength. Work on your own faith with lots of prayer, meditation and Bible reading. Talk to God and ask Him through His Holy Spirit to give you the strength to get through this awful period. Do share and ask for prayer support in your church. Most of all focus on your faith, give it to God and ask Him to give you wisdom and strength to get through.

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Dear Lord God, I pray for Lisa, It's heartbreaking to read about a sister of mine being hurt like this. Please give her your strength to cope and get through this awful period that she's going through in her life. Please Lord work in her through your Holy Spirit giving her your peace and reassurance that ultimately you're in control of this test in her faith; give her the wisdom and your strength to get through this Lord. Please Lord, working through Lisa or whatever way you can please stir in her son a desire to resolve his issues rather than falling victim to them. I know he's can't solve them, that's your job Lord, but he needs to return to you in the same way as the prodigal son returned when he'd tired of pigswill. Please work with Lisa and her son to bring them back into your loving care.

AMEN

 

[Starspiritfire]

Oh dear, poor you Lisa. Your lil boy is struggling and not doing very well. Something somewhere seems to have damaged him, maybe in the forces - does he speak positively of that period? Maybe something before that. I think you're wrong when you say, 'he has no regard for my feelings'. From what you say, his attitude towards you is indicative of a lad that's hurting and wants to share that hurt by hurting the one that's closest to him: you. Is drugs still a part of his life? If it is, that's your problem. Either way I suggest you regularly reach out to him by chatting, email, SMS or a short letter, letting him know that you're there willing him better, reaching out wanting to help and together work out and untangle the mess. Let him know that you're praying for him and go into some detail about your prayer, rather than a glib 'I'm praying for you'. Do that and expect to be rebutted and hurt more but be strong and don't give in or give up. Eventually his eyes will open and he'll see just what a balloon he's been.

Meanwhile, focus also on yourself. You need to be v strong so rebuild your strength. Work on your own faith with lots of prayer, meditation and Bible reading. Talk to God and ask Him through His Holy Spirit to give you the strength to get through this awful period. Do share and ask for prayer support in your church. Most of all focus on your faith, give it to God and ask Him to give you wisdom and strength to get through.

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Dear Lord God, I pray for Lisa, It's heartbreaking to read about a sister of mine being hurt like this. Please give her your strength to cope and get through this awful period that she's going through in her life. Please Lord work in her through your Holy Spirit giving her your peace and reassurance that ultimately you're in control of this test in her faith; give her the wisdom and your strength to get through this Lord. Please Lord, working through Lisa or whatever way you can please stir in her son a desire to resolve his issues rather than falling victim to them. I know he's can't solve them, that's your job Lord, but he needs to return to you in the same way as the prodigal son returned when he'd tired of pigswill. Please work with Lisa and her son to bring them back into your loving care.

AMEN

Bless you friend, thank you very much!

 

[Wnl]

Hi Lisa, because of Love you hurt, if you didn't Love you would not hurt.

I know it's not easy for me to say this, as I have children and grandchildren

and you naturally want the best for them,but I have learnt through my experience

that you DONT GIVE YOUR LIFE UP FOR THEM, You cannot help them if you yourself are falling apart, you will become weaker than them, in this state you can't even help yourself

Don't let the circumstances around you, control you, GET YOUR HEAD UP IN THE NAME
OF JESUS CHRIST, you cannot live there lives for them, they must go through the learning curve of mistakes.

Keep your Christian faith strong in your home and in yourself, do not allow your son to be disrespectful of you, or he will.

Do not let him control the atmosphere in your home, sing in adversity, because I know
prayers have bean answered already, keep your joy in the Lord.

With Love, Wnl

 

[Starspiritfire]

Thank you for being real with me, and that is exactly right. I am nurturer by heart and i have always put them first. Thank you for helping me see the light, sometimes i see all these posts about self care and putting yourself first and i feel guilty for it because it's sometimes looked down upon by christians, as God should be first. Which he is. But putting me out there before my kids has always been something i have never done. I appreciate you bringing this to my attention, and i will work on me from here. Thanks again kind soul.

 

[Andyindauk]

Hi Lisa, how's it going? How are you doing? How's that lil boy? Please keep us posted and meanwhile I'll be praying for you both. Lots of love and best wishes, Andy x