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My father is a long time alcoholic.
I stopped giving him money many years ago.
I would ask my father if he was OK and find out what he needed. I would take him the occassional meal or give him some new clothes. No money.
Of course most times he would take it gladly but if my father was desparate for a drink he would hurl abuse at me for not giving him money. That is why I always went to see with male company, never alone. He would lose it but not attempt to take it from me.
It doesn't serve them to feed their habit. When they are drunk and if they drive, if they had an accident you would be morally responsible because you gave them the money. Not legally responsible but I would be very upset if I allowed my father to get drunk and cause harm to himself or another person.
It doesn't even have to be a Christian thing. Many non-Chrsitians don't support feeding an addicts habits.
In the end the choice is yours. I personally did not and still do not today. If my father needs medication and can't afford it I (not because he has spent his money on drink but he is a pensioner) I will buy it for him, not give him the money. My father is old now and rarely goes out to get drunk these days but still isn't capable of being trust worthy for me to just hand him some cash.
We are given the responsibility of caring for our family members in God's Word. Do what you can for your father if he lets you. Try not to support his habit is my advice.
I stopped giving him money many years ago.
I would ask my father if he was OK and find out what he needed. I would take him the occassional meal or give him some new clothes. No money.
Of course most times he would take it gladly but if my father was desparate for a drink he would hurl abuse at me for not giving him money. That is why I always went to see with male company, never alone. He would lose it but not attempt to take it from me.
It doesn't serve them to feed their habit. When they are drunk and if they drive, if they had an accident you would be morally responsible because you gave them the money. Not legally responsible but I would be very upset if I allowed my father to get drunk and cause harm to himself or another person.
It doesn't even have to be a Christian thing. Many non-Chrsitians don't support feeding an addicts habits.
In the end the choice is yours. I personally did not and still do not today. If my father needs medication and can't afford it I (not because he has spent his money on drink but he is a pensioner) I will buy it for him, not give him the money. My father is old now and rarely goes out to get drunk these days but still isn't capable of being trust worthy for me to just hand him some cash.
We are given the responsibility of caring for our family members in God's Word. Do what you can for your father if he lets you. Try not to support his habit is my advice.
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This a a grand question!! Being your earthly father,of course even though you do not like what he does,you do love him as you dad!
If you were to ask me to drive you to a bank,and you robbed it,then came back,and asked me to drive you home,and I did,and as we drove to your house we were stopped by the police,I would be arrested to.Guilt by association. Matters not if I knew what you were going to do or not!
In my humble opinion,if we know what he is going to do with the money,and we help him sin,then we are as guilty as the person who commits the act.
I would just repent of my past sins,as we should do daily anyway,and tell your dad,if you are hungry, I will feed you,if you have any need,I will meet that need as best I can,but what I will not do,is help kill you! Or hurt you! For by doing so I am as guilty as you are,not that I am any better then you are Dad!!
I just have a consicence, because Jesus gave me one now! Hope this helps!! I would also not say this in a judgement tone either!! I would say this as a son who loves and cares for his earthy father!! amen.
If you were to ask me to drive you to a bank,and you robbed it,then came back,and asked me to drive you home,and I did,and as we drove to your house we were stopped by the police,I would be arrested to.Guilt by association. Matters not if I knew what you were going to do or not!
In my humble opinion,if we know what he is going to do with the money,and we help him sin,then we are as guilty as the person who commits the act.
I would just repent of my past sins,as we should do daily anyway,and tell your dad,if you are hungry, I will feed you,if you have any need,I will meet that need as best I can,but what I will not do,is help kill you! Or hurt you! For by doing so I am as guilty as you are,not that I am any better then you are Dad!!
I just have a consicence, because Jesus gave me one now! Hope this helps!! I would also not say this in a judgement tone either!! I would say this as a son who loves and cares for his earthy father!! amen.
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If my father on earth was still alive,this is what I would have done,for like your father mine also was in great bondage before he died.
I did not have the time you do to tell him this.He died before Jesus came into my life.Please don't make the same mistake I did.I know this can be hard!! I am praying for you,and yes my brother,with you. 1 John 4:16-21 please look hard at verse 18.May this bring you much comfort, knowing you yourself are so loved. blessing.
I did not have the time you do to tell him this.He died before Jesus came into my life.Please don't make the same mistake I did.I know this can be hard!! I am praying for you,and yes my brother,with you. 1 John 4:16-21 please look hard at verse 18.May this bring you much comfort, knowing you yourself are so loved. blessing.
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As others have replied no. My brother-in-law is one, and is of simple mind. I replace food, necessities of life when I can. One thing I do is, that every time I go see him I pray for him and with him.
Praying that your path will be made clear for you and the addiction that holds your father may be bound. In Jesus name. Amen, Amen, Amen!
Praying that your path will be made clear for you and the addiction that holds your father may be bound. In Jesus name. Amen, Amen, Amen!
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Hello brothrs and sisters!
My father is alcoholic and he doest belive God. And when he ask money for alcohol like he used to do, then what I should do...give him the money or not?
Thank you all who will answers and God bless you all!:wink:
I was an alcoholic before God revealed himself to me in 1979. If you don't give him the money, he will find another way to get his alcohol. I tried not to support other people's addictions because that's enabling them to keep going.
Try talk to him about going to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting and go with him if he's fearful about it. If he says no, then don't give him any money. The harder it is for him to get alcohol, the chances improve that God might have planned his sobriety. God is the only one who can give good sobriety or else they keep on drinking between AA meetings.
If your emotions won't allow you to keep you from giving him money, then give it to him. God doesn't judge anyone with one sin. A sinner is a sinner because of the corrupt DNA of the flesh so it makes no difference to him if what you do. What matters is you and how you handle this situation. I would try get him to meetings first and see how that goes.
When I figured out one of my sons was using drugs and alcohol, I stopped giving him money and I told him I wouldn't support his habits. Then he went and got a job and paid for his own habits.
