Prayer Request & Advice Needed

[adie1974]

Hi new to this group and would like to say hello to everyone

Just asking for a for a bit of advice and prayer for my self and my family

I have always been a Christian but this situation i feel abandonded by Jesus - my faith has been tested to the limits

It is very complicated but in brief my partner (she is mentally ill, beleived caused by her childhood) dissapeared with my daughter (now 3) in April 08, her family - so called Christians - helped frustrate contact and i spent every penny i had trying to find my daughter.

Before she dissapeared one of the things was that she beleived that she was possessed by the devil and that her dad had put the devil in her. At one point she beleived that i was her dad.

Her dad, not a christian - so we have been told by her side of the family abused my ex and her mother - which is why my ex's mother dissapeared when my ex was 3, returning at 16.

Her father made false accusations to try to remove me from the police, so through this i have lost my police career (as a special), my business is failing and homeless - thankfully i now have my daughter with me. (now with parents)

It has come out that whist my duaghter was in the care of my ex, she tried to suffocate her and she was locked in a room on her own, my daughter has also said that my ex's dad - the one i am concerned of has inopropriately touched her.

At current her family are in denial that she is ill, saying she did not have a bad childhood, but it was all my fault, (contry to evidence of her mum disapearing and being ill before i knew her) and making comments that God will punish me becasue i have now won the court battle, i just faught with honesty, compassion and proved my inocence over their lies.

Her sister in law (a christian - and beleives she is above everyone) made a statement to me at a social services conference that she will tell the courts more lies so i wont see my daughter again.


Me trying to be nice (a christian) etc in this polictially correct society is seen as wrong and i feel i have lost who i am

regards

 

[Shutterbug]

It has been said that Christianity preys on its own. Taking into account governing rules between estranged spouses, my suggestion would be to pack up and move until things settle down. I realize that anything you say and do can be twisted, but sometimes Paul's advice is the best: dust off you sandals and move on.

Nothing they say or do can separate you from Jesus: only you can do that. Forgiveness is a wonderful thing, but some things (or people) are easier to forgive than others.

Or, you can simply lay down the law that you are staying, God called you into their family for a good reason, and regardless of what they do, you still love them as your own. I know, easier said than done. Phil 4:8

Cheers,
John

 

[adie1974]

Hi John

Thanks for the reply, I have actually forgiven my ex, i have been attending family theropy with her and WAS going well. Through this theropy my ex repeatedly refered to her childhood but stopped as she could not remember what had happened. She said "why should i love her when her own mum and dad count love her"

She was making progress untill her family stepped in beleiving (even with evidence from medical experts) that i was to blaim and fueling her paranoia,

She is ill, she did put my daughter in danger and i had to use the courts to keep my daughter safe, by doing this she has been bringing up her bad childhood which her family want brushed under the carpet and are blaiming me for everything

Her family are doing alot of damage and i am contantly worrying about her - over worrying bout my homelessness debt etc that this is caused

One experience i cant forget is when she stabbed her self, she also stabbed her bible, this was the one her step mum swore on that her dad sexually abused her

if her dad did do this to my ex and my daughter, (which would make sence he tried to get me out of the specials) i am finding it impossable to forgive her family knowing we have lost everything fighting and i failed to protect my daughter from him

i have had to step back as i feel that i am carring too much weight on my shoulders. i did try to move on but when my ex found out she caused trouble to break this new relationship up.

i just feel alone, lost burndened angry etc

 

[stephen]

Read your post dear friend....and you are on my heart......and praying for you

 

[Shutterbug]

Good morning Adie;

Sounds like you opened Pandora's Box. I suppose the only resolution to your dilemna is to determine if your former wife's memories are blocked, or never existed. Without access to her, making an accurate determination would be impossible. From then on, any further resolution would be up to her.

Forgiveness includes her family, too. If they are hiding something, then your blame is opening the lid. By forgiving them, you are showing any animosity is not personal on your part.

You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free. The truth is that God loves all of us, even if we become a lost sheep. Only you can lose your relationship with Jesus. Your daughter needs to know you love her as a father should love his children. Your exwife needs to see and understand it, and know that you love her, too. Her family needs to understand it as well, including the Christian element.

Our God of the Bible is a God of restoration to the extent we allow him. Do you believe that?

Cheers,
John

 

[adie1974]

Thanks for all your advice

i agree i have opened up a can of worms

ppl have said ( including an ivestigation of failure from the authorties) that she is making it up becasue of her illness, however i have found letters from her mum dating back refering to her not seeing her mum for 13 years,

With reference to her dad; her mum has now said that she leave her and her dad becasue her dad was forcing her mum to have gang bangs. 5 years ago, her brother denied his dad access to his children for being a pervert - so there is strong evidence

i have recently met her mum, she says i am in denial that i was abusive and that she did not go missing when ex was a child and that she would pray for me to accept that i mentally controlled her - which i "caused her illness" - at a social services family conference her mum then sd she knew my ex was ill n has helped her

her dad, along with the refuge made false accusations to remove me from the police

i have not been told of the exact details but either bipolar or scitzophrenia - the words pychosis was mentioned thou) and has been ill before i even knew her

it is very hard to forgive someone that has distroyed a relationship and destroyed yr life to cover upo there own guilt - how do u do it

 

[hisservant56]

Keep seeking the Lord for forgivness.. He can give you the power to forgive He has all power..... Trust me He will give it to you.. He did me to forgive my brother and my ex-husband of things done to me that I couldn't even put into words... I have forgiven them all... Only through the Holy Spirit and His power could I do that..


Will be praying for you for a forgiving spirit.

Blessings & Shalom,
debbi rennier

ps remember He has not left you....

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Hi new to this group and would like to say hello to everyone

I have always been a Christian but this situation i feel abandonded by Jesus - my faith has been tested to the limits

Me trying to be nice (a christian) etc in this polictially correct society is seen as wrong and i feel i have lost who i am

Welcome to TalkJesus, Adie. You've presented a very thorny issue and some very well intended advice has been given. Its my opinion, however, that advice giving at this point may be of little value because direction from the Holy Spirit is what is needed for this complicated problem to be resolved.

You feel as though you've been abandoned by Jesus. I've learned quite a bit about prayer in the last few years. One of the things I've learned is that God hears every prayer and also there are legitimate reasons why answers to prayer are delayed.

My only suggestion is that you gather a group of prayer warriors around you (as many as possible) - from your church, your friends, this website, and any other source you can come up with - and see that heaven is bombarded daily with multiple prayers for this situation to be healed. Its been my experience that a kind of synergy often develops when a large group of believers comes together in prayer regularly and often. "Wherever two or three are gathered together in my name, there I am among them." (Mt 18:20 NIV)

I will be one of those praying for God's solution to be received ASAP.

Spirit Led Ed (SLE)

 

[gpruitt15]

Amen Spirit! The two best tools that God gave us to live this "temporary" life on earth is The Scriptures, and Prayer, with the greatest of these being prayer! I have seen mighty things through prayer both in my life and those around me. Adie, i will be praying for you each and every day! God bless you and you daughter, and never forget he knows what he is doing! Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Keep your head up and as Paul said STRIVE TO FINISH THE RACE!!
God Speed Brother!