premarital sex and the bible

[jess_c86]

My fincee and I have been together for 3 years now. My question is that if my fincee and I are going to become one by marriage then is it still a sin to have premarital sex? I care very much for my religion but this topic leaves me pondering right from wrong. Please help. Thank you

 

[LeftCoast]

Here is what came to mind when I read your post:

Rom 1:24-25
24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator-who is forever praised. Amen.
(from New International Version)

 

[jjkirk]

My fincee and I have been together for 3 years now. My question is that if my fincee and I are going to become one by marriage then is it still a sin to have premarital sex? I care very much for my religion but this topic leaves me pondering right from wrong. Please help. Thank you

Jess,

Any sex outside the confines of marriage is sinful. It is great you are going to be married(CONGRATULATIONS by the way) but it is best to wait to consumate your relationship until you are married. In the Old Testament, ie.. when Isaac first married he did so by having relations with his wife to be. The act of sex is what designated them as married.

Gen 24:67 Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and he took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her; thus Isaac was comforted after his mother's death.(NASB)

When you have sex with a woman it is like the two are becoming one and if something were to happen (God forbid) you would in essence be married to her.

So please pray and study the scriptures, for it is best and right for you to wait.

Gods Blessings on your future Marriage,
John.

 

[Mike]

Jess , hello from big-brother . This is easy to explain in scripture , wich has final authority in all things . I won't do that because the very fact that you are asking this question shows me you feel the conviction of those same scriptures . Sex is a gift from GOD , and the finalization of the marriage covenant . I know you may be afraid that if you don't have sex with you're fiance , you may disappoint , or even lose him by this decision . The battle in the flesh is hard , and self control is a fruit of the spirit . I have a brother in the LORD who battled the same thing before he got married . We prayed together , and he repented of having sex before marriage , and asked the LORD to restore in him a heart of virginity . He also prayed the same with his girlfriend at the time , and asked the same for her . They both agreed to ask GOD to strengthen their love for each other in sacrifice for each other , that their relationship would grow stronger in love and commitment in the LORD . Although this was hard on the flesh , they grew to appreciate each other more , and learned allot of things about each other that sex was blinding them from seeing . He is now a minister for the LORD and have been married for 7 years . He gave testimony that the decision they made was the best thing they could have ever did together , and prepared them both for the challenges marriage has to offer . Jess , GOD wants you to have a man who will love you and honor you in all you are . A test of faithfulness would be the ultimate test for you both . A man who is not faithful before marriage , will struggle with faithfulness after marriage . Sex will not hold you relationship together , JESUS CHRIST WILL !!! Insert him in you're relationship now , and trust him . If you're fiance cannot accept you're feelings in this matter , you may need to wait for him to grow in the LORD . The FATHER in heaven wants his daughters cared for in every way . Trust me on this . My wife and I will be married for 25 years this August 23'rd . Believe me when I say , SEX is not while we are still together . JESUS is the reason we are still married . don't get me wrong , the sex is great , but hilarious at times also ! You will have to be married fo 24 and a half years to understand what i mean ! I hope that I have helped you , and I will pray for you . Write me if you want to .
BIG-BROTHER :rainbow:

 

[Manocourage]

Hello. Your's is not an easy question to answer. While the answer is clear in scripture, Our hearts are not inclined to listen and respond. You struggle with what every man an woman have struggled with since Adam and Eve. It is to our original parents that I will turn your attention. While many think that the original sin was Eve's, the scripture tells a different story. The original sin was Adam's. Look into it. Where was Adam when Eve ate the apple? Standing next to her. He was charged with her care and protection and he failed, thus leading her into sin. It is the Holy Spirit who raises this question in your heart. You know the answer. Deeper than that is the failure of your Fiance to lead you and protect you as he is commanded to do. Women respond to men. Does he know the fear of God?

 

[jiggyfly]

A man who is not faithful before marriage , will struggle with faithfulness after marriage . Sex will not hold you relationship together , JESUS CHRIST WILL !!!

Good post brother and very good advice, God advice.

 

[lll3]

Jess,

I know how hard it is to abstain from premarital sex. Of all people, I have no right to condemn anyone. However, this one thing I promise: You and your fiance make Jesus the head of your relationship, everything else will fall into place.

Be blessed,
Jeff

 

[LegendaryU2K]

Its actually very easy not to sleep around when you know about the truth. As i mention before, i have commited fornication and some adultery in the past times, this is only because i didnt know better, yet alone care about what GOD really had to say. But people change, i change and i been a long relationship and now i am married.

I can control myself from adultery with ease, because me and my wife know the truth. Dont make excuses, people either gonna go against GOD and seek after thier own lust or make a smart choice and control thierself with the power of GOD and The Lamb.