Remarried on the rebound 2 days after my divorce - HELP

[LYNETTE]

I didn't take time to grieve after my divorce. I miss my family and want to make things right in God's eyes. I've asked Him to forgive me for divorcing my Husband and for getting married on the rebound but now I'm facing the hurt of seeing my ex-husband (father of my two daughters) at ballgames, school etc. and wishing I had tried harder and stuck it out to make my marriage work. God has given me a word to "STAND STILL". I am but I want to take this time to heal from my divorce and learn more about God's heart. I also lost my father whom I had been a caregiver for 3 years. His viewing was the same day as my final divorce hearing - like loosing the 2 men in my life at the same time. Now almost 1 year later - things are slowing down and I see my mistakes and sins and want to make things right.

Someone, please pray for me and give me any insight you may have.

Thank you!

LYNETTE

 

[shepherdsgrace]

Dear Lynette,

As you well know, we cannot go back and redo our mistakes. All we can do is start where we are. And where you are is with a new husband. He is the one to love and think about and looking at your ex husband and wishing you had done differently is looking in the wrong direction. It does not work. It will not work. Now is the time to bless your future by loving your present husband and looking at him and not your ex husband. You can make the choice Lynette. You can be wise and decide to count the cost and turn your eyes to where they need to be.

As far as your grief is concerned you can deal with that in the presence of the Lord accepting his comfort and forgiveness. It really is all there for you.

Father in the Name of Jesus I lift Lynette to you and ask that she be willing to accept where she is now and look to you for comfort and guidance. You understand Lord and you are present. In the Name of Jesus, amen

 

[Delicate]

Dear Lynette,

I admire your heart to 'make things right'. My advice is perhaps not what many would consider... but biblical, none the less.

I understand scripture to teach that a person is joined, by God, to their first marriage partner... and that only death seperates that bond (1 Cor. 7:39). Accordingly, your heart is focused where it belongs... with your true husband and daughters.

Where you go from here, is something you will have to work out with the leading of the Holy Spirit. Please do not discount the pull you feel toward your husband and family. If you too are your husband's first wife... the pull is of God.

My prayers are with you, dear.

 

[Bloodbought]

Hi Lynette
Your testimony sounds like mine. I, too, lost 2 men on the same day. Read my journal, when you get a chance. The Lord tells us in 2 Cor 1:4 "who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God." Shephersgrace is right. You can't focus on the past, just keep going forward. Thank the Lord for this forum and brother Chad!
Father, heal my sister's heart and let her not focus on the past, but on You. You are able, because You are God. In Jesus' Name. Amen

 

[thankful]

His grace is sufficient

hello lynette

i've never been married. but i can tell you with all certainty that God's grace is sufficient for you, His strengthened is perfected in your weakness.

we all make mistakes we can't undo but we can learn and grow. this is happening to you right now But my God and your God the only wise God can do exceedingly abundantly above all we may be able to ask or think.

honour your God, honour yourself and hnour your husband. all things work together for good to them that love the LORD.

Have faith in God. He sees and understands your hurt and condusion better than anyone even you. for He knows what you can take and when you come forth you shall be like gold.

keep on praying

 

[billyeah]

I have not studied this greatly so don't take me as an authority on the subject. In my studies however I have only found two times when divorce is condoned, infidelity, and if an unbelieving spouse leaves. Neither time however, did I read that the person could remarry. That being said, I can't help but wonder why so many Christians are getting divorced. God hates it, and the bible speaks against it, yet followers of God find no problem with it. I don't want to offend anyone, but what is going on? God hates it! We love God. Why, if we love god, would we want to do something he hates?! When Jesus spoke to the woman at the well he commented that all her other husbands were not her husbands, but the one she married origionally. I think this case is the same. I don't believe you should dwell on past mistakes, but if you could fix them, why not?

Once again I am sorry if I offended anyone.

May God Lead You All