Saving your household

[Chellebird]

Hi.
In Acts 16 v 31 it says - 'believe inthe Lord Jesus and you will be saved - you and your household'

I am born again - my husband is not

Will he be saved?

It also says in 1 Peter 2 v 1 - Wives in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that if any of them do not believe the work they may be won over without words....

I pray for God to touch my husband's heart and that he will be saved in God's time but sometimes I get confused by these two scriptures

 

[Maureen]

Chellebird

I came along to relate to you sister.
I too am saved, husband not.

How long have you been waiting?
for me it's over 5 years.

I reckon it's not a long time in the time span of God.
I think it's patience is required of us.
I know sometimes easier to say than do, or have.

My husband started to go along to church with me, his own request, has been going for over a year now, hearing the word faithfully preached, has heard the full gosple message loud and clear, but still sits in his sins.
He enjoys his social drinking life still, and I believe that is keeping him from giving his life to Jesus.

On Easter Sunday for example, he practically went straight from church into the pub.
I have only realized of late, it's best to say nothing and let the Lord work.
I think that is the meaning of the latter verse.
'may be won over without words'....

the first verse was the Phillipian jailer, and true enough his whole house was saved,
Acts 16, v 33, 34
33And he took them the same hour of the night, and washed their stripes; and was baptized, he and all his, straightway.
34And when he had brought them into his house, he set meat before them, and rejoiced, believing in God with all his house.

obviously the Holy Spirit was present, otherwise they would not have been receptive to the calling of God.
It is the job of the Holy Spirit to enable this to happen, our hearts to melt in contrition.

don't know if I've been any help, sometimes I could climb the walls too Chellebird if that comforts any.
You just can't understand what holds them back, when we know what it's like to be loved by Jesus.

perhaps we can comfort each other sister.

 

[stephen]

Hi.
In Acts 16 v 31 it says - 'believe inthe Lord Jesus and you will be saved - you and your household'

I am born again - my husband is not

Will he be saved?

It also says in 1 Peter 2 v 1 - Wives in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that if any of them do not believe the work they may be won over without words....

I pray for God to touch my husband's heart and that he will be saved in God's time but sometimes I get confused by these two scriptures

LOrd Jesus meet, answer this prayer. Save this husband I pray...in Jesus

I too have close family away from the LOrd

Lord Jesus hear our prayers today, bring Salvation to those we love......In Jesus

 

[Maureen]

Thank you bro Stephen
we shall all give thanks to Jesus.

 

[bonnie_girl]

Hey Chellebird- The two scriptures that you give are both amazing scriptures. Never underestimate the power of Gods word. I married an unsaved man, in fact a man who had never really heard the Gospel as such, even though he is born and bred Australian. This blew me away, since I have always known the Lord (not always been aok in everything but always having a knowledge and relationship with Him) Acts 16:31 is the scripture I would pray over my husband when he was sleeping. The Lord is so faithful and can do amazing things when we truly believe Him and His Word. My husband was saved after only 18 months, it wasnt anything remarkabe on my part, I was so amazed at the work God had been doing in his heart, without my even being aware of it.I just truly believe God at His word. There is power in the Word, Jesus never called it a double edged sword for no reason. And the Word of God is our the Sword in our armour as in Ephesians chapter 6 verse17. And the second thing is, stay cool, dont worry, God is faithful, dont be all upset with your husband cause he went to the pub, believe me he is thinking about it all. In the meantime, ask the Lord how best to go about things, ask the Lord to help you be a good example, dont ever try to convince a non_christian in your own strength, its way too tiring, ask the Holy Spirit for His strength and His guidance and His wisdom. It never ceases to amaze me at how smart the Lord is, ask His advice, believe me the Lord will never not be found by those who really need some help. He is amazing. The next thing is, be a wife to your husband, be good to him, dress nice for him, be his favourite girl, he needs to know you are on his side, no matter what. ( I once sat with my husband, alone, at a church barbecue, cause no-one would sit with him, cause he had brought along a six-pack of beer.) My husband was and still is, more important to me then anyone elses opinion, and I didnt make an issue of it, he is my husband, he comes first, simple. Without a doubt my attitude towards him had a direct impact on his attitude towards the Lord. And when you have your special times with your man leave the church and all it entails out of it, just focus on him. The Lord will do the work and your husband will fall more in love with you everyday. Never give up and expect the Lord to keep His word, the results will truly astound you. With love and blessings and lots of encouragement- Bonnie

 

[abigya]

great advise bonnie_girl, sister Chellebird only God can change people's heart to draw them to his kingdom. I too have unsaved family members whom i am praying for.

let us pray with out ceasing, share Christ's Love and live godly life, the rest will be up to God.


1 Corinthians 3:6
I planted the seed in your hearts, and Apollos watered it, but it was God who made it grow.

blessings

abigya

 

[Maureen]

That was encouragement indeed.

I know it can be daunting, the waiting process and I know the Lord Jesus has His reasons for the wait, we don't know, only He does.

Sometimes I even begin to wonder will it be worth the wait, will it make such a change to him or even 'us'.
That is probably the evil one sowning doubt at which he is good at.

So I'm leaving it to the one who knows everything, we can't do anything anyway, least we drag them to the cross kicking and screaming, what use is that. Would be impossible anyway.

Bonnie_girl
you touched a raw nerve with what you said over the beers at the BBQ.
my husband gets a Sunday paper ordered each Sunday in a shop I pass going to church, I refuse to go in and get it, because it's Sunday, I'm not rigerous with do's and dont's, but I do believe there are 6 days in the week to do all these things and Sunday is for worshipping, now I know you can't get a Sunday paper on another day of the week, am I wrong in my refusal to get this for him?
Am I showing him a wrong side of Jesus?
I would just like to know your opinion.

Pray Pray and pray and let the Lord have His way.
rest secure in His plans.

 

[cakrw]

Hello, I am new here and this thread is the very one I have been looking for. Praise the Lord. I am so happy I found ya'll....Yea you guessed it my husband and I aren't on the same page when it comes to church and Jesus. We have three children ages 11, 9, and 7. Two boys and a girl. I am trying my hardest to teach our children about Jesus. Not to give in to peer pressure and say bad words, not to be like all the other kids but to be little soldiers of Christ. We are at our little Baptist Church everytime the doors are open, I teach childrens church and I am in charge of VBS.....my husband on the other hand has nothing to do with this part of our lives and it looks like this is how we spend most of our time. He always blames his absents on the fact that he works a lot and on Wednesday nights he goes to a friends house and they visit and drink. I am with the kids all the time..they are the only thing I do, I raising them alone most of the time and then he comes home and something goes wrong and he curses at them. Tell me I am not about to pull my hair out. And when it comes to spending private time together, I usually don't desire that time because I don't get any other stimulation with him. (conversation, prayer time, going to events with the children) I love to have conversation and he does that with his man friends when we are at Church. HELP

I know I am supposed to be submisive to him and pray for him and I do but I am not having a good time. We have seprate lives right now. He did go on a "Walk to Emmuas" which is a spirtual retreat not to long ago. He loved it!! Since then he quickly reverted back to his old ways.

Where do I begin, when should I say something to him? When do I tell him I want a husband not an a man living in my house?

Now thats a good way to introduce myself isn't it??

cakrw

 

[Maureen]

Dear cakrw
Welcome sister in the name of the Lord Jesus.

oh how I do understand, and how it must be so much harder for you having children, although as I say that I have my Grandson who stays at weekends with us, and he goes to church with me, I talk to him about Jesus and we pray together each night, he's 10yrs, he will always come and tell me when he over hears someone cursing, or taking the Lord's name in vain, he knows it's wrong, and I'm so thankful for this in his life.

It sometimes is my husband he'll come to me to tell on.
So although our husbands may not encourage the things of God in their lives we can, and we will have the upper hand because God is on our side, Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world.

Your life resembles mine, my husband will go to church on Sunday evening sometimes a Thurs night too, but no sooner is he out the door and it's snatched up by the prince of the air, satan himself.
He is no nearer the cross of Jesus than when he first started going, as he loves to get to the pub and stays all night.

He is just a hypocrite, and out of the same mouth comes praise and cursing.
He is really blaspheming God, and it's been on going for nearly 2 years.
If it'd been a short time, I could say he's hearing and contemplating perahaps, but no, he's heard the blood of Jesus being pleaded and still he wants to hang unto his sin.

I'm afraid cakrw I'm not much use of an encouragement, I need some of that myself.
I've even enquired of Jesus will he be saved, or is he always going to serve satan.
But it's only patience will get us through, easy said, I know, I'll post this little article for you called the Artist, it helped me greatly just today.
I think you too will get much from it.

Stay around here, it's a great place to come, great help and the spiritual help is uplifting, please stay cakrw, we can support each other.

 

[Maureen]

THE ARTIST [/B]

By Billy Dickson

In the days before film; Carvings, drawings, needlework
And paintings were very important.
Today they are used as evidence as to the different ways
People lived. They show what kind of clothes they wore,
What they had to eat, and many more things about how
They lived. It is good that people in the past left so many
Things for us to discover about how they lived.
We do not necessarily have to make a sculpture or paint
A picture to be an artist. We can, by the way we live our
Lives, shape the lives of others. Although they may not be
Seen as a sculpture or a painting, their lives will have been
Sculptured by you.
To be a real people artist we must train at the feet of the
Master, the Lord Jesus Christ who, if we give our lives into
His hands, He will shape us to His glory, and then, we in
Return will shape the lives of others. Behold, as the day is in the potter’s hand, so are ye in mine
Hand… Jeremiah 18 v 6

 

[cakrw]

:happy:Maureen, I am so thankful for your post!! I loved "The Artist" as well. When you quoted"Greater is He that is in me than he that is in the World" a light bulb went off. That is right. I should stand firm in my beliefs and wait on God. I just wonder sometimes..Does my husband even like me anymore? I use to be just like him. I loved to drink beer with friends and visit just like every one else. Something happened to me, I cant' put my finger on it but even if I tried Ii wouldn't be able to go back to my old life. I feel like such an outsider around here. Please tell me if it sounds like I am throwing myself a pity party because that is not my intent...I just need to sound off a little. I am for the most part a very happy lady, I just have the wrong state of mind when it comes to my husband. I want so badly for him to be a part of my life. I just have to stay focused. I miss him and love him so much. I will tell you the story about him another time.

I will keep coming to this thread, I am hoping we can learn things from one another. I am sure you can teach me a lot. I have always known God, I prayed the prayer when I was 13 years old. But it was until recentally that I believe God knows me. I feel like now I am really saved.....He has a huge purpose for my life and I can hardly wait for him to show me what it is. I have been covered by his grace forever and I never knew it until recentally. There have been at least three occasions where I should have died but My Father saved me. Glory to God!! Sometimes I feel like I am going to burst I am so excited. I don't know the Bible like many of you who post here do, I do study but for the strangest reason I can't remember scripture very well. I just look it up...thats ok wiith me..

I live in a very small town and I feel like it is a mission field all around me!! I just know the Lord has a plan to use me here. I will keep you posted. See how I am going on and on and on...I love to talk about JESUS. I am just sad that our love's of our lives don't feel the way we feel..

Until the morning my Sister:girl_hug: I must rest for the night...cakrw

 

[jiggyfly]

Hi.
In Acts 16 v 31 it says - 'believe inthe Lord Jesus and you will be saved - you and your household'

I am born again - my husband is not

Will he be saved?

It also says in 1 Peter 2 v 1 - Wives in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that if any of them do not believe the work they may be won over without words....

I pray for God to touch my husband's heart and that he will be saved in God's time but sometimes I get confused by these two scriptures

Yes, your husband will be saved Chellebird.

 

[Maureen]

:happy:Maureen, I am so thankful for your post!! I loved "The Artist" as well. When you quoted"Greater is He that is in me than he that is in the World" a light bulb went off. That is right. I should stand firm in my beliefs and wait on God. I just wonder sometimes..Does my husband even like me anymore? I use to be just like him. I loved to drink beer with friends and visit just like every one else. Something happened to me, I cant' put my finger on it but even if I tried Ii wouldn't be able to go back to my old life. I feel like such an outsider around here. Please tell me if it sounds like I am throwing myself a pity party because that is not my intent...I just need to sound off a little. I am for the most part a very happy lady, I just have the wrong state of mind when it comes to my husband. I want so badly for him to be a part of my life. I just have to stay focused. I miss him and love him so much. I will tell you the story about him another time.

I will keep coming to this thread, I am hoping we can learn things from one another. I am sure you can teach me a lot. I have always known God, I prayed the prayer when I was 13 years old. But it was until recentally that I believe God knows me. I feel like now I am really saved.....He has a huge purpose for my life and I can hardly wait for him to show me what it is. I have been covered by his grace forever and I never knew it until recentally. There have been at least three occasions where I should have died but My Father saved me. Glory to God!! Sometimes I feel like I am going to burst I am so excited. I don't know the Bible like many of you who post here do, I do study but for the strangest reason I can't remember scripture very well. I just look it up...thats ok wiith me..

I live in a very small town and I feel like it is a mission field all around me!! I just know the Lord has a plan to use me here. I will keep you posted. See how I am going on and on and on...I love to talk about JESUS. I am just sad that our love's of our lives don't feel the way we feel..

Until the morning my Sister:girl_hug: I must rest for the night...cakrw

oh my so much in common, that 'Artist' spoke volumes to me, so I'm praying that I may mould my husband in the mould Jesus has me, I cannot do it in my strength, but at least I don't have to do
anything, the Lord will.

Take comfort in the fact that you are teaching your children God's way, otherwise how would they learn only for you, you are a big important Mum in their lives and the Lord will use you.

I too accompanied my husband to bars etc, before I was saved, then all that died a death and my new life emerged. Hallelujah.

We live 2 differant lives also, I would try and get a word here and there to him, but since reading that 'Artist' I'm going to let my life that the Lord Jesus sets forth for me speak instead of my mouth.

I always try to keep at the forefront of my mind, 'A soft answer turneth away wrath, but grievious words stir up anger' Proverbs 15 v 1
I quote that scripture because my husband would come home very drunk sometimes and just try to start an argument, I find this scripture helps me so very much.

I too find scripture a little hard to memorize, but when you hear it read it's as if the words are imprinted inside without your knowledge of them already being in there.
I find that happens a lot. Don't be too concerned.

I'm looking forward to your story about your husband as you've mentioned above, if I were to write mine it would be a book but not a bestseller.

I'm happy your going to stay around, we are a great family of Jesus here, we all love Him He is the soul purpose of this place and I pray He is pleased with our speaking of Him.

Dear Lord our husbands are so far away from your lovely self, what a shame they are missing out on so much, so much that you give and satisfy us with, Lord we understand that only in your time will they come to your cross, may we ask that you would touch their lives with your hand of faith, faith enough to believe in you, faith enough to repent and receive you free salvation. You died for us all, them also, hear this our prayer Lord Jesus. Amen.

 

[cakrw]

(When two or more are gathered in My Name) I can't find that scripture but I know it true, we are two now and we will pray in Jesus name that he will soften our husbands hearts and open their eyes to him. Live a beautiful life and stop walking around dead. We love our husband o Lord and we thank you for them everyday. We need your help Father, I pray you will show us the way to act and give us the words so that Our husands will see you in us everytime they look at us..In Jesus name.. I love you so much and I pray you will help me have the strength to teach my children and show my husband just how beautiful you are, I pray for our husbands saftey today Father and I pray that you will reveal yourself In Jesus Name..Amen

Maureen, sit down because something wonderful is going to happen today I know it. My Mom has been chosen for a jury member in a murder trial. So keep her in your prayers today. She said a horrible spirit showed up in the court room as soon as the trial started. I prayed for her off and on all day yesterday. She is praying the whole time she is in there..She is covered by the Blood....Praise the Lord

Anyway last night at church we watched a video of a guy with cerbrall palsy preach and talk about over coming. His name is David Ring. I think he is on the internet somewhere if you want to look him up. His sermon was about taking the time to give the last invetation. People are so busy these days, so I am going to try so much harder. As a matter of fact I have a good friend with a worse case of cerebral palsy and she is in a wheel chair. Before we saw the video last night I asked her if she wanted to go to this retreat in November. She has been wanting to go for a long time but I don't think anyone has offered to take her. I told her I would go and take care of her if she would let me. Glory to God. She will be a lot of work. She is very crippled, I know it was God that told me to ask her. Isn't he wonderful!!! Unfortuanlly I could sit here all day and Talk about how Awsome our Father is but there is laundry to be done. Surely there will be other ways for me to serve in my future besides just laundrySo I am off my Sister in Ireland??? Wow have you ever been to the USA?

 

[Maureen]

I have never been, I have a cousins in Alabama, but thats south isn't it?
Just like here, I live in the North, not the South, oh that's a whole ball game on it's own.

I have cousins in Canada, Ontario and Calgary, cousin in Australia and some spread over England.

My cousin from Canada is returning here to live this summer, praise God, she is saved and we have great fellowship together, she came back last year for several months it was a great time we had.
I really missed her though when she returned to Canada, was like loosing a sister, well she is in the Lord Jesus.

We had a talk last night on the 'Signs of the Times', the Lord's second coming, I was entralled, on the edge of my seat, it felt as if Jesus could just burst the church door at any given minute it was so intense.
Such information the speaker brought out and related it all to the bible, 'as in Noah's day so shall it be'
Matt 24 v 37
But as the days of Noah were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be.

everything was so relevant.

Genesis 6 v5
And God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.
Genesis 6v 11/12
11The earth also was corrupt before God, and the earth was filled with violence.
12And God looked upon the earth, and, behold, it was corrupt; for all flesh had corrupted his way upon the earth.
Couldn't this be just said of today's world?

It was said that the Lord is waiting at the threshold, how exciting is that?


Back tonight for more, Hallelujah.

Don't be hanging yourself out to dry with that washing cakrw
I know sometimes we feel as if we've been hung out to dry, especially with unsaved husbands, it's very draining on emotions.
Isn't it as well we have Jesus, the burden bearer, else wise how would we get through, certainly not at all.
Praise your Holy name Lord Jesus.
The lifter of our heads.

 

[mounty]

i pray each and every day ,my family would find their way to Christ, and there are times i feel so desperate about it, but i know God is good and i pray one day they will embrace Christ as there saviour.

Hard yes but worth the wait for the day my family are reborn.

God Bless and Much Love xoxoxoxoxoxo

 

[cakrw]

Good Morning Sisters and Brothers, today is a good day!! Today is the day the Lord made..Be glad and rejoice!!!Glory to God Almighty The best thing about me is I feel like this most everyday. I have a child home today and two of them have gone on a school trip. Yesterday I heard one of my boys saying something I really didn't approve of. I wasn't cursing, but it was something kids say and it sounds awful. I told him once not to say it anymore, and then I caught him saying a different version of the same thing. I blew my top, but I went about it the wrong way...instead of explaining what everything I really scolded him with no explanation. When he gets home today from school I will have a talk with all of them.

What scriptures can I refer to regarding ugly words??? Any suggestions?

 

[Maureen]

Romans 3 v 14
Whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness
Hebrews 6 v 8
But that which beareth thorns and briers is rejected, and is nigh unto cursing; whose end is to be burned.
James 3 v 10
Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.
Psalm 19 v 7His mouth is full of cursing and deceit and fraud: under his tongue is mischief and vanity.

cakrw
trying to keep it simple seeing as it's your child your dealing with.
We are none of us perfect, the Lord surely knows and understands that, we all have the 'tongue' problem, he's not his on his own.
We need to walk closer with Jesus, be like minded, which must be hard for a child to comprehend. I know you'll explain it well sis.
Lordbless your words.

 

[Maureen]

Here is a commentary on the subject of our tongue.

The apostle blesses God for his special benefits through Christ.

We are taught to dread an unruly tongue, as one of the greatest evils. The affairs of mankind are thrown into confusion by the tongues of men. Every age of the world, and every condition of life, private or public, affords examples of this. Hell has more to do in promoting the fire of the tongue than men generally think; and whenever men's tongues are employed in sinful ways, they are set on fire of hell. No man can tame the tongue without Divine grace and assistance.

The apostle does not represent it as impossible, but as extremely difficult. Other sins decay with age, this many times gets worse; we grow more froward and fretful, as natural strength decays, and the days come on in which we have no pleasure. When other sins are tamed and subdued by the infirmities of age, the spirit often grows more tart, nature being drawn down to the dregs, and the words used become more passionate. That man's tongue confutes itself, which at one time pretends to adore the perfections of God, and to refer all things to him; and at another time condemns even good men, if they do not use the same words and expressions.

True religion will not admit of contradictions: how many sins would be prevented, if men would always be consistent! Pious and edifying language is the genuine produce of a sanctified heart; and none who understand Christianity, expect to hear curses, lies, boastings, and revilings from a true believer's mouth, any more than they look for the fruit of one tree from another. But facts prove that more professors succeed in bridling their senses and appetites, than in duly restraining their tongues.

Then, depending on Divine grace, let us take heed to bless and curse not; and let us aim to be consistent in our words and actions. (Jam 3:13-18)


Don't know if it's any help to you, but read it and thought of you sis.