A real good friend of mine is in the middle of a huge struggle. I don't know the complete story because she doesn't want to open up much but basically she had a baby that was premature and after i think 4 months of being in the hospital, the baby unfortunately passed away. My friend is angry at God for taking her baby away from her. She says that she can't believe that there are woman who don't even want their children and they throw them in trash cans or lock them in closets. She cries, "How could God take my baby when I really wanted him, I would really take care of him, and yet others who dont' care get to keep their baby." She doesn't understand why. Now me being a guy, I have difficulty in trying to relate to her. I sympathize with her but I really don't know what to tell her other than go to God. But how is she going to do that if she's angry with Him. She wants to though, she is seeking Him out but she doesn't let herself go completely to Him because of the previous events. Please, if there is anyone out there who has gone through something like this or has advice please share. I don't want my friend forever run away angry and sad. She needs God more than ever now.
She's looking for God, but she's angry with Him...
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I'm sorry for your friend. I can't imagine the pain.
Maybe you can share this with her when the time is right:
2 Samuel 14:14
Like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be recovered, so we must die. But God does not take away life; instead, he devises ways so that a banished person may not remain estranged from him.
She should also be free to express herself to Him.. even in anger.
People grieve in different ways, and are primarily acting on emotions, not thought out conclusions.
He understands. He knows what she's going through.
God bless you brother Protege with wisdom in this situation,
Marco
Maybe you can share this with her when the time is right:
2 Samuel 14:14
Like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be recovered, so we must die. But God does not take away life; instead, he devises ways so that a banished person may not remain estranged from him.
She should also be free to express herself to Him.. even in anger.
People grieve in different ways, and are primarily acting on emotions, not thought out conclusions.
He understands. He knows what she's going through.
God bless you brother Protege with wisdom in this situation,
Marco
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I am a woman, but I can't possibly under stand that...for I have yet to be pregnant.
This woman has a right to grieve...like anyone does. She carried that baby in her womb for months and then it dies.
I can't get my mind wrapped around that. Love her like Jesus...
Here are some Casting Crowns lyrics I think deal some with this issue.
The gifts lie in wait, in a room painted blue
Little blessing from Heaven would be there soon
Hope fades in the night, blue skies turn to grey
As the little one slips away
You’re holding their hand, you’re straining for words
You’re trying to make sense of it all
They’re desperate for hope, darkness clouding their view
They’re looking to you
Just love them like Jesus, carry them to Him
His yoke is easy, His burden is light
You don’t need the answers to all of life’s questions
Just know that He loves them and stay by their side
Love them like Jesus
Pray, my brother. Pray.
Oh Father God, Knower of all things, You see this weeping, angry woman...this mother. I pray and ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and give her peace, comfort, support, a time of grieve. You above all have the answers for her. Help her friend here to show Your love to her. Give us wisdom to speak and how to pray, Lord Jesus. I place her in Your hands now, Father. In Jesus' mighty name, Amen.
There are times in the Bible that deal with death and things like this. I can't remember where right now, but God will show you.
I will continue to pray.
Blessings,
G4G (Jen)
This woman has a right to grieve...like anyone does. She carried that baby in her womb for months and then it dies.
I can't get my mind wrapped around that. Love her like Jesus...
Here are some Casting Crowns lyrics I think deal some with this issue.
The gifts lie in wait, in a room painted blue
Little blessing from Heaven would be there soon
Hope fades in the night, blue skies turn to grey
As the little one slips away
You’re holding their hand, you’re straining for words
You’re trying to make sense of it all
They’re desperate for hope, darkness clouding their view
They’re looking to you
Just love them like Jesus, carry them to Him
His yoke is easy, His burden is light
You don’t need the answers to all of life’s questions
Just know that He loves them and stay by their side
Love them like Jesus
Pray, my brother. Pray.
Oh Father God, Knower of all things, You see this weeping, angry woman...this mother. I pray and ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and give her peace, comfort, support, a time of grieve. You above all have the answers for her. Help her friend here to show Your love to her. Give us wisdom to speak and how to pray, Lord Jesus. I place her in Your hands now, Father. In Jesus' mighty name, Amen.
There are times in the Bible that deal with death and things like this. I can't remember where right now, but God will show you.
I will continue to pray.
Blessings,
G4G (Jen)
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Pray and talk to her.
Its important that you realize she is in real deep pain...
We cant imagine what she is going through...but always remember that God does.
We can comfort her with words but Jesus arms will secure her.
Be gentle and share some passages to her.
By faith.
Hebrews 11:39
And all these, though commended through their faith, did not receive what was promised,
40 since God had provided something better for us, that apart from us they should not be made perfect.
Everything happens for a reason, we have to constantly trust.
Hebrews 11 is one of my favie...
when i dont understand things that had been going through my life.
God have greater plans Im more than sure in the right time God will give her the baby she wanted.
As for now. Help her trust and have greater faith.
God is at work.
Its important that you realize she is in real deep pain...
We cant imagine what she is going through...but always remember that God does.
We can comfort her with words but Jesus arms will secure her.
Be gentle and share some passages to her.
By faith.
Hebrews 11:39
And all these, though commended through their faith, did not receive what was promised,
40 since God had provided something better for us, that apart from us they should not be made perfect.
Everything happens for a reason, we have to constantly trust.
Hebrews 11 is one of my favie...
when i dont understand things that had been going through my life.
God have greater plans Im more than sure in the right time God will give her the baby she wanted.
As for now. Help her trust and have greater faith.
God is at work.
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Losing someone you love is traumatic. Losing your child brings you to your knees. Children bring out the "mother" in us. It allows for a nurturing nature to be expressed which could not otherwise be done. Children create a sense of being loved. A sense of being wanted. It satisfies the heart like nothing else in this world can do.
Your friend has lost a part of herself. Her baby had her genes. her baby perhaps had her eyes. Her personality and characteristics were birthed in that child. Despite being separate, they were bonded as one. I honestly don't know of any greater loss.
All you can do for this girl is be there for her. Allow her to grieve. Allow her to rant. And just listen. Let her know that through all of this, Jesus loves her. You're loving her with His love; being there for her will help her find her way to Him.
Your friend has lost a part of herself. Her baby had her genes. her baby perhaps had her eyes. Her personality and characteristics were birthed in that child. Despite being separate, they were bonded as one. I honestly don't know of any greater loss.
All you can do for this girl is be there for her. Allow her to grieve. Allow her to rant. And just listen. Let her know that through all of this, Jesus loves her. You're loving her with His love; being there for her will help her find her way to Him.
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Tragic events are always hard to comprehend and there is often no apparent reason. The Lord is merciful and understands the pain your friend is going through you see His Son died too. Your friends baby is no more lost to here in the eternal scheme of things than His was to Him yet the separation is really painful.
I am praying God's peace and comfort for your friend.
Many blessings in His Name, your brother Larry.
I am praying God's peace and comfort for your friend.
Many blessings in His Name, your brother Larry.
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These are from "Our Daily Bread". Hope they help.
Psalm 139:6
By God's design we have a specific number of days to live and then He lovingly calls us home to our eternal reward. The death of those close to us can rob us of our trust in Him - taking with it our reason for living. She may not understand, but she still must trust God as she awaits the reunion He has planned for them.
Job 40:2
This side of heaven, we may not find answers for our desperate questions of "why did this happen?" and "why me?" But she can rest in the truth that God is in control and that He loves her. It is God's word that encourages us to continue in our faith and it is He that is able to strengthen her until the end of our days. So, let her know to keep walking and trusting in Him.
Romans 5:1-5
A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor can we be perfected without trial. Under God's wise control, everything that happens to us - whether pleasurable or painful - is designed to develop Christ-like character.
2 Corinthians 1:1-7
Jesus can use her emotional pain to help heal others. His spiritual healing can help her provide comfort to another dealing with the same type of situation. Jesus can reach beyond her tears and touch the deep hurts of her heart. His comfort can carry her through the struggles she experiences in her life.
God is all-powerful. He is indeed able to deliver us from all our problems. But does He always deliver us from our difficulties? No. Your friend may not understand God's purpose in her difficulty and suffering, but she must not cease to love Him. She must trust Him and hope in Him in spite of the trials that threaten to overwhelm her.
Lamentations 3:1-9
The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears. Tears are a natural part of a Christian's life. But one day, God will wipe them all away.
Psalm 31:12
Wholeness always comes after brokenness. Man's disappointments are often God's appointments and the things we believe are tragedies may be the very opportunities through which God chooses to reveal His love and grace. The best things that come to us are not those that come from us having our own way, but by letting God have His way. Though the way of testing and trial and sorrow often seems hard and cruel, it is the way of God's love and in the end will be best for us.
Exodus 6:1-9
There are times when our hurts and fears can close our ears to the hopeful words of God. But the Lord doesn't stop speaking to us when it's hard for us to hear. He continues working on our behalf just as He did in delivering His people from Egypt. Even when she doesn't sense God's presence, His loving care is all around her.
1 Peter 5:6-10
Today's burdens can strengthen us for tomorrow. Whatever the burden or suffering she is experiencing, God will use it to perfect, establish, strengthen and settle her. They can make her stronger, more patient, more courageous, more gentle and more loving than she could be otherwise.
Psalm 47:98 - He is sovereign. Look up.
1 John 4:9-10 - He loves her.
Matthew 6:26 - He considers her special.
James 1:2-4 - There is a purpose for her trials.
Psalm 6:9 - He hears.
Psalm 139:6
By God's design we have a specific number of days to live and then He lovingly calls us home to our eternal reward. The death of those close to us can rob us of our trust in Him - taking with it our reason for living. She may not understand, but she still must trust God as she awaits the reunion He has planned for them.
Job 40:2
This side of heaven, we may not find answers for our desperate questions of "why did this happen?" and "why me?" But she can rest in the truth that God is in control and that He loves her. It is God's word that encourages us to continue in our faith and it is He that is able to strengthen her until the end of our days. So, let her know to keep walking and trusting in Him.
Romans 5:1-5
A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor can we be perfected without trial. Under God's wise control, everything that happens to us - whether pleasurable or painful - is designed to develop Christ-like character.
2 Corinthians 1:1-7
Jesus can use her emotional pain to help heal others. His spiritual healing can help her provide comfort to another dealing with the same type of situation. Jesus can reach beyond her tears and touch the deep hurts of her heart. His comfort can carry her through the struggles she experiences in her life.
God is all-powerful. He is indeed able to deliver us from all our problems. But does He always deliver us from our difficulties? No. Your friend may not understand God's purpose in her difficulty and suffering, but she must not cease to love Him. She must trust Him and hope in Him in spite of the trials that threaten to overwhelm her.
Lamentations 3:1-9
The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears. Tears are a natural part of a Christian's life. But one day, God will wipe them all away.
Psalm 31:12
Wholeness always comes after brokenness. Man's disappointments are often God's appointments and the things we believe are tragedies may be the very opportunities through which God chooses to reveal His love and grace. The best things that come to us are not those that come from us having our own way, but by letting God have His way. Though the way of testing and trial and sorrow often seems hard and cruel, it is the way of God's love and in the end will be best for us.
Exodus 6:1-9
There are times when our hurts and fears can close our ears to the hopeful words of God. But the Lord doesn't stop speaking to us when it's hard for us to hear. He continues working on our behalf just as He did in delivering His people from Egypt. Even when she doesn't sense God's presence, His loving care is all around her.
1 Peter 5:6-10
Today's burdens can strengthen us for tomorrow. Whatever the burden or suffering she is experiencing, God will use it to perfect, establish, strengthen and settle her. They can make her stronger, more patient, more courageous, more gentle and more loving than she could be otherwise.
Psalm 47:98 - He is sovereign. Look up.
1 John 4:9-10 - He loves her.
Matthew 6:26 - He considers her special.
James 1:2-4 - There is a purpose for her trials.
Psalm 6:9 - He hears.
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MelechYisrael
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You're welcome. You're welcome. And you're welcome. The Lord bless you with the wisdom, love and grace to minister to your friend.
