Should I confront her?

[Property Of God]

A friend did a horrible thing to me, over and over and over and I always refused to confront her or take revenge cause I thought God is capable of changing her, now I have given up.

I'm very hurt, backstabbed and I feel stupid to have had put up with her for so long, should I confront her and tell her it hurts me? We stopped being friends so it doesn't even make sense to tell her she mistreated me, but sometimes I want to run away and not judge her, I feel it'll be low and lame to get into a chat and telling her how she destroyed me with her actions.

Isn't it better to remain silent even if she hurt me? Shouldn't I just swallow it up and move on? It' over between us and no use anymore anyway

I really don't know, I need your advice, I want to do the Christian thing, what Jesus would have done?

God bless you.

 

[Fragrant Grace]

Dear Nermeen+

It is horrible when you have been badly hurt by someone. Our human nature often wants to cry out or bite back.

As Christians we should do all things with a spirit of gentleness and love. .

Think of our dear Lord

...brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb so He opened not His mouth..... Isaiah 53:7

When Peter cut the ear off the soldier in Gethsemane, the Lord healed the ear despite knowing all the pain He would go through at the hands of the soldiers.

Give this person to the Lord in prayer. He will deal with them. Your Christian gentleness and love will speak volumes.

Let us not be weary in well doing; for in due season we shall reap if we faint not. Galatians 6:9

God bless you sister

Julia

 

[SpiritLedEd]

If God puts this girl in front of you some time in the future, step back, take a breath, see her through God's eyes, and calmly and lovingly tell her how she has hurt you. Until that happens, stop obsessing over it.

Your anger isn't doing any damage to her, but, it's destroying you. The answer to your problem is this: You are to forgive her, not once, not twice, but as many times as the offense comes to mind and regardless of how you feel about what she's done to you.

"Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, 'Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?' Jesus answered, 'I tell you, not seven times, but seventy seven times.'" (Mt 18:21-22 NIV)

"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. For man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." (Jas 1:19-20 NIV).

SLE

 

[Fragrant Grace]

Dear Nermeen

I know that I have already posted to you but I was just reading a lovely passage in 'Streams in the Desert' that may be helpful to you.

There is the story of an old man who carried a little can of oil with him everywhere he went, and if he passed through a door that squeaked, he poured a little oil on the hinges. If a gate was hard to open he oiled the latch. And thus he passed through life lubricating all hard places and making it easier for those who came after him.

People called him eccentric...and cranky; but the old man went steadily on refiling his can of oil....

There are many lives that creak and grate harshly as they live day by day. Nothing goes right with them. they need lubicating with the oil of gladness, gentleness, or thoughtfulness. Have you your own can of oil with you?....The oil of good cheer to the downhearted one - Oh how much it may mean! The word of courage to the despairing. Speak it.

Our lives touch others but once, perhaps on the road of life; then mayhap, our ways diverge, never to meet again. But

The oil of kindness has worn the sharp hard edges off many a sin hardened life and left it soft and pliable and ready for the redeeming grace of the Saviour.

So dear sister in the Lord...hold back any anger...keep hold of your oil. Maybe if you do see this person again...your oil of gladness and kindness may have worn down the harsh rough edges.

Be kindly affectioned one to another Romans 12:10

The servant of the Lord must be gentle (2 Timothy 2:24)

The Lord bless you

Julia