Someone help please...

[leggomyegg]

All right...I'm trying to get back into God, but i need an outside opinion on how to help clean up a little, well this is my story.

So I want to get close to God again as i have drifted from him over the past few months. I started Drinking, cursing A LOT, obsessed with sex, and started caring less about other people. It started first when my best friend basically stabbed me in the back and abandoned me for a girl that he liked. (This guy is one of the two people that originally led me to Christ.) The other person that led me to God is a girl who i have fallen in love with. This girl has told me that she feels the same way towards me but on multiple occasions has dropped me to go after other guys. We're still best friends and she still says she like me but I don't believe her but I can't leave her alone, I feel like I have to be there to protect her if something goes wrong for her. Well I also started drinking, mainly Vodka. I get drunk usually atleast twice a week. And i'm afraid it's gonna get worse or i'll start using drugs to try and get a better affect...Through all of this I guess i've gone into some sort of Depression and have stopped eating (and I have thought of killing myself in different ways mostly by gun or hanging)(sorry if this is TMI). I'll eat normally one day, then not eat for the next week. My parent's don't notice because my mom works all the time and my dad is in the army and is stationed in South Korea right now for a year. Which being alone all the time led me to experiment with their alcohol cabinet. If anyone can help, Please do...P.S. I am willing to do anything, but I don't want to lose the girl...I can't imagine living without her, We've been best friends for so long, I guess i can't help it...She also led me to God so i feel really attached to her, I can't explain how much I love her even though she has used me so much before...but please can someone help me?

 

[stephen]

Hi brother, Reading your post you are great need. We do not have much info from you, but I would immediately suggest that you get into some different company. Take the girl with you.

I am thinking particularly of Christian company. You are going nowhere it would seem, and taken up with with the dregs. You need a complete change. You say you are a Christian and that is good to hear....but you need to get into the right company....Christian company....a good lively church....

Life is too short to be following the wrong path.

 

[Boanerges]

1. Draw near to God.
2. Draw near to God.
3. Draw near to God.
4. Take the advice given by brother Stephen. Hang out with godly folks and get yourself planted in a bible believing church where you can both learn the Word of God and fellowship with believers.
You are in my prayers my friend.

 

[Yeshualives]

All right...I'm trying to get back into God, but i need an outside opinion on how to help clean up a little, well this is my story.

So I want to get close to God again as i have drifted from him over the past few months. I started Drinking, cursing A LOT, obsessed with sex, and started caring less about other people. It started first when my best friend basically stabbed me in the back and abandoned me for a girl that he liked. (This guy is one of the two people that originally led me to Christ.) The other person that led me to God is a girl who i have fallen in love with. This girl has told me that she feels the same way towards me but on multiple occasions has dropped me to go after other guys. We're still best friends and she still says she like me but I don't believe her but I can't leave her alone, I feel like I have to be there to protect her if something goes wrong for her. Well I also started drinking, mainly Vodka. I get drunk usually atleast twice a week. And i'm afraid it's gonna get worse or i'll start using drugs to try and get a better affect...Through all of this I guess i've gone into some sort of Depression and have stopped eating (and I have thought of killing myself in different ways mostly by gun or hanging)(sorry if this is TMI). I'll eat normally one day, then not eat for the next week. My parent's don't notice because my mom works all the time and my dad is in the army and is stationed in South Korea right now for a year. Which being alone all the time led me to experiment with their alcohol cabinet. If anyone can help, Please do...P.S. I am willing to do anything, but I don't want to lose the girl...I can't imagine living without her, We've been best friends for so long, I guess i can't help it...She also led me to God so i feel really attached to her, I can't explain how much I love her even though she has used me so much before...but please can someone help me?

Hi, I agree that it really is vital that you have fellowship with mature believers where you are and most importantly, turn away from what you have been doing and draw close to the Lord and start digging into the word.

You said that the problem started after your friend 'stabbed in you back'. Do you hold any unforgiveness in your heart toward him? If so, you need to bring that to the Lord and confess your feelings and ask for forgiveness and choose to forgive your friend.

If we have unforgiveness towards people then this can open the door for the enemy. Believers can be hurt even by other believers.

Matthew 6:14-15 For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

It sounds as if you have a 'soul-tie' with the girl that you have met (where your soul cleaves). I am only just learning about soul ties - they can be Godly or ungodly. In the bible there was a Godly soul tie between David and Jonathon (soul ties aren't just between the opposite sex) and there are other examples of soul ties too - there was an ungodly soul tie between Shechem and Dinah, who he raped (he did not have Godly love for her but he lusted after her).

A believer who is more mature than I am, explained that when a person comes to know Yeshua (Jesus) as their Saviour they may come with issues that haven't been resolved and they may need healing and deliverance (because of demonic oppression) and they may have ungodly soul ties. These things can hinder their walk. Also, if a person has ungodly soul ties then my understanding is that they can experience demonic oppression through them. It is really important to 'guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life' - to choose who you spend your time with carefully, and also to choose what you spend your time doing carefullly.

A biblically based church with mature believers and elders can pray for healing/deliverance and can disciple a new person in faith.

The believer who has been helping me also advised me that we should pray for discernment every day - and if you are not sure what to do you can ask the Lord for guidance and wisdom (and trust that it will be given):-

James 1:5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

I have shared from my own experience, but get a concordance and start looking up scriptures as the Lord leads you. For example, if it was on your heart to really seek the Lord - then you may look up the word 'seek' in a concordance and find scriptures that have that word in. This will help you find God's promises to those that seek Him with a sincere heart.

God bless,

Yeshualives

 

[riverhooks]

Draw near to God is good advice. If you do so God promises "He will draw near to you". Don't mess around He knows you . The hairs on your head . Your downsitting and uprising . Understands your thoughts afar off sort of thing. Get your soul in contact with the Word of God. I am not perfect one thing I know is that the first lesson to learn after backsliding is relearning to receive the forgiveness of God. I recommend memorizing 1 John 1:7 and 1 John 1:9 repeat them to yourself if you are repentant. If not don't bother it won't work . It sounds like you've been distracted brother. Refocus on Jesus . Take His Word to you . And lay aside every weight . God is available wants you to focus on him let go of hindrances . Keep it up sort of thing.On you mostly a Vine branch sort of thing
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[TheWordIsOne]

All right...I'm trying to get back into God, but i need an outside opinion on how to help clean up a little, well this is my story.

So I want to get close to God again as i have drifted from him over the past few months. I started Drinking, cursing A LOT, obsessed with sex, and started caring less about other people. It started first when my best friend basically stabbed me in the back and abandoned me for a girl that he liked. (This guy is one of the two people that originally led me to Christ.) The other person that led me to God is a girl who i have fallen in love with. This girl has told me that she feels the same way towards me but on multiple occasions has dropped me to go after other guys. We're still best friends and she still says she like me but I don't believe her but I can't leave her alone, I feel like I have to be there to protect her if something goes wrong for her. Well I also started drinking, mainly Vodka. I get drunk usually atleast twice a week. And i'm afraid it's gonna get worse or i'll start using drugs to try and get a better affect...Through all of this I guess i've gone into some sort of Depression and have stopped eating (and I have thought of killing myself in different ways mostly by gun or hanging)(sorry if this is TMI). I'll eat normally one day, then not eat for the next week. My parent's don't notice because my mom works all the time and my dad is in the army and is stationed in South Korea right now for a year. Which being alone all the time led me to experiment with their alcohol cabinet. If anyone can help, Please do...P.S. I am willing to do anything, but I don't want to lose the girl...I can't imagine living without her, We've been best friends for so long, I guess i can't help it...She also led me to God so i feel really attached to her, I can't explain how much I love her even though she has used me so much before...but please can someone help me?

what does the word say?

A Contrite Heart

Psalm 51:17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, A broken and a contrite heart-- These, O God, You will not despise.

Psalm 34:18 The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart And saves such as have a contrite spirit.

The Publican tax collector

Luke 18:11-14 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, 'God, I thank You that I am not like other men--extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector.
I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.'
And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, 'God, be merciful to me a sinner!'
I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted."

The Centurion

Matthew 8:5-11 Now when Jesus had entered Capernaum, a centurion came to Him, pleading with Him,
saying, "Lord, my servant is lying at home paralyzed, dreadfully tormented." And Jesus said to him, "I will come and heal him."
The centurion answered and said, "Lord, I am not worthy that You should come under my roof. But only speak a word, and my servant will be healed. For I also am a man under authority, having soldiers under me, And I say to this one, 'Go,' and he goes; and to another, 'Come,' and he comes; and to my servant, 'Do this,' and he does it."
When Jesus heard it, He marveled, and said to those who followed, "Assuredly, I say to you, I have not found such great faith, not even in Israel!
And I say to you that many will come from east and west, and sit down with Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob in the kingdom of heaven.

What words can I give?

Romans 10:10-11 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth, confession is made unto salvation.
For the Scripture says, "Whoever believes in Him will not be put to shame."

1 Corinthians 13:11-When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
For now, we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Jeremiah 10:23-24 O LORD, I know the way of man is not in himself; It is not in man who walks to direct his own steps.
O LORD, correct me, but with justice; Not in Your anger, lest You bring me to nothing.

Can you forgive me, Lord?

Psalm 55:20-23 He has put forth his hands against those who were at peace with him; He has broken his covenant.
The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, But the war was in his heart; His words were softer than oil, Yet they were drawn swords.
Cast your burden on the LORD, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.
But You, O God, shall bring them down to the pit of destruction; Bloodthirsty and deceitful men shall not live out half their days, But I will trust in You.

Psalm 91:14-16 "Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him on high because he has known My name.
He shall call upon Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him and honor him.
With long life, I will satisfy him, And show him My salvation."

Can you forgive Lord?

Isaiah 55:1-3 Ho! Everyone who thirsts, Come to the waters; And you who have no money, Come, buy and eat. Yes, come, buy wine and milk Without money and without price.
Why do you spend money for what is not bread, And your wages for what does not satisfy? Listen carefully to Me, and eat what is good, And let your soul delight itself in abundance.
Incline your ear, and come to Me. Hear, and your soul shall live; And I will make an everlasting covenant with you-- The sure mercies of David.

Isaiah 55:6-7 Seek the LORD while He may be found, Call upon Him while He is near.
Let the wicked forsake his way, And the unrighteous man his thoughts; Let him return to the LORD, And He will have mercy on him; And to our God, For He will abundantly pardon.

Revelation 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come into him and dine with him, and he with Me.

Thank you, Lord

Psalm 34:19 Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the LORD delivers him out of them all.

Romans 8:27-28 Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is because He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God.
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

Romans 8:1-2 There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death.

Psalm 103:11-12 For as the heavens are high above the earth, So great is His mercy toward those who fear Him;
As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us.