Sorry if this is the right place, but I'm new

[Lilycat]

Hi, I apologise if my English is bad to start. It is not my first language. I needed place to talk about something and was shown this place by a friend. I never really looked much at this religion stuff before, but it helped them so they thought it could help me too.

I have just broken up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago and I've been very worried about him still, we had been together for about 3 years and I thought it was going really well. Like I didn't think it would be long before we would be married. But then a few months ago he had started getting weird, like would want to go do stuff alone instead of watching a movie or going out for dinner. This went for a while and I felt him becoming more distant and I became worried, then I found some weird things in his car one time we were coming home from a picnic. He had a dress I didn't recognise and a headband with cat ears. I felt my heart sink a bit when I found them, but I trusted him so didn't want to jump to conclusion and think he had been going with someone else. It bothered me so I asked him about it and every time he just said to not worry about it. So I tried to and let it go because I trust him not to hurt me. Then a few days ago it happened again, but this time I found women's underwear instead. I asked him again about it and again he said not to worry, but I kept asking because I wanted to know... so he told me.

He said they were his and after a while admitted he liked to wear them and meet with other people he said were like furry, I don't know what it means. But from asking him it sounded like they wanted to do really bad things with animals... Things he had also been doing with those guys... I feel like he got tired of me, but it also hurts to think he didn't replace me with another girl but with guys dressed like animals...

I just don't know what I should do, I still love him...

Edit: Sorry I messed up title it should be "sorry if this isn't the right place"

 

[Thiscrosshurts]

Proverbs 19:22 What a man desires is unfailing love.

People can get caught up in very strange behaviour by seeking acceptance while suffering from a fear of rejection.
Those caught up in deviant behaviour that is unacceptable to society find comfort only through those others who they feel understand them
and therefore will not judge them.It starts when we have an emotion or feeling we don't comprehend that seems somewhat disturbing but interesting.If we dwell on this feeling and we feel it is wrong it can cause guilt.
When we feel guilty about how we feel it can cause fear that no one will understand us and will therefore reject us,so we seek out those who we think might understand.Those who share the same guilt or shame will understand.
So rather than share with a friend what we are ashamed of we will start moving toward those who we feel will understand.

It is not a rejection of you,but it may cause him to think that you are good and he is bad and that you could never understand him or that you deserve better.

 

[Lilycat]

I'm not sure I understand completely, but I suppose he could have been afraid of how I would view him I guess. Thank you for your kind reply.