Struggle

[Legend]

Hello Everyone,

I've struggled with something for awhile in the past, that it isn't as bad now, but there are still some things I'm not sure about. So I've struggled with same sex attraction from quite a young age. Just for some background info, the problems first began in school. I was in year 10 when this became more known to me, but I didn't really think anything of it, pretending it wasn't real or something. But in year 11 that's when I realised something wasn't right and I got quite depressed all the way through school, usually thinking of killing myself because I didn't know what to do. I prayed to be fixed of the constant torment that I was going through. However, my health started to deteriorate with all the stress/worry I kept placing on myself that I eventually knew I had to change something. So I forced myself to change my thinking away from all the negative thoughts, but now in university I just like to "forget" about this problem and found that it works best. I still struggle with it quite alot, but I just don't think of it anymore because it brings me back into having the very negative thoughts of hating myself and wanting to kill myself again.

I haven't told anyone about this, this including my parents etc. I've thought about telling them, but now I'm just considering not to do it because it will create too many problems. So I will probably just keep this a secret because I'm not sure what my parents will do/react, and I don't want them to worry. Plus, I'm just trying to minimise thinking of it anymore at all. This could be considered a bandaid solution, and not a proper answer, but I've just had enough of dealing with it.

 

[Andyindauk]

Hi Legend,

In your post, you haven't said whether you feel that you are bi or gay. If bi, no problem, just stick to the opposite sex and you won't go far wrong. You'll need to try to focus on the straight side of your sexuality and keep a lid on the other.

For the rest of my response, I'm assuming that that's not case and that you have no attraction towards the opposite sex. Firstly, let me reassure you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. It is what it is, you are what you are and everyone else will just have to deal with it. I'll go even further and say that being gay is not a sin. Therefore, please do not beat yourself up, get into depression or even think about suicide or negative thoughts like that.

That said, the Bible is quite clear, gay sex is a sin, there's no two ways about it; theologically it's not up for debate, New Testament or Old. Therefore I say to you that if you are a true believer, absolutely love God and would not want to hurt, stress or upset Him and instead your desire is to please Him, then you have to follow the Apostle Paul's advice in 1 Corinthians 7:7.

It's not going to be easy but it will be well worthwhile. The alternative is to turn your back on God and and be disobedient and rebellious. Read 1 Samuel 15:23 to find out what God thinks of that and how He treats such people. When I say not easy, what I really mean is almost impossible. You will therefore need to ask God to help you through this, ask Him to send you His Holy Spirit to live within you and turn your thoughts away from the flesh and towards Him.

God knows and appreciates that this is a massive ask of you but the reward will be immense. Just as disobedience is as the sin of witchcraft, to God obedience is indescribably wonderful to Him.

I think you should tell you parents, but maybe not yet. You need to have made a final decision for God first, be happy with it, with no wavering.

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Dear Lord God, I really feel for my brother Legend, he's found out that his sexuality is at odds with your will and therefore if he's to remain within it, he needs to put a lid on that. That will not be easy and therefore he will need your Holy Spirit working in him, giving him spiritual loving, comforting leadership in his life and above all a palpable closeness and a wonderful revelation of you God, so that he will not be turned from you.

I pray for protection from Satan, it's not beneath him to exploit these issues for his own destructive end.

Please God be all that he needs, so that he can remain your obedient loving son.

Amen.

 

[Br. Bear]

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Dear Lord God, I really feel for my brother Legend, he's found out that his sexuality is at odds with your will and therefore if he's to remain within it, he needs to put a lid on that. That will not be easy and therefore he will need your Holy Spirit working in him, giving him spiritual loving, comforting leadership in his life and above all a palpable closeness and a wonderful revelation of you God, so that he will not be turned from you.

I pray for protection from Satan, it's not beneath him to exploit these issues for his own destructive end.

Please God be all that he needs, so that he can remain your obedient loving son.

Amen.

amen