Struggling with low self esteem

[Bumblebee]

Hi everybody. My name is Whitney. I am 22 years old, 23 next month, and have never felt beautiful a day in my life. My low self esteem seems to get worse every day. I feel worthless and hopeless. But I want that to change. I want to apologize in advance if this post turns out to be a long ramble, but I have a lot to get out and I feel like God led me to this forum so I could do so. I was trying to find Bible verses about inner beauty and this website came up. God bless you all for reading this, I cannot put into words what it means to me, because all of this is very hard to type.

I have felt ugly for as long as I can remember, even when I was a little girl. I was bullied throughout all my school years, and even into college, both to my face and on Facebook (which I don't even use - I was in someone else's picture and a complete stranger who knew none of us made comments about me). I have never had a boyfriend, or even been asked out by a man. I was never even shown affection by my father, grandfather, or other male relatives. I know this is a horrible thing to think, but I feel like God messed up when He made me, or for some reason He is punishing me. Everyone around me is so gorgeous.

I cannot tell you how much I just want to feel beautiful, and for someone to treat me like I am beautiful. There are no redeeming qualities about my physical appearance. I have a horrible face. My eyes, eyebrows, nose, mouth, my entire face is ugly. The part of me that I am most self conscious about, and please bear with me because this hurts me to the bone to even talk about, are my breasts. They are deformed and hideous. The left breast never developed much, so it is basically flat, maybe an "AA" if you are being generous. The right one is a "C." I don't know why God did this to me. Breasts are supposed to be a gift we give our husbands, and I don't know how I will ever be able to have one. I have nightmares at least once a week that I found a man who would have me and he leaves me on our wedding night once he sees my chest. Every day we are flooded with pornographic media images of girls with big breasts and their cleavage hanging out, and even when I go to the gym or to the mall or to anywhere really, I am surrounded by girls with perfect bodies who have men drooling all over them. They make me feel so ugly and worthless.

I am terrified I will never have love, have a husband, or have a family. I will be 23 next month and no one has ever even shown interest in me. I don't know what to do. I feel hopeless right now, and it feels like it is getting worse every day.

I know surgery is a possible option, I say possible because it would be a long time before I could afford it, but despite everything, I don't want surgery. I want to believe that God made me this way for a reason. I tried asking a self esteem forum about this once and almost everyone just told me to get surgery, so I am praying at a place like this one, it will be different. I don't want surgery. With all my heart, I don't. I want to be able to love myself now, the way I am. I just don't know how.

Please... I need help. I need to hear opinions other than my own. Do you think a man could ever love a girl like me? Do you think anyone could ever find me beautiful, or want to marry me, have me bear his children? I feel like on the inside, I am beautiful. I am a good person. I love helping people and animals, I love giving when I can. I have never smoked, drank, done drugs, or even gotten a speeding ticket. I am kind to everyone I meet. I'm probably the most stereotypical "goody two-shoes" you can get. But no one seems to care about what I am on the inside.

I recently started at a Christian university, which has been a blessing for me in many ways, and I am hoping it will help me here, too. In two weeks I am meeting with our campus counselor, a pastor, to try and talk to him about my problems as well. I just wanted to try and reach out to my brothers and sisters here in hopes that someone here can help me, too.

Thank you so much for your help, or even just for reading. Thank you for bearing with me. It felt therapeutic just to type. Thank you, and God bless you.

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

Let me say I'm not one of the beautiful people either! Had several relationships blow up when I was left for a thinner younger man..even had one girl tell me she would go out with me if I lose 30. Lbs ..! I never fit in until I found out that I no longer was held to the worlds standard but Gods alone .i learned to laugh because I rejoice in being a child of the most high God and He made the way I was for a reason....gods word says he had plans for us before our mothers womb . They were plans for good and not bad...on e you learn of the heitage God has set for you it won't matter what others think ....my prayers are you'll find you're self worth in Christ and see how beautiful you really are .....Rev

 

[Brad Huber]

I was grieving when I read your post sister. It hurts me to know the pain you have felt. You must be VERY strong emotionally to stand up under the barrage by others and yourself on your self esteem. God gives us all gifts of some type or another, the least of them (IMO) is beauty. I felt ugly for a long time when I was younger mainly due to my peers, who treated me as uglier than they. And when I felt ugly, I projected myself as a sad sack which contributed more so to my countenance. But my mother and grandmother did hug me and kiss me and helped me feel that at least some liked me. I grew out of it in my mid twenties when I gained more self worth. I had become a believer when I was 17, and it wasnt until I had joined the military at the request of God through the Holy Spirit, and grew stronger in both muscle and emotionally, that I gained the self esteem I was short of. But it still didnt bring a godly woman my way. Now at 53, I am comfortable with my body, far from perfect, balding, but content that the Love I do have is real (my wife and the Lord). I didnt meet her till I was 45. Be patient sister, God has GOOD things in store for you.

By the way, I am guessing that if you are short in some way in physical beauty as I was, God gave you some pretty great gifts better than beauty (He did me). Find out what they are, and I bet they will be pretty cool. They also will give your self esteem a good boost. I will be praying for you sister!!

 

[Thiscrosshurts]

Welcome to the site Bumblebee(love the name).
We either chose who we would be or we did not.
If we did not choose no one has a right to be proud of thier looks.
If we did choose then those that chose an easy path are not as awesome as those who chose a harder path.

If some one loves me bacause of the way I look then do they really love me?
I would rather be loved for things I can control than things I can not.
Some people are attracted to personality and some are attracted by looks.

I pray that the Father reveal to you the love that he has for you and how beautiful you are in his eyes.

 

[Boanerges]

My friend, we are all beautiful in the Lord's eyes. He loves you so much He died for you, He loves you so much He was raised from the dead to give you new life.
Have you accepted Jesus as your Savior?
If not, it is time- He has a plan, a purpose and a future for each of us.
If so then I encourage you to read and re-read the Book of Ephesians. Study and find who you are in Christ. As we get our eyes off of ourselves and unto Him we start to get free of the mental traps that hold us back. As our image of self begins to align with His the world around us reacts differently also.
I will be praying for you.

many blessings in Jesus Name,
your brother Larry.

PS: I used to tell my children this: everyone has issues. The supermodel walking down the runway is adored by millions, people travel from all over just to take a picture: Yet, while she is walking down the runway she is thinging "my nose is to big", and "my legs are fat". Everyone has issues, you are not alone- some are just good at hiding them.

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

Wow... I can feel Gods love all over this site right now ....just want to share as a minister clown I've spent a lot of time working with special Olympics .now I am in no way triying to say you are life challenged but went to the extreme end to prove a point !! God hides His most beautiful gifts in the unseemly according to the world standards so it will remain unpolluted and pure .!!! Now is the time you are coming out of you're cocoon butterfly !!Rejoice for you have been what seemed in darkness and like you had no control over any thing but God is about to realese in you gifts and faith as never before and you're new wings of God given nature and Creation will take you further than you thought possible ...trust God and not the self image that has been youre
skin ..get in the word and see want God has called you to be in this hour and see the Hand of God at work ...as always I pray this finds you in due season Rev

 

[revbrad]

Bumblebee.......You are loved, by God and your brothers and sisters in Christ!

A real man of God will look beyond physical appearance at the real you.

I am married to someone who is over weight and who some would consider "not good looking", but to me she is beautiful because our hearts and souls connected. God brought us together.

If God's plan is for you to be married, there is a man out there who will see the real you.

I can not fully understand what you have been through and are going through, but God can. Lean on Him, draw from him.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Prov 31:30

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

Allow me to add I'm probably not much to look at my self BUT GOD .! Been married since 97 and still In love ..she was is and always be a God send when the waves of life had beat me down and I stepped out of the pulpit due to shame and fear ..I forgotten who I was in Christ and the first thing she told me was I was her husband the minister of God she had prayed for ....I proposed in 30 days ! God has some one just waiting for a heart like youres ..patience is the word .! Be still and know God is still on the throne and knows you're needs and timing to prefect his will in you're life.....A good discription of a wilderness is a place where the Shepard tends the sheep and prepares them for the journey ahead...Blessings ...Rev

 

[bduke08]

This reminded me of the country song that goes like "What if shes an angel sent here from heaven and shes, making certain you're doing your best to take the time, to help one another."

Bumblebee let me tell you that you're looks does not define you or help you find love. And do not think that because you haven't ever had a relationship, or that you are not happy with your looks that you are being punished. God gave you a gift to attract true love. There are lots of attractive people in relationships that end terribly, and they bounce around from person to person trying to make things work because they are ultimately being attracted to the wrong things about that person. Don't worry about your looks because when God finds someone for you, it will be the one who loves you forever unconditionally. Keep your head high and remember its God's judgement upon you that means more than anyone else. Grow your relationship with him because he will never fail you and loves you more than anyone else could by far.

 

[Ezra Allen]

TAKE YOUR SELF-ESTIMATE FROM GOD

Develop the picture of your worth and value from God, not from the false reflections that come out of your past.

The healing of low self-esteem really hinges on a choice you must make:

Will you listen to Satan as he employs all the lies, the distortions, the put-downs, and the hurts of your past to keep you bound by unhealthy, unchristian feelings and concepts about yourself?

Or will you receive your self-esteem from God and His Word? Here are some very important questions to ask yourself.

1. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God loves so deeply? Don’t say, “Well, I know God loves me, but I just can’t stand myself.” That’s a travesty of faith, an insult to God and His love. It is the expression of a subtly hidden resentment against your Creator. When you despise His creation, you are really saying that you don’t like the design or care much for the Designer. You are calling unclean what God calls clean. You are failing to realize how much God loves you and how much you mean to Him.

2. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God has honored so highly? “Consider the incredible love that the Father has shown us in allowing us to be called ‘children of God’” (1 John 3:1 PH). And that’s not just what we’re called. It’s what we are. “Here and now, my dear friends, we are God’s children” (v. 2 PH). Do you think that when you consider God’s son or daughter worthless or inferior, He is pleased by your so-called humility?

3. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God values so highly? How much does God value you? “In human experience it is a rare thing for one man to give his life for another, even if the latter be a good man . . . Yet the proof of God’s amazing love is this: that it was while we were sinners that Christ died for us. . . . We may hold our heads high in the light of God’s love” (Rom. 5:7–8, 11 PH). God has declared your value. You are someone whom God values so highly as to give the life of His own dear Son to redeem you.

4. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God has provided for so fully? “How much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things . . .” (Matt. 7:11). “God shall supply all your need” (Phil. 4:19). This doesn’t sound as if He wants you to be self-loathing or to feel inadequate.

5. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God has planned for so carefully? Praise be to God . . . for giving us through Christ every spiritual benefit. . . . Consider what he has done—before the foundation of the world he chose us to be, in Christ, his children, holy and blameless in his sight. He planned, in his love, that we should be adopted as his own children. (Eph. 1:3–5 PH)

6. What right have you to belittle or despise someone in whom God delights? The apostle Paul said that we are “accepted in the beloved” (Eph. 1:6). Do you remember the Father’s words at the baptism of Jesus? “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased” (Matt. 3:17). Paul gives us a daring thought: We are “in Christ.” He used this phrase some ninety times. You are in Christ, therefore you are in the Beloved. God looks at you in Christ and says to you, “You are My beloved son, you are My beloved daughter, in whom I am well pleased.” From where will you get your idea of yourself? From distortions of your childhood? From past hurts and false ideas that have been programmed into you? Or will you say, “No, I will not listen to those lies from the past any longer. I will not listen to Satan, the liar, the confuser, the blinder, who twists and distorts. I am going to listen to God’s opinion of me, and let Him reprogram me until His loving estimate of me becomes a part of my life, right down to my innermost feelings.”

Seamands, David A. (2010-11-01). Healing for Damaged Emotions (pp. 73-74). David C Cook. Kindle Edition.

 

[Ezra Allen]

Btw the Gift you give your husband is a helper.

 

[AbbysAunt]

Hello BumbleBee,

I've struggled most of my life with low self esteem so I know somewhat what you are dealing with. I too was bullied in my years at school both verbally and physically though it got better in high school there were still times I was picked on and bullied verbally.I like you have never done drugs, I don't drink or smoke..im a goody two shoes. I never had a boyfriend until reached the age of 32and that was the first time I had ever been kissed as well. That relationship turned out to be the worst thing for me because I rushed into it thinking he was my last chance for love and that I would never find love if I waited...turns out I was miserable in that relationship and ended up walking away from him because I spent more time crying than I did happy.

I've learned something in these last years of being single and I want to share that with you. What i've learned is this...you can't really love someone else until you learn to see and love yourself as God sees and loves you. He doesn't see as the world does, Our God starts with our hearts and sees the beauty that lies within us a beauty that noone can take away. Your thoughts, feelings, emotions, your heart...all these things are what God sees and He did not make a mistake when He made you, He doesn't make mistakes He creates His children and you Whitney are a beautiful woman and you are the daughter of the King of Kings creator of Heaven and earth and He loves you very much. It's often said that " it's hard to find a good christian man/woman out there in today's world", but that's because alot people aren't looking for that they are only looking for outward beauty not the entire package and what does one gain if they have someone who they classify as beautiful if that person isn't loving and caring on the inside?

I'm not what you would call beautiful either whitney. I'm average looking, wear glasses and abit over weight, but you know what God loves me and He loves you too and wants you to see the beauty He sees. The world is full of falsehoods one of them being there is such a thing as a perfect body...let me assure you there is no such thing as the perfect body. Everyone regardless of who they are has things they don't like about their bodies. When a man falls in love with a woman it shouldn't be based on how their bodies look, but it should be what is inside the heart and when a woman has a beautiful heart it radiates on the outside making her beautiful in the eyes of the man who loves her making her the total pacakage...you see the inner beauty makes the outside beauty.

You mentioned no man shows interest in you...now im not God but maybe that one man He has created for you is still looking for you and still hasn't found you yet and You are being saved for that man. Trust me it's far better to wait than to end up in a relationship with someone who treats you wrongly...Don't be discouraged whitney know that God is the ultimate match maker and if it's His will He will bring you that right man He has created for you. A real man of God will see your beauty both inside and out and love you for who you are inside which shows on your outside making you Whitney the total package. You talked about your breasts and how they were supposed to a gift to your husband...honey your gifts to your husband will be your gentlness, kindness, love, understanding, and your total commitment to Him and your marriage. You Whiteny and who you are will be the blessed gift that God gives to the right man He has choosen for you.

I want to leave you with the words that are found in Proverbs about a virtuous wife/woman

Proverbs31:10-12 Who can find a virtuous wife? for her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. you are that rare gem and your worth is far more than rubies Whitney. I encourage to go and read this passage in proverbs and keep on going till you reach the end at verse 31. God bless you Whitney and if you ever need to talk you can message me here on Talk Jesus anytime you want.

Your sister and friend in Our Lord Jesus
AA

 

[Ezra Allen]

Now something from me about Beauty.

Bumblebee, I too love that name, like a bumblebee goes from flower to flower seeking nectar we go into the word seeking milk honey meat and beauty. Little do we expect the truth to be laid out in God's own thoughts on what is Beauty. Your post reminds me of my wife and the way she use to be just a short time ago.

First let me say this. Why do men buy Porn? Because no women they know look like they do in the filth of porn. I've been addicted to it for over 20 years.

God is amazing his creations are amazing and our beauty is described within the verses of Song of Songs/Solomon.

Your neck is like the tower of David, built with elegance; on it hang a thousand shields, all of them shields of warriors. (Song of Solomon 4:4 NIV)

She has a long neck.

Your two breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies.
(Song of Solomon 4:5 NIV) We have a young sister, and her breasts are not yet grown. What shall we do for our sister for the day she is spoken for?
(Song of Solomon 8:8 NIV)


Her breasts are like 2 baby gazelles. Not yet grown? Small tiny? Not that noticeable among the field of lilies.

How beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince's daughter! Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of a craftsman's hands.
(Song of Solomon 7:1 NIV)

Jewels are usually short round stubby things not long slender items.

Your navel is a rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine. Your waist is a mound of wheat encircled by lilies.
(Song of Solomon 7:2 NIV)

Her navel is like a Goblet. Something large enough to drink from. Her waist is like a mound a hill. Not small.

Your neck is like an ivory tower. Your eyes are the pools of Heshbon by the gate of Bath Rabbim. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon looking toward Damascus.
(Song of Solomon 7:4 NIV)

She has a big nose.

So when we get done with this imagery we have a Lady with a Long neck, Long Nose, Small Breasts, Fat waist large belly button and small short stubby legs.

Add in the hair like goats running loose on the hills and the way he describes her teeth we come up with a lady who is very much like all others. Not a super model.

 

[Brighthouse]

Sister Bumblebee.I have thought and prayed a great deal before writing this,because I believe, you believe what you have said. In my youth I believed many different things,I believed I was the guardian of my own destinty. I believed that fear was greater then love,so I looked to make others sore afraid of me! Which I did. I believed that God had no care about his so called children. And I acted this way because i believed sis.WOW!! Was I ever wrong!! But it was not man or woman who showed me this,for i never trusted in either in my life. i was taught this by my earthly father. He was an ex marine in World war 2.

The only person he said one can ever trust is his own thoughts and actions. For the action that a man or woman takes in there life is based all upon there own beliefs they have for themself, it does not matter nor ever has what another may think about this either! Ah!! But sister he was wrong to!! For there is one who really does care about you,and your state of mind! He cared so very much in how we think and act,he sent his own Son Jesus to live and die, so that you, and me and all could be free from both our own mind, and body! But there is one requirment for us sis,we have to believe this! But how do we sis?

When for so many years we have always believed the bad,and never the good about God's own creation? We look to make changes in us, because we do not like what we look at in the mirror,and from what we see,our self esteem goes out, from that mirror as well.( 1 sam 16:7) We have made a mistake good sister!We have chosen to look at ourselves with our own eyes, rather then from where God himself looks at each of us from! Here is where my sister in Christ truth lies! AND!!! ONLY HERE! ( 2 cor 4:15-18!) We have no thanks, if we have no confidence,and we have no confidence, if we have no belief! Look close at verse 18 sis.

God sees past the obvious,so are his children to do the same. What can we do in all of our own power? LOL What can we change by our own thoughts? You have heard many times, the scripture in John 8:32 And the truth shall set you free,but this verse is without merit!!!! WITHOUT!!!! verse 31!!! So jesus was saying to those jews who HAD!!!! believed HIM!! IF YOU!! a condition here sis! ABIDE!!! stay in, rely on, look to,have faith in,draw oneself totaly into! in MY WORD!! Not yours,not anothers,not feeling, or emotions! THEN!!!! and only then good sister are we truly disciples!! For a disciple always follows!! If we take the lead, something will follow us sis!! ( gal 6:7-10) If we lead, we go ahead, not sure of where we will end up sis.

And from this, confusion, and sorrow follow us. For that is what we lead in. Better to follow Jesus is it not sis?? hehe It is hard work yes! It takes discipline ( 1 cor 9:23-27) You are not a slave sis!!! We make our bodies a slave! We do not allow our flesh and its feeling and emotion to run our life anymore,because dear sister we have trained our minds and bodies in a great way!!GOD'S way!! (rom 12:1-2) We do not look to others, or self any longer, because we have both found out where that leads us to! UNLESS!!! That person or self is looking unto the very Word of God for there own life,for from this, then, and only then, can they help our minds and body! Jesus and his Word are our only answer in life!( john 14:6) You see what the Word says sis?

Jesus is the way!! because he has all truth,and from his truth we now have true life!! LIFE in abiding in our Jesus! And to abide in Jesus is to abide in his Word!!For sister he is the LIVING WORD!! (John 1:1) All that we become sis,we become through belief in God's Word only! We cannot overcome through self,or by changing our outward appearence,because no matter what we ourselfs do,we always know who we are sis! Nothing can ever change this,we only use yet another mask to others to cover our true feeling is all! When we allow our Jesus to clean us up on the inside,he himself builds a new outward us! He builds our broken house sis!( matt 7:24-27) Jesus is our rock sis! The rock that does not roll! A firm foundation! ( psalms 40:1-3!!)

From this many will trust in the Lord!! That is why Jesus lives in us sis!! Not just for self!!But for all to see and become changed as you are by him! We love you sister! I hope and pray you will consider these words of love to you. You are FAR!!! from ugly,you are God's Kings KID!! But to act like one, we must first learn how to become one!God's Word is our manuel for such a wonderful accomplishment! For jesus came to save those who are lost! ( matt 18:11-14) Jesus sees some are caught in a wire of life sis,he is coming to free you,will you not love a man who loves you so much?

I have sis,and no one in this world could of given me more love,more kindness, more encouragement then our Jesus did! To Jesus i say thanks! I looked to become saved in every way, except the only way sis!!( acts 4:12) JESUS!!!! It is so nice to be free!! May you be comforted and encouraged!! God bless you bumblebee! YOU ARE LOVED!!!

 

[Shiloh]

Bumblee,

I know how you feel about not feeling beautiful and struggling with self esteem. I have struggled with it most of my life as well. All I have to say is that it is hard to function in a world, which is so visual and shallow. I have always tried to focus on my talents and skills. I might not be beautiful, but I had always hoped that someone would see the "beauty inside of me" and other look the awkward and plain body, I have. I have found love a couple times (unfortunately it has never lasted) but in each one, they saw more then my looks. They saw kindness, gentlness, my joy in laughing and learning.

It is never easy when you are feeling alone. I know God made me to be perfect in his eyes, even if I am imperfect. I always believed that to one special man, I would be the most beautiful women he has ever seen, and that is the one God had set for me. I have faith in that and sometimes, just reminding myself that God loves, me helps get through the tough spots in life.

Hang in there. You are still young and there are plenty of new hobbies, new experiences and new friends to come your way. Have a little faith.

I will keep you in my prayers.

)

 

[Malkavian10th]

I know what it's like to feel ugly. I don't see myself as at the bottom of the list I see myself as I AM the bottom of the list. I've been bullied all through school also, so know what that feels like. I suffer from mental illness which doesn't make things any easier. Personally I don't see myself as much to look at and try not to look at myself as much as possible. What I do know is that Jesus didn't die for us because we're beautiful or wonderful people. He did it because He loves us. Just the way we are. I myself am 39 years old getting ready to turn 40 pretty soon and I've only ever had 1 girlfriend in my entire life, and that ended in disaster. Another interesting fact is that at almost 40 years old I'm still a virgin. I believe God made some of us different, or as I like to think of it "special" for some reason. I don't know why and I may never know. What I do know is that He has a plan and it's not to hurt or harm or cause me pain and suffering. Someday maybe I'll find someone special, but if I don't it's alright. Maybe God's plan for me is to stay single. You never know what time may bring. I know it's hard to see others who have that special someone in their life and the happiness it seems to bring them. It can be really hard to be the odd man out. But I know that when God looks at me He doesn't see me as overweight and unattractive and mentally ill. He sees me with the love of a father who sent His only son to die so that I may be with Him again someday. People may judge and some can be extremely cruel at times. When they are just remember that it's their loss. I believe most of the time even the "perfect" people have their own set of issues. Everyone has their own set of demons they have to fight. But you don't have to fight it alone. God loves us no matter what we look like. He sees the heart not the body.

 

[NicoleJ]

Bumblebee, I understand what you are going through. I have also had major issues with my body. I have experienced a lot of embarrassment and insecurity because of my chest size too (among other things). This is a fallen world we live in, and things aren't always the way God intended them to be. I am so glad to say that I don't focus on those things anymore. It's not something that I tried to do. It just happened naturally as I started focusing on Jesus. The more Jesus conscious you become, the less self-conscious you'll become. I have recently began to see myself as beautiful because I now see myself the way God sees me. When He looks at me, He sees Jesus. Jesus is my Beauty. I am beautiful because I am in Christ. Your beauty is not a natural one. Today, in prayer, I said, "Thank You Jesus for making me beautiful." Society is not our mirror, Jesus is. This isn't to say that I am still not attacked in this area and that I no longer am mindful of my body when shopping or deciding what to wear, but it really doesn't bring me down anymore.
I also had the same fears about marriage. Right now, I am okay with it even if it doesn't happen. That happened after I received a brand new revelation of what Jesus did for me on the Cross, and how much He loves me. I also know that if God wants me married, He has a man picked out who won't care that I don't have a great figure. It took me a long time to get to this place, but I had nothing to do with it. Jesus brought me here, and He will do it for you too. Keep looking to Him. Jesus is Beautiful, and because you are in Him, so are you!

 

[Eric E Stahl]

Dear Bumblebee,

If you have accepted Jesus into your heart, you are my little sister in Christ and I love you. Remember that God has chosen to give you your body. He has a purpose for you in this life.

I am old enough to be your grand pa and have seen many years of life. Most of my life I have been very fat! I tried all kinds of diets and they all worked but they don't last. I have

prayed for God to change my motabalisem (sp) but he said no. PS I can't spell either.

God blessed me with a good wife and a son and three grand kids which I love.

When I was young the girls never paid attention to me. After I found the love of my life and was in love , I must have glowed or something because then the girls did notice me and

came on to me.

So what is the point of all this? Maybe if you love you will be noticed too!

Love is a choise not a feeling. Love old people, love kids, love dogs, love the unloved in your church.

Love yourself! God loves you!

I knew a lady named Mary Baker who had a calling from God to go to Africa for missions work. In bible school she meet the love of her life they talked of marriage. The boy said he

wasn't called to missions work. Mary went to Africa alone and she never did marry. She died a few years ago after serving Jesus for a life time. Mary is going to get married to Jesus at

the marriage feast of the Lamb and so will you!

 

[Fenn]

In college I took a life drawing class. At the end of each class we would hang up our drawings and the instructor would call on a student to critique a picture on the wall, he chose the picture for us. One student was having trouble in the class. Their proportions were off, the pose was off, and it didn't really convey anything that we were supposed to be learning. Every week this student would hear how terrible their work was and I could see they just wanted to leave. Finally, it was my turn to critique. I already knew what I was going to say because I had seen these same results every week.
I said, "There is the obvious. I can see the issues you are having with form and translating what you see to paper. That can be learned. But I just wanted to tell you that your line quality is amazing. Every week I see these lines that are a beauty in themselves."
The instructor had said he was wondering if any student would notice the quality of lines or just focus on the proportions and things wrong with the drawings.

The point of that story is to show you that different people see things differently. You don't want the type of person who is focused on the wrong things anyway. I see God's view as similar to my instructor. He keeps giving His children a chance to see the right things and He is disappointed when they fail. And it is their failing.

2 Corinthians 4:16 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self his being renewed day by day


1 Samuel 16:7 But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.”


Ephesians 2:10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.


Hopefully, this can help you in some way. I will be praying for you.

 

[LadyLion]

For what it's worth, I can identify. I'm glad you found a place where you were finally able to vent and share your feelings. Know that you are not alone. God has helped me know that I am loved so I know beyond a doubt that He will do the same for you. Keep your heart open, keep faith, and you'll get there. We're all here for you!