Struggling

[mymakersdaughter]

This has been on my mind for some time but have not put it down in words, kinda keeping it to myself but need to put this out there as I am human and I struggle.
Recently God revealed some truth about a person, I followed Godly advise from my Pastor, only stuck to what he said as he is very wise and very intelliegent and has an awesome relationship with our Father. Initially I was very angry at the person only because of the deciet, when I confronted the person they denied it, came across all self righteous, claiming they had no idea what I was talking about. When the evidence was provided their tune changed as they now knew they were caught red handed. I followed the advise given me, not once have I acted without His permission that I was following His will. I backed up anything I said to that person with Scripture as that is the only truth there is; as my opinion, my judegment means absolutely nothing. Well, the sin continued secretly. Then the stuff hit the fan as the spouce found out on their own, then came to me asking me about it. I will not lie nor hide truth and this matter was to have been cleaned up a month prior so the spouce would know from the other spouce. Much to my shock the matter was not cleaned up. I confirmed the situation to the spouce. A marriage and family is effected in an aweful way.

I have been verbally abused by the one spouce, told I'm on a "high horse" that I'm only been "judging" them. Only God's word is judgement, James 5:20 is clear on our obligation when someone we know is sinning in secret. 1 Thes. 4:3-8 is also clear of our obligation in our actions and that we only face God, and when scripture is presented and the person rejects it, it is God they reject.
I feel no guilt, or shame in anything I have done but only sadness for this person. The person even attacked my own marriage.

 

[sunshine307]

Just remember this, that you have done nothing wrong. I found myself in a position not unlike yours many years ago only involving a pastor, did everything scripturally and like you I was the one attacked. It helped me to know it didn't matter what other people thought, it's what God knows that counts. Of course, human nature being what it is, will want to throw the blame elsewhere to take the bad look of themselves. There are people today nearly 20 years later who still blame me. Michele don't condemn yourself at all over this. "There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus." Stand on this verse. God will honour you for being faithful to Him.

 

[mymakersdaughter]

Thanks Bobbie, words of encouragement are needed. I feel only sadness, true sadness, my heart hurts for them.

 

[sunshine307]

Michele it will be hard for a while, but as long as you keep your eyes on the Lord and believe what He is telling you things will get easier. You are absolutely right in saying when you present them with scripture it's not you they are rejecting, but God. Strange as this may sound count it a privilege to be attacked for standing on God's Word - at least you know you are doing something right. If people didn't like what Jesus said when He was on earth they aren't going to like us either for speaking His word.

 

[Mike]

Dear Sister Michele . All that belongs to God will be upheld through the midst of the storms . All that is not Gods will be blown away by the winds . Hold on to all the Father gives to you , and may your peace be restored soon . Mike

 

[Chad]

Don't worry about nothing sister. These things are sadly common. I know about this matter as you already shared it with me because it was one of the members that needed to be dealt with for the protection and integrity of the forums. This person's deceit is great. It goes to show that me personally should only trust GOD first in all my decisions on Talk Jesus specifically.

I will pray that GOD guides you in great wisdom by the Holy Spirit. All things for Christ. Be at peace. GOD is with you. You did what is right by revealing this to the spouse.

 

[AlabasterBox]

I will keep you in my prayers.

The spouse that is in sin would rather blame you than blame themselves. That is usaully the first sign, that they don't intend on changing where they are headed. Just continue in prayer, the Lord is with you and your protector.

He will uphold you and His Word.

your sister in Christ,
Mary::girl_hug:

:rainbow:

 

[mymakersdaughter]

I truly appreciate all your kindness and words of encouragement, I just feel alone in this. My husband has been my strength and support in providing such clarity in thought on this matter and reassuring me with scripture. I praise the Lord I have such friends as you. This matter is something I daily think about and pray about. I know this individual is on a witch hunt with me and completley blaming me and badmouthing me with anyone who will listen. He accusing me of being "vindictive." Again it is only sadness I feel. Again many thanks for allowing me to unload my burden and share it with you all.

 

[Dreamer]

You did the right thing.