I would like some input from my christian brothers and sisters- I have a decision to make reguarding my sons. I don't know how to make this as short as possible but I will try. I had a past of abuse, drugs& alcohol I did, done to me- verbal abuse, mental, physical you name it. It is all over but some of the effects from it are still evident. I was in and out of my sons lives and now they have no respect for me, they don't listen most of the time and are hard to control. We have been getting family counseling (my mom and dad and I) due to it was not helping the boys and discover the problem to be between us. My mom and I have a bad relationship and she disrespects me and treats me poorly so my boys learned the same. I have had them live back and forth but now the counselors say it would be best for them to live with my parents for the structure and supervision and so I can find myself. I lost my life at 19 when I got married and had my first child they say and never had a chance to develop as a normal adult due to all of the abuse. The only thing that defines me is my children they say. I refused their suggestion and was offended. It has been a few days and I was thinking about it as I had chase down my son to come home at dark last night. My other one tells me shut up. I feel like a joke, I love my boys so much I just don't want to be alone. I know that true love is the ultimate sacrafice and letting them go would be in their best interest. They would only a block away and I would probably get them on weekends. I am doing individual counseling starting Monday to help me with my past abuse issues and help me grow. I guess I should lay this befor God, I started taking my boys to church and have been praying, I suppose I expected a sudden miracle to change things. I don't want to be a bad mom and not be there and do the things normal parents and families do but I feel I am really failing at it now. I provide for them, food, love, clothes, advice and guidance but I fail at other stuff like structure- making them do chores, stay home, following through with discipline. Any input would be appriciated
Tough decision to make-
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keep praying and keep your boys. i grew up with a loving dad and a verbally abusive mother. you say you are getting counseling now for stuff that happened growing up, why let your boys go through that too because for me personnally i think them living with your parents they would end up as adults like where you are now. april
Hi, Mchell
Even a struggling family is better than a broken one.
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Also, pray fervently for your sons, instead of worrying, for prayers avail much but worry just hurts you.
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:lightbulb If one of your sons stays out more than a few minutes past curfew, he does not get out the next night.
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Praying for you, your sons, & your parents.
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:girl_hug: Hope this helps (above + hug & sunshine).
Even a struggling family is better than a broken one.
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Also, pray fervently for your sons, instead of worrying, for prayers avail much but worry just hurts you.
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:lightbulb If one of your sons stays out more than a few minutes past curfew, he does not get out the next night.
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Praying for you, your sons, & your parents.
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:girl_hug: Hope this helps (above + hug & sunshine).
