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Tough Decisions

GmaDaisy

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My heart is breaking. I had to break up with my boyfriend because he had a drug addiction I could not live with. But I am still left with a broken heart, especially now that he has taken up with a friend of mine. I now feel broken hearted, betrayed, and the old jealousy bug is now in me. I feel very confused and like I am 'losing it'. I have prayed and given this to God, but I keep taking it back. I want to give it to God and leave it there, but I can't. I even almost left the house a bit ago to see if she was at his place. This is crazy. Please pray for me, for him, for her.
 
GmaDaisy, thought I would share with you a poem that meant a lot to me before I met and married my husband...stay focused Sister, it will be worth it!


Dear God, I prayed, all unafraid
(as we’re inclined to do),
I do not need a handsome man
but let him be like You;
I do not need one big and strong
nor yet so very tall,
nor need he be some genius,
or wealthy, Lord, at all;
but let his head be high, dear God,
and let his eye be clear,
his shoulders straight, whate’er his state,
whate’er his earthly sphere;
and let his face have character,
a ruggedness of soul,
and let his whole life show, dear God,
a singleness of goal;
then when he comes
(as he will come)
with quiet eyes aglow,
I’ll understand that he’s the man
I prayed for long ago.

(From Ruth Bell Graham’s Collected Poems
 
Dear GmaDaisy,

We are certainly creatures of habit. We give something to the Lord to take care of and we always take it back. But I would like you to encourage you not to look back. The Lord has a wonderful plan for you and you just have to trust Him.

I now feel broken hearted, betrayed, and the old jealousy bug is now in me. I feel very confused and like I am 'losing it'. I have prayed and given this to God, but I keep taking it back. I want to give it to God and leave it there, but I can't.

As I was reading you message, the following scripture came to me from Luke 9: 62. Jesus replied, "No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God. This sounds a bit harsh but if we constantly look back from where we came from, we can never go forward with Christ. So Daisy, look towards Jesus as you walk on this journey with Him and learn from Him. As for the young man & your friend, pray for them.

As for me, I will certainly pray for you all. God bless you Daisy.

Best wishes,
Snowrose
 
Thanks

You can't imagine how much better I am feeling just to know there are people from another part of the world who actually care about ME and are going to pray for ME! It is so amazing. I had the most horrible night wrestling with this and now I am feeling some relief. I really appreciate your time and everything you have shared with me. I have an appointment with a christian counselor this afternoon and I am really looking forward to it. God bless you!
 
Still wrestling

Thanks for your continued prayers, I am still wrestling with this. Been to counseling, but just getting started, will take time. In the meantime I need some peace.
 
i cant know exactly how bad you are feeling right now but just know that it wont last. especially since you have christ on your side.
i'll pray for you and for your friend: i hope she knows where he is coming from and what he made you go through.
 
I have prayed and given this to God, but I keep taking it back. I want to give it to God and leave it there, but I can't.

GmaDaisy, I know how you feel about your habit of "taking it back". There's an old Christian one-liner thats says "The problem with living sacrifices is that they keep crawling off the altar."

As a recovering Alcoholic and long time member of AA, I can tell you that your decision to leave your boyfriend is a wise one, painful as it is. Right now, his greatest love is his addiction. Neither God nor any human being comes close. He may have to get dumped by several girlfriends before he wakes up and decides to seek help.

Pray without ceasing for his healing and his salvation. Persistent prayer pays off (see Lk 18:1-9).

Spirit Led Ed (SLE)
 
Thank you so much for your input. I'm doing better at leaving this with God, please keep praying for all of us.
 
I really appreciate your thoughts and prayers. I'm learning to leave this with God and feeling better. God has a plan and I trust him to take care of me. Thanks again!
 
My heart is breaking. I had to break up with my boyfriend because he had a drug addiction I could not live with. But I am still left with a broken heart, especially now that he has taken up with a friend of mine. I now feel broken hearted, betrayed, and the old jealousy bug is now in me. I feel very confused and like I am 'losing it'. I have prayed and given this to God, but I keep taking it back. I want to give it to God and leave it there, but I can't. I even almost left the house a bit ago to see if she was at his place. This is crazy. Please pray for me, for him, for her.

ehemmm... wow!!! praise the Lord!!!

the Lord is with you sis.. You will recover soon!!!..

God bless and be strengthened always...


The Lord gave me this verse when I've been up that situation (giving up your lover for righteousness sake? uhum?? ).. hope it will give relevance in any other way..

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be filled.
Matthew 5:6


Praying for God's immeasurable love to cover and mend your heart. Amen
 
Your words have really touched my heart (kleenex please). Thank you so much for your thoughts, I will be reading them a lot.
 
New Request

Know this sounds like a soap opera, but my friend who took up with my ex has now been taken to rehab. Her husband is trying to save their family. They desperately need your prayers. Forget about praying for me, I am healing...... They need your prayers worse.
 
Now I see what you are talking about. I think you have made a very wise decision. I don't know your ages but most young men like the party life to much & place it above family. If he is already addicted you are saving yourself & any potential children, a lifetime of despair & agony.
Marry the man that you would want your children to grow up to be like & don't settle for anything less because there is a good chance that your kids will also be less too. And do not forget, once you marry you are his for life unless he has an affair on you. And for that "girl friend" you had, be happy she has him, they deserve each other.
 
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