I'm frustrated not with my faith but with the church I have gone from one to another, hoping that I could find one that share my same ideals. But living in the South its kind of hard to find a integrated church who looks beyond the box and other things, I look at other Christian face's and tell how they feel white and black when I've dated outside my race. It bothers me that they can laugh and smile in front of my face and cut me down behind my back. Its easy to great someone and tell them welcome but do you really mean it? do you really want them there? do you except them for who they are and not what they are? what makes one group of people better than the other? or am I being to harsh? not understanding? better yet asking too much of change from other people? Every Sunday when I go to church I feel scared and alone and after service ends I'm in a rush to get to my car and leave. But why should I keep going if people will never open their eyes and arms to me and other people like me, with a conviction in their heart; not to because they have to because Jesus said so? *Sigh* I rather than go to church at home watching it on tv than attend somewhere I don't feel where I belong, I'm losing hope if don't get any answers don't think I can ever go back. Its a shame we call our selfs Christians but we don't act like it to lay our imperfections down at Gods feet and be who he wants us to be.
Turning My Back
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Remember that we go to church to worship Jesus. So when you go be taken up with the Lord. Magnify His Name. Sing unto Him and bless His Name.
Forget the folks....ignore them if you must........but let the Master know and all in the building, that you are giving Him praise.
Things will change.....
Forget the folks....ignore them if you must........but let the Master know and all in the building, that you are giving Him praise.
Things will change.....
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GOD will guide you to the right place. I've heard a lot of the churches down south are amazing, large and completely moving with the Holy Spirit. Maybe in your situation its a bit different. Then again, you need to ask the Holy Spirit to show you about YOU, just to be sure there isn't something inside you making you feel this way. You just never know, and only GOD knows this better than we know ourselves.
You cannot let others cut you down to size or what have you. People are sinners, imperfect and in need of a Savior as much as you. You also need to keep in mind that those who wrong us likely have done not much different than how we've wronged others in the past. This is where we need to pray for our enemies, leaders, pastors, etc.
You cannot let others cut you down to size or what have you. People are sinners, imperfect and in need of a Savior as much as you. You also need to keep in mind that those who wrong us likely have done not much different than how we've wronged others in the past. This is where we need to pray for our enemies, leaders, pastors, etc.
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I know it probably stinks not having anybody in church to feel comfortable around but the advice i give to you is, try not to care what others think of you, i mean nobody is better than anyone else, and we know that. Humans are humans, and sadly sometimes you just have to forget about them like stephen & Chad said and remain going to church for the one reason you are going, and that is for God.
so try hard not to let others bring you down my friend, I hope for the best.
peace, love, and God bless.
- Eric
so try hard not to let others bring you down my friend, I hope for the best.
peace, love, and God bless.
- Eric
Kaibeto, you wrote a part of my life. I can relate so well to everything you said. When I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior I was serious about the way I lived for him. Oh gosh I hope I'm not going to sound holier than thou here. But after 20 years of church I grew much in the Lord through prayer and bible reading, and doing the things that Jesus said to do. Like... why do you only greet those that are your friends? Don't sinners do the same? You have to be better than the righteous. So, I would start looking for people at church that looked alone and tried to bring them into our "clicks" .. every church has those huh? And to my dismay, the ones that I though were my friends looked at me like "why you invite THAT ONE with us???". It broke my heart! Then I overheard the pastor make a secretary lie for him. I about fell over with dismay because the pastor supposed to be better than me... he supposed to be MY example. Then after church after hearing the sermon about the lost and witnessing... I go to the bathroom and everyone in there talking about stupid stuff like oh I love your hair, where did you get that dress, we are going to lunch at blah blah blah..... Oh my! didn't you just hear the sermon that people are lost in the way side?
It got so bad I cried almost every day because I cry out... Oh Lord make them look to YOU, make them see you are the Lord and worship you as such. It got so bad I didn't want to go to church any more. Toward the end all I wanted to do was participate in the worship service and go home to be spared of all the junk. Even the sermons got junky never mentioning Jesus at all except at the end of a prayer. No power... just yeast and tickly stuff for our ears and spiritualism and oh man... just junk.
So at the end, I was hurrying getting ready for Sunday service not to be late and the Lord stopped me in the middle of the living room... I mean LITERALLY stopped me in my track.... I heard his voice so clear inside me say "Why are you rushing about? I'm right here"? LOL
I love Jesus!!!!!!
It got so bad I cried almost every day because I cry out... Oh Lord make them look to YOU, make them see you are the Lord and worship you as such. It got so bad I didn't want to go to church any more. Toward the end all I wanted to do was participate in the worship service and go home to be spared of all the junk. Even the sermons got junky never mentioning Jesus at all except at the end of a prayer. No power... just yeast and tickly stuff for our ears and spiritualism and oh man... just junk.
So at the end, I was hurrying getting ready for Sunday service not to be late and the Lord stopped me in the middle of the living room... I mean LITERALLY stopped me in my track.... I heard his voice so clear inside me say "Why are you rushing about? I'm right here"? LOL
I love Jesus!!!!!!
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That is so true lilifield He is always with us. His Holy Spirit lives within us.
I love Jesus so much. My love for Him just keeps on growing especially when I visit this precious site the Lord has blessed us with.
The most important thing Jesus wants us to do is stated in the Bible.
Matthew 22:37-39
'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'[a] 38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'
God bless you
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I love Jesus so much. My love for Him just keeps on growing especially when I visit this precious site the Lord has blessed us with.
The most important thing Jesus wants us to do is stated in the Bible.
Matthew 22:37-39
'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'[a] 38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'
God bless you
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Kaibeto, I live in the south too. I'm not from here, I grew up in the Northeast. These church people can seem rather threatening. They seem to play some kind of social game here. Up north, if someone doesn't like you, they just tell you so. Down here, they wait until you leave the room or leave their group of people.
However, underneath their games they are just hurting people like you and me. I have learned to look deeper than the games and reach out to people for friendship. Once they learn that I'm just a person too (even if I am from Pennsylvania), they tend to reach back for friendship.
You sound like a very special person. I also dated outside my race several times when I was single. Very few people at my church spoke to me when I dated a black man. Some didn't mind me dating the Muslim, but they really minded it when I dated the black man. Now....how does that make sense? Were they judging on the darkness of the skin? Very ignorant.
But....as I said before, they are people too and they have hurts and needs. I am quite sure that there is a church out there for you, Kaibeto. And in that church are some friends waiting for you. They may not know it, you may not know it, but God has it planned. Keep seeking, keep praying, God has a place for you Kaibeto.
I'll be praying for you too.
However, underneath their games they are just hurting people like you and me. I have learned to look deeper than the games and reach out to people for friendship. Once they learn that I'm just a person too (even if I am from Pennsylvania), they tend to reach back for friendship.
You sound like a very special person. I also dated outside my race several times when I was single. Very few people at my church spoke to me when I dated a black man. Some didn't mind me dating the Muslim, but they really minded it when I dated the black man. Now....how does that make sense? Were they judging on the darkness of the skin? Very ignorant.
But....as I said before, they are people too and they have hurts and needs. I am quite sure that there is a church out there for you, Kaibeto. And in that church are some friends waiting for you. They may not know it, you may not know it, but God has it planned. Keep seeking, keep praying, God has a place for you Kaibeto.
I'll be praying for you too.
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