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I'm having a bit of a hard time lately. Yes, Fighting the battle, running the race, these things are normal in a Christians life but this one thing is like a Goliath to me, my sling is broken and I’m in the desert, miles away from any rock. (this is how it feels to me)
I have this tendency of bringing bad things (anger, upsetting them, exct.) out in people I discovered. I had this most of my life. The Holy Spirit opened my eyes to this. I felt that there was something still to change of myself, but I didn't know exactly what it is, but by His time, He revealed it to me.
You know me, I never mean any harm to no one on purpose, I tend to speak before I think it over and if it’s out, it’s too late. I really do hate myself for this. 80% of people in my life know this and in a way, they try to live with it but sometimes they get angry at me and at the end of the day I just feel so depressed and like a fat failure.
Then 5% if people in my life just decide not to talk to me, because of this and the other 15% loves me to bits for they look past my weakness and see the real me.
This just really beats me up, I don’t know how to handle my mouth. I’ve been praying about this for a long long time, and at times it feels like it’s just getting worse and worse. My husband understands and he is part of the 15% but sometimes I even put him on the spot before people (not even knowing what I just said) the problem is, I never realize that the words that escape my mouth at times are cruel, it may seem very cruel to some that do not know me personally but to those that do, they understand what I actually meant – I grew up in a house where my parents spoke like this, hard and cruel ways on saying things, so speaking like this is normal for me.
Oh but, I don’t know what to do. I grew up like that, it’s hard, so very hard for me to just try and change or reprogram myself. How can I do that? Yes yes, I know, time will tell. But until then, I will only make other mistakes. Sometimes I just wish I was a mute. Sign language won’t be that cruel, then again, no one will understand you.
Anyway, I don’t want you to think you’re my physiologist or something but I know you are all wise in our Lord Jesus Christ, maybe you can give me some advice on how to help this. My husband spoke to me about this last night, I felt so ashamed on hearing what I (un-knowingly) did at a barbeque we had the other day and even at our prayer group. I just want to hide somewhere underneath a rock and never crawl out again. This is a thing that must change, please this is what I want, don’t think that this is what other want. I’m tired hurting people, it’s as if I have scissors for hand or something, every time I touch someone I hurt them.
This probably sound bad to you, and yes it is at the moment. But I know the Lord will pick me up again and again, He always does.
Ps: Sorry dear Jesus about the mute thing, I cherish everything I got from You. I didn’t mean it and You probably knew that before I apologised. Thank You.
Blessings
sheep
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I'm having a bit of a hard time lately. Yes, Fighting the battle, running the race, these things are normal in a Christians life but this one thing is like a Goliath to me, my sling is broken and I’m in the desert, miles away from any rock. (this is how it feels to me)
I have this tendency of bringing bad things (anger, upsetting them, exct.) out in people I discovered. I had this most of my life. The Holy Spirit opened my eyes to this. I felt that there was something still to change of myself, but I didn't know exactly what it is, but by His time, He revealed it to me.
You know me, I never mean any harm to no one on purpose, I tend to speak before I think it over and if it’s out, it’s too late. I really do hate myself for this. 80% of people in my life know this and in a way, they try to live with it but sometimes they get angry at me and at the end of the day I just feel so depressed and like a fat failure.
Then 5% if people in my life just decide not to talk to me, because of this and the other 15% loves me to bits for they look past my weakness and see the real me.
This just really beats me up, I don’t know how to handle my mouth. I’ve been praying about this for a long long time, and at times it feels like it’s just getting worse and worse. My husband understands and he is part of the 15% but sometimes I even put him on the spot before people (not even knowing what I just said) the problem is, I never realize that the words that escape my mouth at times are cruel, it may seem very cruel to some that do not know me personally but to those that do, they understand what I actually meant – I grew up in a house where my parents spoke like this, hard and cruel ways on saying things, so speaking like this is normal for me.
Oh but, I don’t know what to do. I grew up like that, it’s hard, so very hard for me to just try and change or reprogram myself. How can I do that? Yes yes, I know, time will tell. But until then, I will only make other mistakes. Sometimes I just wish I was a mute. Sign language won’t be that cruel, then again, no one will understand you.
Anyway, I don’t want you to think you’re my physiologist or something but I know you are all wise in our Lord Jesus Christ, maybe you can give me some advice on how to help this. My husband spoke to me about this last night, I felt so ashamed on hearing what I (un-knowingly) did at a barbeque we had the other day and even at our prayer group. I just want to hide somewhere underneath a rock and never crawl out again. This is a thing that must change, please this is what I want, don’t think that this is what other want. I’m tired hurting people, it’s as if I have scissors for hand or something, every time I touch someone I hurt them.
This probably sound bad to you, and yes it is at the moment. But I know the Lord will pick me up again and again, He always does.
Ps: Sorry dear Jesus about the mute thing, I cherish everything I got from You. I didn’t mean it and You probably knew that before I apologised. Thank You.
Blessings
sheep
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