Very upset Granny in need of help

[Granny]

Lst weekend I went to my eldest grandchilds Engagement Party. She is a beautiful twenty year old with a wonderful kind personality. She was raised in a Christian home and attended our church college. She has just graduated from uni in "Dance".
Since fifteen she has had the same boyfriend. A boy (who does work) but is from the wrong side of town. He is immature and acts like a twelve year old rebel.
Like all good "grannies" I was pleasent to the boy and treated him like I did all my other grandchildren. Hoping one day Amanda would outgrow his child like attitude or he would change into a mature adult. Amanda's parents have always been making excuses for him ...his bad homelife etc etc. He did threaten them that if they objected to them living together he would be able to take Amanda away anyway. It did get the better of me when he got an eyebrow ring inserted and I tried to explain why I didn't like it and that it just was an attention seeking item that he didn't need. He sulked and within a few or so he had a lip ring.This last year he and his brother have tattoos all over them.My daughter her husband and the girls were good church going Christians... but are now slipping away from God. The Engagement Party was the straw that broke the camels back for me . My daughter spent a lot of money and made many decorations and two beautiful cakes for the party of about eighty guests. I made a nice corsarge of white orchids for her to wear. In her purple lace top she was a vision of beauty.
The boyfriend (fiance) arrived in oversized jeans hanging down to his knees with his undies showing and smelly old gym boots and a black oversizes teashirt. When Amandas father made a very nice speech ...he stood there making faces like a retarded person. I am not sure if he was on drugs or drunk buy at one stage he had his shirt off twirling it around and making funny sounds.
Amandas other grandparents left early because they just couldn't take it anymore. I have worried so much that I am now sick with headaches. I was so sick that I had to go to the doctor and get an injection yesterday. The doctor advised me to keep away from the problem and focus on good things or I could end up having a stroke.
It could only get worse as Amandas sister is now going steady with this boys brother!
I have been through many ordeals in my life...including the death of my first husband who I loved dearly...but he is in heaven now and all is well.
What about his boy.... is taking those I love into a dark satanic future and I just cannot stand by and watch this happen.
If ever I needed your prayers I need them now.

 

[lordsria]

Dearest Granny, I understand what you're going through. There is a woman at my church that is facing the same thing right now.

There really honestly isn't anything that you can say or do to them to change the situation.

But you can pray. Pray with supplication and petition. Pray for God's will over the matter and let your heart rest in Him. Worry not, He is their father as well as yours and there is no way to know if He has a plan for that family. Just pray for them.

1 Timothy 2:1 says: I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. As you make your requests, plead for God's mercy upon them, and give thanks.

Psalm 6:9 says: The LORD has heard my plea; the LORD will answer my prayer.

1 Samuel 1:17 and 27 say: 17 "In that case," Eli said, "cheer up! May the God of Israel grant the request you have asked of him." 27 I asked the LORD to give me this child, and he has given me my request.

1 John 5:15 says: And if we know he is listening when we make our requests, we can be sure that he will give us what we ask for.

And finally, Psalm 20:5 says: May we shout for joy when we hear of your victory, flying banners to honor our God. May the LORD answer all your prayers.

So give it to God in prayer and know that others are praying for you and your family as well.

By the way, have you asked this boy if he knows Jesus yet?

 

[lordsria]

Granny, I just gave this verse to someone who needed it and as I gave it, I thought of you. This verse has helped me through many hard times:

Philippians 4:4-7 says: 4 Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again – rejoice! 5 Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon. 6 Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

God's grace be with you sister.

 

[Granny]

Thank you all for your prayers

I thank you for letting me cry with you.
Lordsria... he blames his mother for taking him to church when he was a child...said he hated the "stuff". His mother became an alcohilic after she devorced his father.I am sure the problems with her rebel sons contribuated to it. She found a church then... who helped her and she does not drink anymore. She seemed very nervous but pleased her son had found such a wonderful girl. I think she must have been praying for him to get a girl like Amanda. I chatted with her and tried to make her feel comfortable. His father has remarried and has a three year old child.
When my own son was seventeen he started to go astray. This was just after his father died of lung cancer. I demanded if he did not change his ways he would not be welcome in my home until he did change his ways. Just saying this nearly killed me. He did leave home. As time went on he got a girl pregnant and married her and that was the beginning of a new life for him. I loved his little country girl wife. Today they have three children from 17 14 11 and are a model Christian family. A few years ago my son gave me the most wonderful gift any son could give a parent. He said "Mum don't ever change...Now I know what I put you through and I'm sorry and I love you for what you did"
God expects parents to set boundries so that the children will follow a path that leads safely home not to a dark and satanic tunnel.
I guess I am a little dissapointed that my daughter and son-in-law are being dragged down to those dark areas.

Once again thank you for your prayers.

Granny.

 

[HEAVENSOUND]

I will pray for her. God loves her and will help her.

 

[Chad]

Pretty tough situation just for the fact that you witness these things before your own eyes. However, GOD spoke and the world began. Nothing is tough at all for our Father, in Jesus name that we pray unto.

I will pray for you and the family. God bless you granny.

 

[Mike]

I feel you're pain inside . I have lost people in my own family to this same path . I have been saved a long time , and have heard many testimonies . The one that I have heard the most is about how the great servants of God that I have been privileged to know , and hear , would not be saved and serving God had it not been for their hard praying Granny's ! I hope you find peace . Love Brother Mike :boy_hug:

 

[Princess487]

Granny, I will pray for you and your family. I know it's hard. even though i am young, dont have my own family, but my uncles are off track. I talked to my grandmother recently and it's just so sad to see how she watches and talks about her two sons. I mean it's so painful, and i cant even understand Half of it. Well i'lll keep you in my prayers, God blessyou greatly. I love you
your sis in Christ, Tanya

 

[BelifloRvrs]

As we become older and mature spiritually we become more like little children trusting our Heavenly Father in all things and a new innocence can descend as we acknowledge that all good is from God.
We can see the rebellions of youth seeking to become independent of parents and family in the process of individuation. Young people on the verge of becoming adults rebel against the perceptions of hypocritical authority. Some sink into a hole of self-centered love and do not repent in realizations that they were led by the evil of self-centered love as the head instead of love of God and the neighbor.

I preface all this more as an object lesson for a blossoming women like Princess 487. Those raised in the way they should walk may rebel in their process of breaking away from parental authority to become self-directed individuals. But with the remains of a Christian walk embedded within, the rebel as Prodigal Son or Daughter can be turned back to the Lord and as mentioned above the renewed process can eventually lead to becoming like a little child again trusting the Lord in all things.

Now, we all pray for Granny and her grand-daughter linked to the seemingly hell-bent fiance. At this juncture, I want to also pray for the eyes of Princess 487 to be opened to the lesson of warning about becoming unequally yoked with a man not of a compatible faith. We cannot change someone walking away from the Lord, but the Lord can turn us around to face Him again. Sometimes we have to be broken to be brought back away from what has to be left behind.
Princess 487 is a young girl expressing a spirit of compassion beyond her tender years, bringing comfort to the trials of her elders, and i hope and pray that she can learn from the elders in ways that help circumvent wrong turns that usher us through temptation's negative doorways and the dire consequences of more troublesome repentance.

johnscot