Wating for the (three in) one

[Giblien]

So I don’t really know if this falls under ethics and morality, but here it goes none the less.

My situation: I am a 25 year old guy, Just got my masters degree, I am a 7th grade science teacher at a local middle school, 5'10" decent shape (I am a little husky, but not obese), decent looking, smart, good sense of humor, I have my own place, no credit problems...basically, without trying to come off as arrogant, I feel like I am a "catch" but, I am not an egomaniac (seriously). The problem is, I have been really frustrated because I have this drive to find the right girl for years, but simultaneously, I am young in my faith (I have been an "Active" Christian (Active meaning attending church, bible studies and reading the word on a daily basis) for about 9 months and a Christian in name since I was very young.) so I feel like maybe God wants me to put a romantic relationship on hold for a while.

The problem is, I get incredibly frustrated with the fact that I have been with out a decent relationship/girl in a VERY long time. I don't really feel "lonely" as much as I feel like there is something missing in my life. I have lots of good friends and I am close with my family, but I feel like a good girl is what is missing in my life.

So my question to you all is, given my current situation, what advice would you give me? Go out and be active in looking for women? Concentrate on my faith? Somewhere in between? Or something else entirely? (I have to tell you, I know that patience is a virtue, but the whole idea of waiting for God to bring the right girl into my life is incredibly frustrating because I feel like its out of my control, and I feel like I have waited long enough...even though I know that this attitude is totally arrogant, self-righteous and whiny)

Any suggestions or ideas are welcome. Thanks again all. God bless.

Neil

 

[LornaDoone]

So I don’t really know if this falls under ethics and morality, but here it goes none the less.

(I have to tell you, I know that patience is a virtue, but the whole idea of waiting for God to bring the right girl into my life is incredibly frustrating because I feel like its out of my control, and I feel like I have waited long enough...even though I know that this attitude is totally arrogant, self-righteous and whiny)

Any suggestions or ideas are welcome. Thanks again all. God bless.

Neil

The hardest thing to accept sometimes is that we are blessed with many wonderful by God - a good job, good health, close friends and family, a good brain. (To name but a few!) But it hard to recognise those blessings when it does not include the one we do not yet have, but long for.

We are all human, and all long for love. First and foremost we have Him to love us: and thats where it needs to be centred. God first, last and always.

You are, as you say, very early in your Christian walk. Maybe God wants to spend some time with you, draw you in to a close and strong relationship with Him before He blesses even more than He already has. After all, as a man who will eventually be the head of a Christian household, establishing a good solid relationship with Him would certainly be sensible.

It okay to get frustrated when what you want is a woman to love, and to love you. That human. And it okay to let off steam about it, especially when you are in the safe enviroment of fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. You not whiney, just human.

And I think it would be fair to say that everyone of us (if we being honest) occasionaly finds it hard to remember that in all things, He is in control.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 '...A threefold chord is not quickly broken.' God, man, woman. United together, led by Him, strong.

In the mean time, let God prepare you to be the husband He would want you to be.

Blessings to you Brother Neil, and the may the Peace of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit be with you today.

 

[Giblien]

After all, as a man who will eventually be the head of a Christian household, establishing a good solid relationship with Him would certainly be sensible.

That's a really good point...I hadn't even thought about it that way. Thanks a lot Lorna!:shade:

God bless.

Neil

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Re: Waiting for the (three in) one

I have two close friends (male) who are in the same boat you are in. Both are Christians who love the Lord. One is 38 years old - a relatively new believer, divorced with no children, the other will be 40 years old on the 17th - never married.

What they are learning, and I think God wants you to hear it too, is that in Exodus 20:3 ("You shall have no other Gods before me") , the phrase other gods refers to human relationships as well as non-human.

It distresses me greatly when I hear or read of someone saying that his/her spouse is the most important thing in their life. Its not that they're not supposed to love their spouse; they've got their priorities out of alignment with God's will.The proper order is God first, family second, me third. And God sometimes holds back on putting a couple together until one or both of them has the order of priorities correct according to His Word.

SLE