What can I do about me?

[all4jesus17]

Please someone help me. I don't know what to do. I feel my own thoughts and hurts are keeping me form Jesus and I can't find the victory. My whole life I've felt ugly and worthless, I'm the wall flower in my family. My younger sisters are beautfiul and strong, and I feel weak and rejected. I know God can heal, but it looks impossible right now. The years I've spent holding my head up and waiting, feels to me like a worthless lie to myself. I just want to feel loved and content like every other chrisitan. I know it's my fault for failing, but how do I erase the things in my heart I cannot reach? Shouldnt God's love be enough? Because I feel so empty. Please don't look at me awful, I can't pretend anymore that I'm ok.

 

[Boanerges]

I was sitting in church once having those same thoughts . Surely it must be something wrong with me or something I am doing to be treated so badly. That is when I heard a gentle voice in my spirit "it is not your fault" and I felt His love cover me.
It is not your fault nor your defect. It is a lie from the pit of hell designed to keep your conscience defiled so that you cannot walk in union with your Heavenly Father the way you are supposed to.
Jesus Christ new everything that you would ever do wrong and every mistake you would ever make and yet He gladly gave His life for you.
If that is true (which it is) then the following is a good way to deal with those things:
Anytime those thoughts come your way reject them. Respond with "I am a blood bought child of the Father and I am precious in His sight. I am made special and unique and who I am is who I need to be to fulfill His plan and purpose.

Press into His presence.
1. Spend time in worship and make His goodness your focus. Have faith in His strength and not faith in your weakness.
2. Spend time talking to Him. Make prayer a conversation and pour out your heart.
3.Spend time in His Word. It is our daily bread and our spirit needs this very life of God.

Socially:
The bible is the Living Word of God by which we renew our minds. Our thoughts need to change and we need to think Like Jesus in every way. We also need to change the way we associate with people if what we are doing is not working for us.
These are some things I shared with my sons about dealing with people:

Stand up tall and straight.
Look them in the eye when you are talking. This gives an impression of confidence.

Expect them to like you after all you are a nice person with plenty of good qualities. This will help you to be at ease and that in turn puts the other person at ease.

Do a lot of listening. Often one or two questions is all that is needed. Most people love to talk about themselves and if you are attentive in listening they will walk away thinking that you are a great conversationalist.

Smile. For some this is difficult to do but if needed try this; Smile at yourself in the mirror for 5 to 10 minutes a day. Soon you will find yourself smiling all the time and that illicits a good response from most people.

Practice these things and you will learn to relax as you see them working. This is a way of retraining your mind in it's reactions to social situations. There is nothing wrong with you as a person and these things (mal-adaptive thoughts) can be overcome.

All in all my friend consider that with Jesus as your Lord you cannot loose for He is indeed faithful.
Php 1:6 Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:
I will be praying for you my friend.
Many blessings in His Name,
your brother Larry.

 

[stephen]

Please someone help me. I don't know what to do. I feel my own thoughts and hurts are keeping me form Jesus and I can't find the victory. My whole life I've felt ugly and worthless, I'm the wall flower in my family. My younger sisters are beautfiul and strong, and I feel weak and rejected. I know God can heal, but it looks impossible right now. The years I've spent holding my head up and waiting, feels to me like a worthless lie to myself. I just want to feel loved and content like every other chrisitan. I know it's my fault for failing, but how do I erase the things in my heart I cannot reach? Shouldnt God's love be enough? Because I feel so empty. Please don't look at me awful, I can't pretend anymore that I'm ok.

My whole life I've felt ugly and worthless, I'm the wall flower in my family. Surely not....shake this off and forget it


My brother in Jesus Boanerges has given an excellent reply to your thread with which I wholly concur


Praying for you also.......Lord Jesus Bless our Sister at this time and open up a way for her we pray

 

[all4jesus17]

Ty so much, and I will do those things. I know I need to be more of a fighter in this, the Devil magnifys ALL of my weaknesses and I have to remember I'm strong in God. It's easier said then done but i have to try. When you put "I am made special and unique and who I am is who I need to be to fulfill His plan and purpose." that really hit home with me. I know the Lord used you to help me, ty so much.

God Bless .

 

[all4jesus17]

Ty brother for your prayers, they mean so much. I thank God for his people and the encourageing words they give me . God Bless You!

 

[Giggles4God]

Hello Melanie.

I can tell you that I felt that way. I felt ugly, worthless, guilty, empty, shame, alone, everything that God doesn't want us to feel unless it is things that are from Him...there is a 'good guilt', but what I felt was false guilt about things that didn't have anything to do with what I did, but what someone else did to me.

See, I have a testimony...like you do. I was molested by my grandfather and I thought it all was my fault and then I always was/am overweight and that made me feel ugly because people...even family would say mean and even cruel things.

So, I crawled into my little 'safe' place. Away from everything...I cried out to God...asking Him for help. Why did this happen, God? I screamed at the ceiling in my room (I was 13 at this point).

I still feel ugly sometimes...but my husband...he tells me I'm not.

And then, I read in the Bible...Psalm 139 where it says I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

God made us...all of us in His image. We were created in our mother's womb. God knew us before we were even born! wow!

I think of it like this...

We are all caterpillars at first...and then...God puts us through something...and changes and grafts us into His Vine...Jesus...and then...through that change (the cocoon) we come out...and we are a beautiful butterfly. We are a new creation.

How wonderful?

God sees you, Melanie, as His beautiful...wonderful daughter.

There is a song that I think you should hear or read the lyrics. It is a song sung in the view of Jesus to us...His Bride. It makes me cry every time I hear/read it or sing it...because I understand then How much He truly loves me.




Songwriters: Jobe, Kari; Kuehn, Klaus

You're my beloved, you're my bride
To sing over you is my delight
Come away with me my love

Under my mercy come and wait
Till we are standing face to face
I see no stain on you my child

You're beautiful to me
So beautiful to me

I sing over you my song of peace
Cast all your care down at my feet
Come and find your rest in me

I'll breathe my life inside of you
I'll bear you up on eagle's wings
And hide you in the shadow of my strength

I'll take you to my quiet waters
I'll restore your soul
Come rest in me and be made whole

You're my beloved, you're my bride
To sing over you is my delight
Come away with me my love

 

[all4jesus17]

Wow, it's incredible how we can relate. Ty so much I know the Lord had u look at my post for a reason. I'v accepted that the Lord loves me, and his mercy proves his love for me, it's just at times I wish I could love me more and accept the way he made me. As selfish as it is, I wish I could feel more special at times but I have to overcome that. Your testimony is wonderful and it shows that freedom is real. I know I'm set free from all the hurt and I claim it, I just have to keep my head up everyday and never stop claimin it.

That song was beautiful and I'll remember that song when the enemy attacks again. Ty!

Everyone on here has helped me so much. The Lord works in mysterious ways .
Bless you bless you bless you!

 

[Dreamer]

AllforJesus, (by the way, I love your username), I don't have a lot to say today as I'm going through my own ordeal. Yet, your post touched me and I am going to pray for you right now.


Father, I pray you would touch this BEAUTIFUL young lady RIGHT NOW in the holy name of our Lord and Saviour, our Redeemer and our Provider, our Healer and Deliver, JESUS.

Let her know in hundreds of way how beautiful, precious, and special she is to you and send dozens of sincere, real Christian friends to her side to help her in her walk with You. I pray this in Jesus' name, Amen.

Bless you, Melanie.

 

[all4jesus17]

Ty dreamer . I love ur name too, dream on sista! lol God bless you for praying for me, they work! lol