what can i do to help my family?

[lita]

im a mother of 2 kids, 5 and 3 years. i've been married for 6 years now. since the day that we started a family, me and my husband has comitment that he is the one who earning money, and im staying at home with the children.
my husband has own business and im helping him, eventough he is the one doing the 'real job'.we're having a financial problems right now, we've been praying and know that HE will take care of all needs .i live in indonesia and need time to deal with economic crisis.
i hv no problems with my husband,altough we have a hard live. problems are with our family. my mother in law doesnt agree that im staying at home, not working and make money, she says 'things' that i cant accept and being so depressed with. and so is my family (brothers, sisters), they keep asking : "why can you live like that, how's your future",etc.
what should i do? what to say? tks b4

 

[ladylovesJesus]

You and your husband made the decision that he will be the one working to earn money for the family. He is the head of the home. Pray and seek God on this together. It is good to be at home to bring up your children. They are a gift from God and we have to take care of what He has given to us. It is a full time job being a stay at home mum more work than actually going out to earn a living. You are right that God is our provider our Jehovah Jireh. Make sure to seek Him first each day and give your day to God. Be led always by the prompting of the Holy Spirit. People will always want to put in their opinions of what they think you should be doing. You only have to please God. As long as you and your husband are working together and praying together your marriage will be blessed. JOY Jesus first Others second Yourself last.

God bless

LLJ :rainbow: :rose:

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings sister,

I agree with LadyLovesJesus.

You a doing a fine job being a mother. And a blessed job it is.

Can I suggest that you give thanks to God in Jesus Christ the Lord for what is happening, and give Him praise for everything in your life, as He is Lord.
Rejoice in Him, and let His joy be full in you.

Many people work two jobs. Many married couples both work at a paid job. But, my dear sister, many of those are no better off, and do not have happiness in their lives.
Jesus is your strength and song and you have been blessed with a husband and children. So let us praise the Lord and trust in Him.
If it is His will that you go out working, you will know....but for now, take no care of tomorrow....meaning, see that He is keeping you and your beloved family and rejoice in Him for all His care.
You are also a strength to your husband as he works hard for his family. That is so very important. To be there for him and your children.

May you find great joy and peace in your situation, in Jesus name.

Bless you,

Br. Bear

 

[dankamiri]

Dear Lita,

I totally agree with what has been said. Hold on and continue doing the great job of bringing up your children and in deed your family. By you being there for your husband, that is more than one support.

Something I need to remind you is, when we get married, we leave our "father and mother" and therefore, whatever the two of you agree (you and your husband) and as long as you commit it to God, He will come through to glorify Himself in your lives.

So hold on to that special calling and do not listen to dissenting voices. Rather, pray for your husbands (your business) and for His favour to continue.

Finally, i believe in tithing. Ensure you do because we as Christians are just managers of God's resources. If you do not tithe, please begin stat and if you do, continue to be faithful.

 

[Chad]

I really love dankamiri's response. You nailed it on the head. Espeically tithing, which really is a gift from GOD to help us be selfless, giving and exercising our faith in GOD. Its not about being lawful, but faithful and selfless.

 

[jiggyfly]

Everyone has given you good encouragement with the exception of tithing. I would disregard that. We are not obligated to God in this manner under the new covenant we have with Father through Jesus His Son.

I know that you and your husband have made a discision on the financial procurement for your family. But I am wondering how you came to this decision.

Here is a scripture the HolySpirit brought to my mind.

10*Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is worth more than precious rubies. 11*Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. 12*She will not hinder him but help him all her life.
13*She finds wool and flax and busily spins it. 14*She is like a merchant’s ship; she brings her food from afar. 15*She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls. 16*She goes out to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17*She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. 18*She watches for bargains; her lights burn late into the night. 19*Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber.
20*She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy.
21*She has no fear of winter for her household because all of them have warm* clothes. 22*She quilts her own bedspreads. She dresses like royalty in gowns of finest cloth.
23*Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council meeting with the other civic leaders.
24*She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants.
25*She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs with no fear of the future. 26*When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule when she gives instructions. 27*She carefully watches all that goes on in her household and does not have to bear the consequences of laziness.
28*Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: 29*“There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!”
30*Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. 31*Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

I pray that Father will strengthen you to follow HolySpirit's wisdom and and leading in this matter. God bless

 

[aksd]

I am in full agreemant with what LadyLoveJesus, Br. Bear, Dankamiri have said. Prayer is our best recourse. People who equate money with happiness will try and get you to run after money at the cost of everything else - including your spiritual wellbeing; so don't fall into that trap.
If you and your husband think it appropriate, you can do some jobs from home itself, specially if you are computer savy and have an internet connection - but there too many scamsters are at work, don't fall for their lures.

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings again, sister.

I hope these words have helped you.

I would like to offer to clear up a possible mis-understanding.

Brother Chad and Dankamiri, mentioned tithing. I do not wish to open debate here at your expense, sister, but I do wish to say this...

Our relationship with God in Jesus Christ is the most important thing to us, in fact, it is our life. He is our Life. You are asking advice and getting it. The very best thing any of us can do is to take time to draw near to God, to seek His way, His will and His delight. Often we can get overwhelmed by many differing ideas and thoughts, and doctrinal differences, too.
But, God does not change. Some will insist on tithing, and some will say don't. You must listen to what you believe the Lord wants you to do.
For some, tithing is something they don't want to do, and our Lord can use it to free us from unwillingness, to free us from the fear of not having enough. For others, tithing is easy, and makes them proud, they can become more dependant upon their own good works than the mercy and grace of God.... for them He would have them not tithe in order to depend more on His finished work on the cross. And there are plenty in between, including those who don't know either way and just repeat what they have heard.
(I am not suggesting that any of the above is directed at any individual)

For you, my sister, if you feel that you should tithe , do so. If you don't feel like it, don't. But, you must seek the Lord about it, in all honesty, and openess. The tithe He wants from us is to give our lives in rejoicing and praise, to give thanks, to love one another, and to trust Him in all things. If you are not doing that, any amount of tithing will be in vain.

We all love you and your family and want for you, all that we would want for ourselves.

Let us give thanks to God in Christ Jesus the Lord, for all His kindness, patience, love and care. And Let us rejoice in Him all the days of our lives, and let His light shine through us for all to see and glorify our Father in Heaven...in Jesus name.

Bless you,

Br. Bear

 

[lita]

thank u all..

I thank Jesus for sending me friends that hv given me encouraging words, thank u all : lady loves jesus,br.bear,dankamiri,chad,jiggyfly,aksd.
My heart is full of tears for I know that God has loved me soooo much, He send me you all.

Couple weeks before, I hv been drown into hopeless situation, i hv nearly desperate,i was about to commited suicide,i lock myself in my room and cried for 4 days.i hide myself from everyone and from Him.....

But God never let His hands go from me, He continuesly calling me...I turned on the radio and a pastor was preaching, i turned on tv and it's the same topic: 1 ptr 5 verse 7 : "casting all your care upon Him, for He careth for you".
Where ever i turn, where ever i run, He'll always there...psalms139:7-10.

I gain myself back now, Im ok. I dont want to pity myself. Whatever people said to me, I am worthy in His eyes, nothing will happened to me unless He let it and He has plans for me.

I do believe in tithing, i did, and still try to continue tithing.

Best wishes for all, God bless you all...
:girl_hug: lita

 

[Chad]

Praise GOD sister for saving you in Christ and from committing suicide! Your response really touched my heart and I know everyone who read your last post had to be touched too. I'm really happy for you now that you seem happier and more joyful, revived in the Spirit.

GOD bless you Lita, be with us here always and the body here will edify you by GOD's Spirit in Christ Jesus.

 

[aksd]

God bless, help and guide you sister and may you grow stronger in your faith, casting all your cares upon Him.