The question stems from my walk with God and my marriage. When I was first married we both drank and lived far from the grace of God, because of God's mercy He brought me out of a 35 year drunk and I am now walking daily with our Lord. I have not drank in 4 years. My husband is still drinking, and at times very heavily. This is one of those times. It has been going on now for three months. He is aware that he is out of control, he is aware that he is breaking the law, since he is on probation for DWI. He will not do anything about it. I do not want to leave him because he has been left by everyone in his life at one time or another, also I am his only link to God. He says he believes but has very warped ideas of Christianity. He sobered up 2 1/2 years ago when he totaled our car and got a felony DWI (third). He was sober for 8 months- it was the best time in our 10 year relationship. He even started going to church with me. He is headed back to where he was at before the accident. What do I do now? I have prayed and tried to be patient, nothing seems to be working. There are times I just wan to to away. Can you help?
What do I do now?
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Snowrose
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Hello Terri,
What you can do is what you are doing right now. Loving him, praying and being that light of Jesus for him. Leave the rest of the work in Jesus's hands. This is the hard part. You can't make your husband change - he needs to see and want to change for himself.
For me, Change comes when a person excepts that they can't control everything, sees who they really are (a revelation of self), and sees that Jesus is the only answer. Sadly we can't do it for them - they have to do it for themselves. I hope this makes sense.
I will keep you and your husband in my prayers during this storm. If you want you can PM me any time if you need to talk. Remember to always rest in Jesus - He is your peace and hope. He never fails. God bless.
Snowrose
What you can do is what you are doing right now. Loving him, praying and being that light of Jesus for him. Leave the rest of the work in Jesus's hands. This is the hard part. You can't make your husband change - he needs to see and want to change for himself.
For me, Change comes when a person excepts that they can't control everything, sees who they really are (a revelation of self), and sees that Jesus is the only answer. Sadly we can't do it for them - they have to do it for themselves. I hope this makes sense.
I will keep you and your husband in my prayers during this storm. If you want you can PM me any time if you need to talk. Remember to always rest in Jesus - He is your peace and hope. He never fails. God bless.
Snowrose
Snowrose- you are so right. I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else. I know that Jesus is my rock- I would never have maade it out of my past life without Him! Not alive-and I know Jesus will never leave me, there are just times when things get overwelming. I get confused when others tell me to leave him. I just do not believe I should. Not to enable but to let him see Jesus through me. Thank you and I will stay in touch! Peace to you, Sister! Sunnyt
Snowrose- you are so right. I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else. I know that Jesus is my rock- I would never have made it out of my past life without Him! Not alive-and I know Jesus will never leave me, there are just times when things get overwelming. I get confused when others tell me to leave him. I just do not believe I should. Not to enable but to let him see Jesus through me. Thank you and I will stay in touch! Peace to you, Sister! Sunnyt
pray pray pray only god will save him. ask god what to do??
my dad has been an alcoholic since i was little. there is not much i can do apart from pray. im sorry to hear you are struggling. but against the odds you have been saved and so will your husband when its time. i think?
my dad has been an alcoholic since i was little. there is not much i can do apart from pray. im sorry to hear you are struggling. but against the odds you have been saved and so will your husband when its time. i think?
Sunnyt....reading your post my heart reaches out to you......in Jesus. Difficult situation for you......What can I say? I say this.....stand by him....you are all that he has.......For yourself...follow Jesus...attend the fellowship of God's people. Let such fellowship perculate through to your husband whenever convenient. Without you he has no hope whatsoever.
And who can tell........what may happen?
God Bless You
And who can tell........what may happen?
God Bless You
