What Goes Around Comes Around

[Mdlupo]

What goes around comes around?

Is it true that what goes around comes around? I used to be a believer in that but after I got married last five years my, life completly changed like I never could have imagined. Husband's an addict of porn, cocaine, never admitted his problem except for with his brother and mother, to everyone else he blamed things on me for why he is the way he is. He misses his job and if his boss is on his case he tells them things are not good at home or his health is suffering and gets a doctors notes easily. He does porn the problem is me or that I am a prude. Will all this lying ever catch up to him. How does he keep getting away with things? 5 years now! He never got arrested or got tested at work for drugs. He puts me through so much hell if I showed him the mirror. I have to deal with his immature and angry self everyday yet he doesn't seek no professional help and if he did he doesn't keep at it..will my life ever get better. I am still here for I have a baby with him. I left California for him when I got married (he is from NY) My family is and all are in California I am so alone. Except for my mother-in-law. Where is justice GOD?

 

[peeps]

Welcome sweetheart

Welcome to TalkJesus We can and want to help you feel warmly welcome and safe here We do wanna keep you hugged tight and help you find answers, support and encouragement Feel free to write and type and scream and ask God loves you so much and is on your side sweet girl One step a day after another . . .you will find simular circumstances in the forum and just know: YOUR NOT ALONE IN THIS ok I praise God for leading you here in safe waters and He will help you through His Holy Spirit among His people to stand up straight again, start the day with joy again and stand firm with His backsupport against bad things happening in your life

I pray you have time to breathe and relax here, that God touches your heart everytime you turn to Him in prayer and writing

Hope to meet and see you some day Love, Dot

 

[jculver]

Is it true that what goes around comes around? I used to be a believer in that but after I got married last five years my, life completly changed like I never could have imagined. Husband's an addict of porn, cocaine, never admitted his problem except for with his brother and mother, to everyone else he blamed things on me for why he is the way he is. He misses his job and if his boss is on his case he tells them things are not good at home or his health is suffering and gets a doctors notes easily. He does porn the problem is me or that I am a prude. Will all this lying ever catch up to him. How does he keep getting away with things? 5 years now! He never got arrested or got tested at work for drugs. He puts me through so much hell if I showed him the mirror. I have to deal with his immature and angry self everyday yet he doesn't seek no professional help and if he did he doesn't keep at it..will my life ever get better. I am still here for I have a baby with him. I left California for him when I got married (he is from NY) My family is and all are in California I am so alone. Except for my mother-in-law. Where is justice GOD?

ATTN MODERATORS: Might want to move this to the counseling threads

As far as vengeance, it is indeed God's, and if any one of us got what we deserved we would be in hell forever.

I don't intend to trivialize your situation as it sounds like a very hard place to be. Obviously you have a lot of forgiveness in you if you have stuck it out this long, and if that is true then God is surely smiling on you.
I think this is an important question:

Have you yet taken Jesus Christ to be Lord over your actions, and your personal savior?

Any further responses will be based on the answer to this question.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

I moved your thread to the Counseling forum. I agree with JCulver, the Counseling forum is the most appropriate place for this discussion.

As for myself, I suggest that you separate from him and contact you local police department to get an EPO (Emergency Protective Order) to keep him away from you. As to staying with him, you're not required to. You are responsible for your child's safety as well as your own. The Bible shows marital infidelity as the only valid reason for divorce. Addiction to pornography certainly qualifies as marital infidelity in my opinion.

I'll be praying for you.

SLE

 

[Mdlupo]

Believing in Jesus is the only reason why Iam still here. I know he will turn things around one day. I pray that he converts my husband's heart and help him see how he ruined all including his marriage and family. If I leave for California from NY he tells me I can not take the baby. Baby has NY residence. And I have no proof of him using drugs.

We separated a few times went back to California with baby, once he threatened to take the baby off medical coverage. I didn't have a job in California and couldnt afford to take a chance with my son having no insurance. I made an agreement with my self to be with him for the sake of my son. I am waiting for the day I find a good paying job with benefits, so that I can move out on my own with my baby.

 

[Dreamer]

No proof of him using drugs? Next time he goes wacko with his knife, slicing up your baby's personal items and dancing around the kitchen---quietly leave the room, close the door, and call the police. (without husband knowing)

Then just go back out to your husband and act like nothing is going on. When the police come to the house and he acts erratic, and you show them physical evidence of what he is doing (like throwing furniture, slashing things) they will test him for drugs, most probably, and might even throw him in jail for a few days.

Do not fear what man can do to you, but God. Follow God. This man has you under a vise of fear. He has you believing you can't do anything without his approval. You are God's child, listen to Him. God loves you and your little boy. Please change the direction you are going in, MDLUPO, before it is too late.

 

[Mdlupo]

I have thought about doing that.. he is insane(husband) he could tell the Police that I broke whatever or was acting crazy. They may have the social Services involved which I do not want. I do not want to loose my baby.

I guess if I do that I will have to take a good chance and hoepfully they do run a test on him. I know I am clean they can take a tst on me too and that show him.

 

[Dreamer]

I'm going to be praying for you....I believe the Lord will give you an opportunity to report your desperately sick husband, to the police. If God does it, then it will be done right! I pray that God will send His angels around you and your child, and that the Holy Spirit will prompt you to call the police at the right time. Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, You are Lord over MDLUO's situation! We praise You, we adore You, we listen and take heed to your Word, Hallelujah! Be Lord in MDLUPO's life! For she is searching, she has found You. Open her eyes that she can see the evidence of your power and your great love. If the Lord is for us, who can be against us? Father, anoit her as a child of God and a parent, give her a special place in your Kingdom here on earth, as she raises her child and loves You. In Jesus name, Amen!

 

[SpiritLedEd]

The organizations that operate battered women's shelters have counselors on staff to help with the legal and emotional issues involved in situations like yours. The shelters' locations are kept secret so that abusive men cannot track the women down when they flee the household.

I know something of these things because my wife and I have a friend who is on the staff of our local shelter organization.


SLE

 

[Dreamer]

SpiritledEd is right. And you know what? You can contact the organization ahead of time, even if you have decided not to leave your home as of now.

There are usually regular weekly meetings sponsored by the battered woman's organization. You can go and talk with other people in similar situations, get support and knowledge, etc. The local police have to have somewhere to refer victims of domestic abuse. But you can benefit yourself of the organization for battered women even if you haven't called the police as of yet.

Around here it is called WRAP. I don't know what it's called in Pennsylvania.
I attended the support group meetings of WRAP for one year before I had the courage to escape my husband. If you would like to go to meetings similar to this, just contact the police and ask them privately the number of the organization in your area. The one in my state is sponsored by United Way.

We are praying for you at talkJesus; we love you and your little boy. It seems pretty clear that Jesus has sent you here for love and support. God bless you, MDLUPO, as you seek His will for your life.

Love,
Dreamer

 

[Chad]

I'm sorry to hear of your problems sister. I will pray for you. One thing to remember is this example of apostle Paul. He was strictly and *purposely* a persecutor of anyone who was a Christian, a believer in Jesus Christ. Look what the Holy Spirit of GOD did to transform him into absolutely likeness of Christ! GOD can do the same for your husband. Just be patient as you have been and you'll see. GOD is with you very clearly, you just cannot top that truth off!

Keep the faith and keep in touch.

 

[Mdlupo]

Thank you all for all your prayers and advise. May God hear all your prayers. I did look into a shelter but i cannot take my lil one there they do not take children.