What is okay out of wed-lock, in God's eyes?

[Cote Dawg]

Pre-marital sex is wrong in the eyes of the lord. I've already broken this law. But I would like to redeem my walk in the true law. So if sex is wrong out of wed-lock, then what is okay? Is kissing wrong? Touching? Sharing a bed to sleep on? What about temptation? If temptation draws you near sin, I would assume you should stay clear out of its way, but is it wrong to let the tempter tempt you at all? How do you know when you begin, are about to begin, or have already committed adultery in the eyes of God? Will you hear/see/feel/sense it, know it, or commit to the mistake unknowingly? I have heard that while you may not touch any female, if you look on them in a lustful manner, then you have committed adultery in your heart. What about punishment? How will one know, unmistakably, where their vile acts have led them to? Is hell the only punishment, or just a consequence to our fallacy? I think as long as we are still here, on Earth, we have a chance to turn it around.

 

[sintheticg]

your paragraph worries me a bit friend. the bible says (Romans 3:23) "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;" and it goes on to say (Romans 5:8) "But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." additionally (Romans 6:23) "For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord." followed by (Romans 10:9) "That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved."

this is the gospel in a nut shell, it is very important you recognize that keeping the law does not save you from eternity in hell, only the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ can save you, and it is as simple as calling upon his name to save you.

you said you've already broken the law, that is correct, because we all have as seen above, but you do not redeem your walk, only the atonement of the blood of the lamb can IE the gospel.

I do not know your heart, only you and God do, but your post lead me to believe you may be a bit confused about the gospel. I trust that the Holy Spirit will guide you into what is right or not because it is his job to lead you in the process of sanctification. If you are saved, my best advice would be dont look for a list of rules, study the scriptures and allow the spirit to lead you into all truth.

(Hebrews 4:12) "For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart."

The word of God can discern the thoughts and intents of your heart, not I.

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

I feel it's safe to say that what is allowed out of wedlock is the following ,not taking out the trash,not picking up you're clothes , using a towel more than once and doing the dishes when you feel like it .lol. .if we knock on the devils door sooner or later he will answer kissing and petting is a sure way to make a problem .hold hands only .a sweet peck on the cheek maybe .but always in the open not in secret or in the shadows ...if you throw matches long enough you will start a fire is what I was told and lust burns fast and hot ,soon becoming out of control . Rev

 

[drakek]

ask for forgiveness

You can ask for forgivenes and pray.

 

[Chad]

1 Corinthians 6:18

Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

Ephesians 5:3

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.

 

[Fragrant Grace]

Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
James 1:5

How the devil likes to try to decieve us with the candy coated sin of lust
It feels good, it seems harmless
It's just me telling my boyfriend/girlfriend that I love her

Don't be deceived

Just kissing and cuddling is very rarely just that
It stirs up other powerful physical feelings, lustful thoughts, fantasies
And once you get started it is so hard to stop.......because it feels so good, it seems so good, it seems so loving
And once you've gone 'so far' once you will want to do it again and again

If you are an unmarried Christian couple...pray together, be friends together, show loving affection, commit your futures together for the Lord
But don't dabble with sexual things.....there is no smoke without a fire
Save the beauty and oneness of sex for marriage

Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God; for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth He any man; But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin; and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. Do not err, my beloved brethren. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with Whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
James 1:13-17

 

[AudreyNicole]

Pre-marital sex is wrong in the eyes of the lord. I've already broken this law. But I would like to redeem my walk in the true law. So if sex is wrong out of wed-lock, then what is okay? Is kissing wrong? Touching? Sharing a bed to sleep on? What about temptation? If temptation draws you near sin, I would assume you should stay clear out of its way, but is it wrong to let the tempter tempt you at all? How do you know when you begin, are about to begin, or have already committed adultery in the eyes of God? Will you hear/see/feel/sense it, know it, or commit to the mistake unknowingly? I have heard that while you may not touch any female, if you look on them in a lustful manner, then you have committed adultery in your heart. What about punishment? How will one know, unmistakably, where their vile acts have led them to? Is hell the only punishment, or just a consequence to our fallacy? I think as long as we are still here, on Earth, we have a chance to turn it around.

I always tell people it depends on conviction. Paul talks about the fact that some people cannot handle alcohol, and thus shouldn't drink it nor go near it. But some people can handle alcohol and are free to enjoy it, to the Glory of God. Explicitly and obviously sex outside marriage is a sin. As for the other things you mentioned, some people can handle kissing, and some people cannot. Some people can handle hugging, some cannot.

In your case, I would suggest you steer very clear of any and everything you mentioned. I just don't know that you're mature enough Spiritually. When it comes to a girl, start with friendship only, and then eventually you may be able to graduate to hand holding. But for your sake I wouldn't suggest you go much further than that before marriage. Be focusing instead on God. Be focusing instead on preparing yourself (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) for the man He wants you to be. And when you're ready, He will bring to you the right girl.

These temptations are not a game, and they are not an easy plight to navigate... trust me I know. But hold fast to the Lord and His word, and He will give you strength. It will be difficult, but the end result is divinely worth it. You will stumble and you will sin, we will all fall short of the glory of God, but as long as you give it your best effort, and leave the rest to Christ, you'll be good. Nothing we do (or don't do) will ever be good enough, but thank God, Christ is. And it is only because of Him we have the opportunity to seek, and one day obtain, perfection. Cling to that hope, and it will guide you through.

Let me know how I may pray for you!