dattaswami
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Marriage is for the reproduction or generation of issues. It is a divine mission. Homosexuality is against the divine mission. It shows only worldly blind attachment. At least marriage with the opposite sex leads to generation of issues and when the issues are borned, you are paving the way for giving the gross body for the souls coming from the upper world to the earth. You are participating in the divine mission and so the marriage is a part of divine mission and sometimes, who knows, you may give birth to Adi Shankara or to Meera. In that case, as father and mother of Shankara or as father and mother of Meera or as father and mother of Swami Vivekananda, you are blessed. Is it not?
Therefore, the marriage is a divine mission. It is not wrong to avoid the marriage provided it is natural, not by force. Avoiding marriage is liberation. When one is attached to God intensively, the worldly bonds are dropped naturally. For example take Adi Shankara, He was attached to God and His mind did not go for any worldly bonds. He did not marry. Similarly, Jesus, Swami Vivekananda etc. Why did they not marry? First, they are attached to God and they are liberated from the worldly bonds and therefore, these worldly bonds are not attractive to them. Therefore, it all depends on your interest on God. That is why learning about God must be done in the childhood itself, Brahmacharya Ashrama. Charya means knowledge.
Marriage is not done in the childhood. By the end of the childhood or brahmacharya, you have learned sufficiently about God. Knowledge is completed. You must have got devotion completely on God. In that case, automatically the liberation is a spontaneous process. You are not willing to marry; that is very good. But, after finishing Brahma Charya also if you have desire to marry that means even after learning about God, the real interest is not created on God. Better marry in that case. Now, after marrying, in course of time again continue your effort. The Brhmacharya should be continued i. e., learning about God. Wife also can take part in that. Then slowly by Vanprastha ashrama, the third ashrama, you may develop interest on God
She may also develop interest on God and then both of you are like co-spiritual aspirants in association in spiritual effort and finally lead to sanyasa for the complete absorption on God. It is again reaching the goal late. Any way, one should not leave the marriage by force. If one is not interested in marriage due to his interest in God then it is not wrong. If there is no interest on God then he should marry. Some people are not interested in God and they are also not interested in marriage. They do not want to take responsibility. They want to enjoy. This is not correct. Reason must be interest on God. Due to interest on God, both Shankara and Jesus did not marry and that is correct.
While selecting the wife, our elders very much concentrated on the background of the girl. If the background of the girl is good and they are also spiritual aspirants, then the girl also will get that culture and she will be congenial to you in your spiritual effort also.
That is why in marriage, in olden days, the background was seen very much in our elder generation. But today marriage is simply performed just based on physical body attraction or based on financial consideration.
This approach is not correct. In marriage, your primary aim should be to select a partner for your spiritual achievement, she must atleast have some interest in God so that both of you can go together in spiritual path. The marriage is not wrong provided the partner is good and also helpful in progressing in the spiritual path. In the spiritual path also, the satsanga should be done and you need a companion for it. You need somebody to discuss about God and if it is your wife, how lucky it will be.
Therefore, the marriage is a divine mission. It is not wrong to avoid the marriage provided it is natural, not by force. Avoiding marriage is liberation. When one is attached to God intensively, the worldly bonds are dropped naturally. For example take Adi Shankara, He was attached to God and His mind did not go for any worldly bonds. He did not marry. Similarly, Jesus, Swami Vivekananda etc. Why did they not marry? First, they are attached to God and they are liberated from the worldly bonds and therefore, these worldly bonds are not attractive to them. Therefore, it all depends on your interest on God. That is why learning about God must be done in the childhood itself, Brahmacharya Ashrama. Charya means knowledge.
Marriage is not done in the childhood. By the end of the childhood or brahmacharya, you have learned sufficiently about God. Knowledge is completed. You must have got devotion completely on God. In that case, automatically the liberation is a spontaneous process. You are not willing to marry; that is very good. But, after finishing Brahma Charya also if you have desire to marry that means even after learning about God, the real interest is not created on God. Better marry in that case. Now, after marrying, in course of time again continue your effort. The Brhmacharya should be continued i. e., learning about God. Wife also can take part in that. Then slowly by Vanprastha ashrama, the third ashrama, you may develop interest on God
She may also develop interest on God and then both of you are like co-spiritual aspirants in association in spiritual effort and finally lead to sanyasa for the complete absorption on God. It is again reaching the goal late. Any way, one should not leave the marriage by force. If one is not interested in marriage due to his interest in God then it is not wrong. If there is no interest on God then he should marry. Some people are not interested in God and they are also not interested in marriage. They do not want to take responsibility. They want to enjoy. This is not correct. Reason must be interest on God. Due to interest on God, both Shankara and Jesus did not marry and that is correct.
While selecting the wife, our elders very much concentrated on the background of the girl. If the background of the girl is good and they are also spiritual aspirants, then the girl also will get that culture and she will be congenial to you in your spiritual effort also.
That is why in marriage, in olden days, the background was seen very much in our elder generation. But today marriage is simply performed just based on physical body attraction or based on financial consideration.
This approach is not correct. In marriage, your primary aim should be to select a partner for your spiritual achievement, she must atleast have some interest in God so that both of you can go together in spiritual path. The marriage is not wrong provided the partner is good and also helpful in progressing in the spiritual path. In the spiritual path also, the satsanga should be done and you need a companion for it. You need somebody to discuss about God and if it is your wife, how lucky it will be.
