when do i say enough

[smitty]

i hope this is the right place to ask this question,
my wife has decided to divorce me , my problem is we have a very expensive bed that she wants, she has back trouble, so it helps her a great amont. she said she has a bed she will trade me, but the bed in question is $3000, and it is under 3 years old, the other bed is older, and not as good, should i help her , or do i say it is not my problem, yoy left me and the blessing God is giving me, so you are on your own. we are both christians,so please help me in this , i want to please God, the family is onw her side, the kids are not speaking to me, i have no family but a brother how is almost 2000 miles away, so i am on mu own . i really need guidence in this matter

 

[j_sp]

Smitty,

I know you may be hurt in what has been occurring, but be careful not to allow for your feelings behind this to effect a decision that is led by spite, unforgiveness, or bitterness. There is a difference between being led by the Holy Spirit with pure heart motives and being led by our own carnal desires with impure motives (Col. 3:1-10; Rom. 7:14-23). I believe if you really take the chance to sit down with the Lord, where you can hear clearly what the Holy Spirit is saying to you, He will make clear to you an answer about this (do a simple prayer of repentance and then ask the Lord how to handle it). It can be difficult at times when you feel mistreated, rejected, and then left alone but this can also be used as a time for you to grow in your relationship with the Lord - afterall, Jesus does understand what it's like to be rejected, mistreated, and left alone (even though He wasn't truly because the Father was with Him).

He will guide you through this hour and show you His ways. Don't allow for the enemy to have a foothold in this situation, where later, it could lead you into a place that the Lord doesn't want you to go. A great chance to see what God can do - trust Him alone, and see how He provides exactly what you need. A couple of books that may be worth checking out (see which one the Lord may want you to read): "Managing Your Emotions," by Joyce Meyer or "Towards a Powerful Inner Life," by Graham Cooke. Use this time wisely to come to understading the Lord and His ways; as this is what's most important.

Heb. 13:5-6; Proverbs 1:1-7; 1Peter 2:1-25; Romans 7:14-23

I pray that the Lord will give you peace and greater understanding into His ways and thoughts for His purposes alone.

j_sp

 

[Property Of God]

I'm very sorry about that, I've no words, I can imagine how 2 people can be very hurt and broken by a divorce, I pray that God will see you through it.

About the bed, I know your hurt feelings can be against it and will try to hold you back and block your sight, but the fact that you're here and asking, shows that you're a Christ-follower who is just unsure what to do.

I'd say begin by giving her the bed she wants, this will make you avoid further problems with her and give you the chance to talk to your children again, and most importantly, God will bless you for what you did.

 

[smitty]

thank you for your replys, i know that i do not want to be kind to her or anyone right now, but that is not who i want to be. hopefully god will at least give me some friends, if so praise him , if not prasie him, and no one from our church as even called or e-mailed me.so thanks again for you help, may Jesus christ open our eyes and eyes to his wonderful truth. God bless everyone.

 

[Property Of God]

thank you for your replys, i know that i do not want to be kind to her or anyone right now, but that is not who i want to be. hopefully god will at least give me some friends, if so praise him , if not prasie him, and no one from our church as even called or e-mailed me.so thanks again for you help, may Jesus christ open our eyes and eyes to his wonderful truth. God bless everyone.

I'm so sorry, I really do feel your pain, please feel free to come here and vent out, we'd love to offer you a word of encouragement when you're down. You testified that you want to become more like Christ, and this is a very hard thing to do.

God bless you brother, may God mend your heart.

 

[strawberry]

i hope this is the right place to ask this question,
my wife has decided to divorce me , my problem is we have a very expensive bed that she wants, she has back trouble, so it helps her a great amount. she said she has a bed she will trade me, but the bed in question is $3000, and it is under 3 years old, the other bed is older, and not as good, should i help her , or do i say it is not my problem, yoy left me and the blessing God is giving me, so you are on your own. we are both christians,so please help me in this , i want to please God, the family is onw her side, the kids are not speaking to me, i have no family but a brother how is almost 2000 miles away, so i am on mu own . i really need guidence in this matter

sok, deep breaths, now give her the bed. No boasting or keeping score. If the other bed is older and uncomfortable, then why take it? Buy yourself a new bed.

The family is on her side huh? So what. You are not a victim. You are not defeated. Pray and keep your chin up kid. Pray for your kids and family.

 

[Dreamon]

hello

I know how you feel... to be alone, it dont feel good at all.. The only thing i can say is, its just a bed my brother... Be the better person and give her what she asks... Oh and brother you will see as i did you are never alone... Jesus is always with you so be at peace my brother..
lots of love to you my brother

 

[::PreciousinChrist::]

Dear smitty,

Thank you for sharing in your burden with us that we may help you according to God's Word.I'd like you to know that you are not alone ( John 16:32, Heb 13:5)never ever...

I see that your marriage is under pressure just because of a back trouble which your wife shouldn't have especially since she is a christian. Thats the main divider - back trouble!

Let me ask you, didn't Jesus Christ take all our sicknesses and pain upon Himself, so that we could be free and healed wholly?
(Is 53:5 , 1 Peter 2:24)

I believe that it would be wonderful to go up to her boldly, trusting in the LORD and ask her to join you in praying and standing on the Word concerning the back trouble through which satan is stealing your marriage. Her body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. (1 Cor 6:19)

So run after that devil.. get him out of your affairs... get scriptures on healing and start speaking them over her body together everyday believing that she shall be healed because of the Word spoken! Don't accept defeat.
Heb 4:12


May the LORD guide you further...

God bless you
Do not be afraid

PRE

 

[lizabe]

Give

Dear Smitty


Acts 20:35 I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive

If the bed will be helpful for her healing give it; the one you are receiving, perhaps sometime in the future God may bless you with a better one; because HE said It is MORE blessed to give...


Be blessed
Lizabe