Why do I feel ugly

[Stylez4Christ]

Hey, Well I just want some help but this can be from the devil or my self.
But I just wonder why I feel ugly sometimes and sometimes people around me treat me like I’m ugly; but that sometimes is not all people do but I just feel ugly right now.
I guest I’m effected by my old self or the people around me and even in my school and sometimes I feel that way in church but not as bad as it is in school.
One thing about school is that sometimes is kind of like a nightmare. But for once of my life even I have to look at people and say to my self why are they drawing people to them and why I don’t look as good as they do and why I look at people and just notices that I know why they look at me different and there are time’s that I feel I’m not always wanted in some sort of way. I guest people look at me that I’m ugly.

But I remember that this old grown black lady told me that I have a beautiful spirit. But that one thing when I look at my self because when I look at my self in the mirror and that I don’t feel like that it is me but at that the sometime, I do know that it is me.

I don’t want’ to say that I hate myself or saying bad opinion about my self but I wonder what you think about this case

 

[ladylovesJesus]

You know that people look at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart.
1 Samuel 16:7
But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."

We need to shine Jesus so that others are attracted to us.

God made you and He does not make junk. You are fearfully and wonderfully made

Psalm 139:14
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

I think it would be good for you to read and practice these scriptures to help you become who you are in Christ. http://www.talkjesus.com/get-saved-now/9340-christ-i-am.html#post56974

God bless :rainbow: :rose:

 

[rizen1]

I know the feeling

I blame society, for we live in an environment that idolises the way we look.
Labelling what is Hot and what's not. Stealing the fact that we are all created in God's image. So for us to say we're ugly or hate something about ourselves it's like we;re saying " God you did not do a good job ''

I feel the pressure sometimes, I won't leave the house without makeup sometimes.

How you feel inside reflects, how people will see you. All God's creation is good, we can not find fault in anything.

You have to love yourself and surround yourself with real friends who will up lift you. Know who you are in Christ, this world is temporary keep your eyes on the Prize,,,,Heaven

 

[Cody]

Hey brother, dont let the devil lie to you. He's a liar and the father of it. This is what God said, "Since thou wast precious in my sight, thou hast been honourable, and I have loved thee: therefore will I give men for thee, and people for thy life." Isaiah 43:4. You are precious in the eyes of the Lord. Pray about this and Im sure these thoughts will go away. I will also pray for you.

 

[lilifield]

I totally agree with what Rizen1 said. And also may I share something with you? I felt the same way you did a long time ago when I was around 35. I think I even felt that God didn't like me as much as everyone else in church because others seemed to get more attention from God than me. Well, this one Tuesday morning ladies bible study I went to was given by this lady. And her whole topic was on how much every one of us was loved by God. And she really showed through many scriptures how deep the love of God was for us. Well, when it was over I got in my car to go home. And while driving I was thinking about all that she said and while I did believe that God loved "them that much", I wasn't convinced he loved me that much (silly, I know... bear with me). So, I says to the Lord... "Lord, she said you love us all that much... do you really love "me" that much"? And oh boy, then I started a whaling away in the car and couldn't contain my tears. Well, I didn't hear him say nothing right then. But all that week God showed me signs (incredible signs) that he really did love ... even me ... "that much". And I was so blown away because nobody ever loved me like that before. And you know what? It's when you really really really KNOW for yourself how much God loves you.... that nobody else opinion or the way they treat you even matters anymore. Because once you have that gift of really knowing it for yourself... it makes you love THEM even though they don't know his love yet. Do you understand? So, I don't know if God will do this for you the way he did it for me because he is so creative and his ways are above our ways and we just never know how he's gonna do something. But if any of this helps you at all.... then I praise God.

 

[Jenae-nae]

I understand what you mean because I used to think I was ugly every time I looked in the mirror. But I think society has alot to do with that because at the time I was a little overweight and that I think was the bigger reason why I didn't like my looks. I don't listen to society and everything about what is hot nowadays and what is not. Keep reminding yourself that you are wonderfully and fearfully made by God, as lady showed in verses. If people treat you like you are ugly, ignore it because your not. He made us all beautiful, every single one of us! Well, I hope I was of some help to you and God bless you!

 

[Chad]

I've had and fought low self esteem in the past. Sometimes I still do. I prayed that GOD would heal my hurt and help me see myself the way He does. I can tell you that GOD helped for sure. Jesus is who I will listen to when it comes to thoughts about me. If other people [all sinners, remember] have an opinion that does not agree with what GOD says, let it be and move on.

Everyone else really hit the nail on the head too. GOD bless.

 

[Plankinyoureye]

1 Peter 3

3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God

 

[Dove]

I can fully understand how you feel how hard it is to look in a mirror and like what you see, I certainly do not like myself I hate what/who I am sometimes wondering what is the point

 

[ladylovesJesus]

I can fully understand how you feel how hard it is to look in a mirror and like what you see, I certainly do not like myself I hate what/who I am sometimes wondering what is the point

Dear sister

God made you and you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139. I never used to like looking in the mirror either.

He liked what He saw and said that it was good. He does not make any junk.

I had to do that for a time and say Jesus loves me until I really believed it in my heart.

We are told to love our neighbour as ourself so we need to learn to love ourselves too.

God bless :rainbow: :rose:

 

[Dreamer]

Dovedale, while you and I were chatting on IM, the same verse came to my mind that LLJ posted above from Psalms 139!!!

Then I came in here and saw what you had posted and what LLJ had posted.

You know, you really are quite beautiful. Your eyes are pretty and your smile is pretty. Do you not know that? I honestly think you are a very pretty lady.

I hope that God reveals to you that you are wonderfully made. He loves you so much and doesn't want you to hate yourself or begrudge yourself in any way, shape or manner.

I'm just learning this myself, even though I'm quite a bit older than you, sister.
It is a wonderful lesson to learn, it feels very nice to accept yourself as beautifully made!

You know, I used to only think I was pretty when I was a size 4 and weighed under 108. So when I got pregnant with my last child, I was upset (of all things) about getting fat. Never mind that the Lord was giving me a perfect, beautiful child in my old age. All I could think about was all the pounds I was going to gain when I had worked so hard to lose weight and be "in" and "svelte".

This is garbage-thinking. It really is.

I don't want to be like that anymore.

I'm a size 8 now and I like myself just fine there. I may never be a size 4 again, and besides, some people said I was too skinny then.

God made me just the way he wants me. He wants me to be happy with what He gave me, a healthy body and a beautiful family.

In Christ,
Jan (Dreamer)

 

[abigya]

I am sorry you are feeling like this,

When I was a child my mother used to say I am less prettier than my 3 sisters so I grew listening to this voice believing I am not beautiful enough for my mom to love me. I used to refuse to believe when ever some one compliment about my look.

I left home when I was 19 years old to study in India that’s where I accept Christ. I thank God now he erased all the lies I believed during my childhood. Now I refuse to believe what the devil has to tell me about my look, I am just satisfied and happy because God created me to be me (abigya).

So allow God to take away the false information you received from the devil and feel you with his warm love and truth.

Blessings
Abigya

 

[Jesus's always]

hey there,
Guess what? I have gone through the same thing! People dont really know "me". At school, if I have my hair done and I look "my best"... everyone is all over me. people who occasionaly say hi to me come over to hug me... lol. And if I am the me I am everyday... well I get offensive comments and sometimes they hurt very much. Before I found Jesus, I felt very terrible about the way I looked. Then I discovered that God doesnt only think that I am BEAUTIFUL he made me to be one because I AM MADE IN HIS IMAGE! Now... let me tell ya, I look in the mirror and I see me through the world, I take out all this imperfections I have... and I feel terrible because I compare me to these "beautiful" girls at school. But then I look in the mirror and I see me the way God sees me.... men! I know I am the only one looking like me! There can never be someone looking like you! You are the only YOU IN THE WORLD! Isnt that just awesome!
Besides, I noticed that faces are really shapes if you just really look at them. Round, oval... and if you really look at how we all look, it is really hard to say "beautiful" or "ugly" because we are all shapes really! Our "out look" really only makes sense if we refer to God!
But I really want to point out that PEOPLE at church or at school anywhere are fake! They want you when they like you! But Our Jesus is not like that! He is so different! Personally Jesus loved me in the LOWEST part of my life when everyone told me I was bad and ugly! He came to me and said, you just too beautiful for them to see!!!!!!! I say the same to you!
sorry for posting so much! God bless

 

[Stylez4Christ]

hey there,
Guess what? I have gone through the same thing! People dont really know "me". At school, if I have my hair done and I look "my best"... everyone is all over me. people who occasionaly say hi to me come over to hug me... lol. And if I am the me I am everyday... well I get offensive comments and sometimes they hurt very much. Before I found Jesus, I felt very terrible about the way I looked. Then I discovered that God doesnt only think that I am BEAUTIFUL he made me to be one because I AM MADE IN HIS IMAGE! Now... let me tell ya, I look in the mirror and I see me through the world, I take out all this imperfections I have... and I feel terrible because I compare me to these "beautiful" girls at school. But then I look in the mirror and I see me the way God sees me.... men! I know I am the only one looking like me! There can never be someone looking like you! You are the only YOU IN THE WORLD! Isnt that just awesome!
Besides, I noticed that faces are really shapes if you just really look at them. Round, oval... and if you really look at how we all look, it is really hard to say "beautiful" or "ugly" because we are all shapes really! Our "out look" really only makes sense if we refer to God!
But I really want to point out that PEOPLE at church or at school anywhere are fake! They want you when they like you! But Our Jesus is not like that! He is so different! Personally Jesus loved me in the LOWEST part of my life when everyone told me I was bad and ugly! He came to me and said, you just too beautiful for them to see!!!!!!! I say the same to you!
sorry for posting so much! God bless

LOL thats cute

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings all ye mirror folk,

I am reminded of 1 Corinthians 13:12 as I read these posts.

....For now we see through a glass, darkly ; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.

Please think about this, meditate on these words, more than you meditate on what you see.
And then read the next verse.


Also, James 1:24, speaking of the one who looks in the mirror,

For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was.

If I could use this scripture to say this please, too many forget too quickly just how wretched and 'ugly' they are and how much they need Jesus at ALL times to be their eternal beauty, the beauty of their life. I repeat, forget too quickly, so if you find you go away after examining yourself and you continue to not like what you see, first, well done for not just going off in vain, and second, we're all 'ugly', and if we look constantly at ourselves, we will soon forget what Jesus looks like....glorious! So, look unto Jesus, all ye mirror folk, and don't forget what you see !

Bless you,

Br. Bear.

 

[calluna]

"Why do I feel I am ugly?'

Because you are listening to lies from the devil.

Just as I have in the past and countless others who until we grab hold onto the real truth about what God says about us and what real beauty is.

Our society is so obsessed with outward appearance. When the real beauty does come from within, it maybe an old cliche. But it is truth. It is Christ who lives in us who will reveal His beauty and it will shine forth from us and people will see Jesus. We must focus on Him and Live our life for Him and the people who really matter most will look beyond the outer apppearance.

I have a couple of friends and they are rather large, but they exude just such love for the Lord, and smile and are kind loving people, I only see beauty.

You know what ugly is? It is SIN, that is what is ugly, the sin of not following Jesus, the sin of ignoring His call to live righteously and developing the fruits of the spirit, love, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness'

If we do not develop and grow and show fruits of the spirit, we are going to feel ugly and maybe appear that way to others. And the ones who are looking at us, who are judging us and thinking we are ugly or treating as if we are, then they too are ugly because of their sin of judging us. It is irrelevant if we have flawless skin, or acne scarred sin, it is irrelevent if we are a size 4 or a size 24. It is irrelevant if we have cascading silky hair, or thin lanky hair, it is irrelevant if we have beautiful bone structures and perfect profiles, or large noses (me)

Take all the outward beauty away and what do we have left? If we don't have Christ in our hearts and are not living for Him, then we are ugly.

Calluna

 

[Sue L]

"Why do I feel I am ugly?'

Because you are listening to lies from the devil.

Just as I have in the past and countless others who until we grab hold onto the real truth about what God says about us and what real beauty is.

Our society is so obsessed with outward appearance. When the real beauty does come from within, it maybe an old cliche. But it is truth. It is Christ who lives in us who will reveal His beauty and it will shine forth from us and people will see Jesus. We must focus on Him and Live our life for Him and the people who really matter most will look beyond the outer apppearance.

I have a couple of friends and they are rather large, but they exude just such love for the Lord, and smile and are kind loving people, I only see beauty.

You know what ugly is? It is SIN, that is what is ugly, the sin of not following Jesus, the sin of ignoring His call to live righteously and developing the fruits of the spirit, love, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness'

If we do not develop and grow and show fruits of the spirit, we are going to feel ugly and maybe appear that way to others. And the ones who are looking at us, who are judging us and thinking we are ugly or treating as if we are, then they too are ugly because of their sin of judging us. It is irrelevant if we have flawless skin, or acne scarred sin, it is irrelevent if we are a size 4 or a size 24. It is irrelevant if we have cascading silky hair, or thin lanky hair, it is irrelevant if we have beautiful bone structures and perfect profiles, or large noses (me)

Take all the outward beauty away and what do we have left? If we don't have Christ in our hearts and are not living for Him, then we are ugly.

Calluna

Calluna

"Why do I feel I am ugly?'

Because you are listening to lies from the devil.

Just as I have in the past and countless others who until we grab hold onto the real truth about what God says about us and what real beauty is.

Our society is so obsessed with outward appearance. When the real beauty does come from within, it maybe an old cliche. But it is truth. It is Christ who lives in us who will reveal His beauty and it will shine forth from us and people will see Jesus. We must focus on Him and Live our life for Him and the people who really matter most will look beyond the outer apppearance.

I have a couple of friends and they are rather large, but they exude just such love for the Lord, and smile and are kind loving people, I only see beauty.

You know what ugly is? It is SIN, that is what is ugly, the sin of not following Jesus, the sin of ignoring His call to live righteously and developing the fruits of the spirit, love, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness'

If we do not develop and grow and show fruits of the spirit, we are going to feel ugly and maybe appear that way to others. And the ones who are looking at us, who are judging us and thinking we are ugly or treating as if we are, then they too are ugly because of their sin of judging us. It is irrelevant if we have flawless skin, or acne scarred sin, it is irrelevent if we are a size 4 or a size 24. It is irrelevant if we have cascading silky hair, or thin lanky hair, it is irrelevant if we have beautiful bone structures and perfect profiles, or large noses (me)

Take all the outward beauty away and what do we have left? If we don't have Christ in our hearts and are not living for Him, then we are ugly.

Calluna

 

[Sue L]

Calluna.....I agree with what you said for
the most part. God wants us to
feel beautiful and to never feel ugly. We
are all made in the image of God. I do want to say
however, that assuming
that everyone that fights against feeling ugly
and yet not being able to easily
overcome that is simply not bearing the fruit of the Spirit
is wrong and can cause more harm. If you really
thought about it, you would realize that some
of the most beautiful women on earth are not
necessarily Christians. It is really easy to feel lovely and beautiful
when a person has been given
affirmation all their lives and told how
attractive they are from day one.
Some people have had a ton of encouragement
and compliments and have
never felt ugly a day of their lives. Some may be
Christian but many are not.
That's like saying if we love God we'll be physically beautiful and if we don't,
we won't. I was told by my own mother that my best friend (we were around 9
at the time) was prettier than me. In that moment it did something to me and
even though I love God and love people and am bearing fruit according to
God's word, I don't feel beautiful, or at least most of the time I don't.
I struggle with this and to be told, or insinuated, that I don't love
God enough or that I'm self centered because of it,
is adding insult to injury. I know God loves
me. But I grew up where compliments were stingy towards me but lavish
towards my friends, acquaintances and even my enemies.
My mother complimented
anyone else but me at the drop of a hat. Try living with that all your life and then
be told it's because you are not beautiful on the inside
and that's why it doesn't
show on the outside. I could name 100 well known women
that are quite beautiful,
outgoing and popular that don't love or know God. Of course I know He's the only
one that counts. I know His opinion is all that matters.
But I've also had a hard
time overcoming this. I make sure to sincerely compliment and encourage my own
family members and tell them they are beautiful. I hope I am never as stingy with
that as my own mother, whom I love dearly, was, and still is, to me.

 

[Bendito]

Hey, Well I just want some help but this can be from the devil or my self.
But I just wonder why I feel ugly sometimes and sometimes people around me treat me like I’m ugly; but that sometimes is not all people do but I just feel ugly right now.
I guest I’m effected by my old self or the people around me and even in my school and sometimes I feel that way in church but not as bad as it is in school.
One thing about school is that sometimes is kind of like a nightmare. But for once of my life even I have to look at people and say to my self why are they drawing people to them and why I don’t look as good as they do and why I look at people and just notices that I know why they look at me different and there are time’s that I feel I’m not always wanted in some sort of way. I guest people look at me that I’m ugly.

But I remember that this old grown black lady told me that I have a beautiful spirit. But that one thing when I look at my self because when I look at my self in the mirror and that I don’t feel like that it is me but at that the sometime, I do know that it is me.

I don’t want’ to say that I hate myself or saying bad opinion about my self but I wonder what you think about this case

You will hear only 3 voices...Yours, God's, and Satan's..Who are you listening to? God loves you. He says that you are beautiful...Priceless... Satan says 'you are ugly...worthless...stupid...etc

And you say the things that whatever voice you're listening to says

I suggest you do a study of what God says about you. and start speaking what God says.... Yes?