Why does God send the right person at the wrong time?

[blueprint]

Hello everyone, recently I have experienced a break-up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years, and we had to break up due to our life circumstances at the moment as we are very busy and tunnel-visioned on our goals. We were very much in love, we have planned to have kids together and prayed about it and there was almost no doubt that we would get married. And this has just felt like it was the right person but wrong timing. There is so much information about this in the bible but all of it can mean different points and I always drawback to the same question, Why Does God Send The Right Person At The Wrong Time?

Thank you for your responses everyone, can't wait to read them!

 

[mokapuj]

well from what i have read in your statement i doubt it was God who sent a right person at a wrong time but between the two of you, you didnt prioritise your relationship as important as your goals. as you say both of you were to busy looking at your goals instead of you both looking to build this relationship to be what you both want it to be. you may love each other but love should be more in deeds than emotions.

 

[Andyindauk]

Hi Blue,

I seem to remember, have our paths have crossed in the past? It's nice reading posts where the poster pours his / her heart out, and you think hmmm .. yeah been there, i remember that.

Do you remember going to the school disco when you're at high school? Usually it's in the assembly hall, they hire a local DJ who's got a system with 4 big speakers and 4 or 5 large flashing lights- Wow! It's brilliant and you and your mates have a great night but it finishes at 10.00 pm. Then when you're 18 you get into your first night club and it's quadruple wow! Wall to wall speakers, thousands of computerised light shows and the place is rocking!

I think you've just experienced the love equivalent of the school disco. One day you're going to meet a guy who will literally sweep you off your feet. You'll feel butterflies before every meet up, you'll want each meet to last as long as you can keep your eyes open, you'll bore your mates bleating about him, you'll be desperate to get married from within weeks of dating and as you get to know each other that love will deepen and deepen.

If either or both of you feel now's not the right time and there's other things going on and getting in the way, well that's not the unconditional love that a marriage is built on. The Bible describes marriage as the two become one flesh Mark 10:8.

Another good passage to read is Ephesians 5:22-33. If you read it you'll think there's no way I'd let a man do that, but if you read it again more carefully it does start to make sense because it's two way. Husband and wife aren't equal, they both have separate and vital roles in the marriage. Physical love is integral 1 Corinthians 7:5. Marriage is so important, there's lots in the Bible about it. Sharing your faith and chatting and discussing about Bible, God is lovely to and praying openly together is just such an intimate thing, it's really lovely.

I'm pretty sure that in the coming years you'll find the real deal. You'll give each other deep and unconditional love that so long as you don't ever get complacent and in a rut, it'll stand the test of time. Love has to be deep like Jesus's but obviously not quite as intense. Past bfs will be a fond memory.

Meanwhile, don't be in any hurry, wait on God's time and just enjoy the present and try not to think too deeply. Concentrate on you and your walk with God by reading and studying the Bible and really getting to know God through intense and intimate prayer.

God bless you.

 

[William L. P.]

Hello everyone, recently I have experienced a break-up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years, and we had to break up due to our life circumstances at the moment as we are very busy and tunnel-visioned on our goals. We were very much in love, we have planned to have kids together and prayed about it and there was almost no doubt that we would get married. And this has just felt like it was the right person but wrong timing. There is so much information about this in the bible but all of it can mean different points and I always drawback to the same question, Why Does God Send The Right Person At The Wrong Time?

Thank you for your responses everyone, can't wait to read them!

(1 Cor. 7:32-35)
Sometimes our vision of what we need and when does not correspond with Gods plans for us. If you have doubt as to the timing it is because "you" are not ready! A person can serve God and a marriage mate as well but you will have to give
some of your time with God to your mate. Marriage is a very big commitment when you marry you are "one" in God's eyes. If you can't devote the time that is required to a marriage it will fail so maybe it is a blessing for you instead of the wrong
time. A single person often has more time and greater personal freedom than a married person does. These are unique advantages that may allow one to expand their ministry. Either way it requires commitment to a choice one you will have to
live with the rest of your life.

 

[Bob Carabbio]

Hello everyone, recently I have experienced a break-up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years, and we had to break up due to our life circumstances at the moment as we are very busy and tunnel-visioned on our goals. We were very much in love, we have planned to have kids together and prayed about it and there was almost no doubt that we would get married. And this has just felt like it was the right person but wrong timing. There is so much information about this in the bible but all of it can mean different points and I always drawback to the same question, Why Does God Send The Right Person At The Wrong Time?

Thank you for your responses everyone, can't wait to read them!

He doesn't. God's not the only one who can "Send People". If GOD does it, it'll be the RIGHT person at the RIGHT time.

 

[PloughBoy]

Oh, like when He send the Devil, in the wilderness to temp, "Jesus"?

(Matthew 4:1)

American Standard Version
Then was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil.

Now my question is. Who sent the Devil? And for what reason? And was he the right Devil? And was it at the right time, when he was hungry?

 

[Bob Carabbio]

Oh, like when He send the Devil, in the wilderness to temp, "Jesus"?

ABSOLUTELY!!! ANything that's not TESTED (Tempted) is NOT REAL. The devil hit Jesus with the SAME temptations in the SAME order that he hit Adam & Eve with (Jesus was tempted in EVERY RESPECT as we are, and the mechanism of temptation is laid out in James 1. Adam & Eve let their lust CONCEIVE, and become SINFUL ACTION. Jesus nipped it in the but, and countered the enticement with God's Word. Adam FAILED the test, Jesus ACED it.

Now my question is. Who sent the Devil? And for what reason? And was he the right Devil? And was it at the right time, when he was hungry?

Why was Jesus starving in the wilderness to begin with??? THE HOLY SPIRIT SENT HIM THERE AND TOLD HIM TO FAST. The Devil saw his chance in a weakened Jesus, and started the ENTICEMENT - "IF YOU ARE THE SON OF GOD". You've gotta remember that Jesus had to accept His "Sonship" by FAITH, and FAITH that doesn't ACE the testing isn't real.

 

[PloughBoy]

ok, I am not going to say anything. i'm just going to shadow this one.