Women manipulators 101

[Godbehonored]

It’s very obvious that the men of today have no discretion or wisdom to spot women who are Jezebels and manipulators. Some say it’s due to the wiring of men to go after what feels good. So it’s time to wise up and educate yourselves men if you want to choose wives who are worthy.

Signs of manipulators:

1) Acting sweet, loving, considerate and interested in you right at the start.

This is a classic good cop game that manipulators play. They do it to create a good first impression about them and make you feel good, but it’s a curse and a spell cast on you. The reason this is manipulation is because it’s not authentic. You have not even shown to them what kind of man you are, so WHY are they so loving etc to you at the start? It makes no sense whatsoever. As for their feigned interest in you, they are NOT interested in who you are, rather what you can GIVE. Maybe they spotted that you are a giving man and that is why they picked you to manipulate.

2) They are sweet and flirty with many men and are close with many men

You are just one of their many men they use to satisfy their needs (they are a void that can never be satisfied). So obviously they will be close with many men. This is a big red flag which points to fidelity issues later on. Yet men of today are so blind and think that it’s normal for women to have close guy friends. Unfortunately all of those women are manipulators, they just may not be using you because you are not the kind of giving man they can get the most out of. Godly women keep a healthy distance from men and don’t form close relationships with men who are not their husbands.

3) They want something from you, period

It can be your love, attention, resources. In a healthy relationship people have needs too, but manipulators want their needs met no matter what. If you don’t give it to them they will use tears, play victim, guilt trip you to get their needs met. People in healthy relationships give and take, manipulators take and take and treat you like a slave who owes them.

In fact a godly woman does not even want anything from you. They just want you to be happy even if you are not with them. You will never see a manipulator who is selfless like this. They are marked by a narcissistic selfishness and EASY to spot if you men bother to pay attention!

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings,

Proverbs has plenty of good advice regarding this.

Perhaps you could find some that supports what you have posted?


Bless you ....><>

 

[Godbehonored]

Men give all sorts of stupid excuses for choosing evil women or making mistakes such as being seduced into bed by wicked seductresses.

“it’s hard wired into men to focus on visuals”
“men go for what feels good at first impression”

As though men are completely helpless to resist the evils of seductresses. If that is the case, HOW did Joseph manage to run away from his master’s evil wife when she tried to lure him into bed?? Or how did Job make a covenant with his eyes to not even LOOK at a maid (woman) so he doesn’t get seduced??? Mind you, these men lived in the Old Testament times and did not even have the Spirit infilling them!!

The true reality is men who give such excuses just want to feel better about their mistakes by excusing their own sinful attitudes as helplessness. They never even truly repented of their sins, they just want to feel better.

My question is: if a man is not aspiring to grow spiritually into a man like Joseph or Job, why does he even call himself a Christian?

 

[Godbehonored]

Greetings,

Proverbs has plenty of good advice regarding this.

Perhaps you could find some that supports what you have posted?


Bless you ....><>

Plenty.

1) Playing the good cop with seductive words

Proverbs 2:16-17
It will rescue you from the forbidden woman,
from the stranger with seductive words

Proverbs 5:3-4
Though the lips of the forbidden woman drip honey
and her speech is smoother than oil, in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a double-edged sword.

Proverbs 6:24
to keep you from the evil woman,
from the smooth tongue of the adulteress.

2) Flirts with many men, close with men who are NOT their husband

Proverbs 6:24
Do not lust in your heart for her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes.

Proverbs 7:21

With her great persuasion she entices him; with her flattering lips she lures him.

Proverbs 7:10-13
Then a woman came out to meet him,
with the attire of a harlot and cunning of heart. She is loud and defiant;
her feet do not remain at home. Now in the street, now in the squares, she lurks at every corner. She seizes him and kisses him

3) Wants something (love, sex, attention etc) from men, period

Proverbs 7:18-19
Come, let us take our fill of love till morning.
Let us delight in loving caresses! For my husband is not at home;
he has gone on a long journey.

 

[Godbehonored]

Correction: Proverbs 6:25
Do not lust in your heart for her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes.

 

[Brother Paul]

It’s very obvious that the men of today have no discretion or wisdom to spot women who are Jezebels and manipulators. Some say it’s due to the wiring of men to go after what feels good. So it’s time to wise up and educate yourselves men if you want to choose wives who are worthy.

Signs of manipulators:

1) Acting sweet, loving, considerate and interested in you right at the start.

This is a classic good cop game that manipulators play. They do it to create a good first impression about them and make you feel good, but it’s a curse and a spell cast on you. The reason this is manipulation is because it’s not authentic. You have not even shown to them what kind of man you are, so WHY are they so loving etc to you at the start? It makes no sense whatsoever. As for their feigned interest in you, they are NOT interested in who you are, rather what you can GIVE. Maybe they spotted that you are a giving man and that is why they picked you to manipulate.

2) They are sweet and flirty with many men and are close with many men

You are just one of their many men they use to satisfy their needs (they are a void that can never be satisfied). So obviously they will be close with many men. This is a big red flag which points to fidelity issues later on. Yet men of today are so blind and think that it’s normal for women to have close guy friends. Unfortunately all of those women are manipulators, they just may not be using you because you are not the kind of giving man they can get the most out of. Godly women keep a healthy distance from men and don’t form close relationships with men who are not their husbands.

3) They want something from you, period

It can be your love, attention, resources. In a healthy relationship people have needs too, but manipulators want their needs met no matter what. If you don’t give it to them they will use tears, play victim, guilt trip you to get their needs met. People in healthy relationships give and take, manipulators take and take and treat you like a slave who owes them.

In fact a godly woman does not even want anything from you. They just want you to be happy even if you are not with them. You will never see a manipulator who is selfless like this. They are marked by a narcissistic selfishness and EASY to spot if you men bother to pay attention!

I have to tell you sis...I am proud to see you as a woman bringing this up to the men on this site. It is an oft forgotten or not considered issue. We men are so easily drawn away by our lusts. It is the essence of the idea of girding up the LOINS of one's mind.

I also have known a large number of women that have a sort of savior syndrome, who know a man may be irresponsible, or a misogynist, or be anti-Christian, and because they are attracted to him physically, they think they can change them? One of my three daughters (who is allegedly a believer) has this problem. She is always attracted to the guys that are not good for her and it has never panned out.

Men should learn to watch for some of the earmarks you are indicating. There are many fine and caring women out there (just as with men). A wise person once told me "Know the truth" and once you do the false sticks out like a sore thumb. It is a good rule for guidance. Thanks for making this an issue to be discussed.

 

[Godbehonored]

I have to tell you sis...I am proud to see you as a woman bringing this up to the men on this site. It is an oft forgotten or not considered issue. We men are so easily drawn away by our lusts. It is the essence of the idea of girding up the LOINS of one's mind.

I also have known a large number of women that have a sort of savior syndrome, who know a man may be irresponsible, or a misogynist, or be anti-Christian, and because they are attracted to him physically, they think they can change them? One of my three daughters (who is allegedly a believer) has this problem. She is always attracted to the guys that are not good for her and it has never panned out.

Men should learn to watch for some of the earmarks you are indicating. There are many fine and caring women out there (just as with men). A wise person once told me "Know the truth" and once you do the false sticks out like a sore thumb. It is a good rule for guidance. Thanks for making this an issue to be discussed.

Thank you. You are the first man to have the balls to own up that men are part of the problem. Most men don’t want to own up that it is their own ungodliness that causes them to choose bad women over and over!

As for women who choose bad men, it’s also due to ungodliness of the women. Low self esteem, Savior syndrome etc are not the real causes. Why? I have those exact issues for most of my teenage and adolescent years (esp. due to the kind of abuse I was put through for over a decade). I still want to save men I care about nowadays. YET I ran away from evil men and men who aren’t good for me - ALL THE TIME.

The REAL cause is they are drawn to the wrong things in people that reflect a sinful desire in themselves. Like you mentioned, they are drawn physically to the men, so it’s also lust. Most of the surface attractions that draw people to one another are based on lusts, so it’s always sinful desires that really causes anyone to choose a bad partner.

 

[HeavensVoices]

I'm totally for the idea being presented here, but, and though I hate being a contrarian, I have to totally disagree with the 3 points made as indicators of manipulation, and ALSO with the implied axiom that manipulation is evil, which its not, since we humans manipulate our environment around us for GOOD. I think there are other ways to spot evil people that are 98% accurate. I mean, just the first point made is already hazy; someone is nice and pleasing so they are a evil its stated, as if coldness were a sign of goodness (it can be, but not as a fixed law of personality.)

And to personalize it, for my part I spot the best women by Gods grace, and ghost, confront, or run away from the insane one's like the plague. God makes torrents and thunders storm down when I'm, out of lust, helpfulness, or loneliness, interacting with a bad woman and going against my better judgement. He'll FORCE me to do what's best for me and indicate in precise terms were I'm failing, AND eventually leads me to good women, my FAITH intact. That's why I'm destined to WIN in the game of true love