The relationship between husband and wife should be similar to the relationship between Jesus and the Church
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
The Church submits to Jesus, but Jesus is not oppressive to the Church and he does not abuse the Church. He gave his life for his Church.
God loves men and women equally and both are of equal value, but there are distinctions between us and those distinctions should not be blurred. God has different roles for men and women and that is nothing to be upset about. People always seem to think that different roles means different degrees of value and worth but that is not so.