tracey3 said:
Thank you all for all your kind words.. and encouragement. I have not smoked pot in nearly 3 weeks and I have no desire to do.. I was at a Mother's day barbque Sunday. I was offered it and declined. Not even having a craving. Thank you My Lord and Saviour. I know that I am done with it. I have started to take my prozac one week ago. I will stay on it..
Please another subject comes up... I have been married 16 years and my husband is a big time alcoholic and he does smoke up for time to time. The alcoholic is killing me along with my 2 children ages 15 and 13. I am seriously thinkilng of leaving him. Have for some time now. I am afraid, I think it is a sin to leave. Divorce. But I am so unhappy and my husband can be abusive with his mouth. Any suggestions. I have prayed and tried to get him to go for help but to no avail.. My children are hurting inside but thank God there are still sane.
God Bless. Praise his Holy Name.. My Sweet Jesus..
Is your husband a believer? Do you want you marriage to work? If needed you can seprate for a time without getting divorced. I was asked once by someone who wanted some marital counsel what was my success rate? I answered not very good because generally when most would come for counsel, they really had already made up their mind and wanted to get justification for divorce and not counsel on how to get back their marriage. It's so ludicrous, we will maintenace or service our cars, homes, toys(big and small), and ourselves but we won't put much into our relationships and then can't figure out why they don't last.
Malachi 2:16
For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “It is as cruel as putting on a victim’s bloodstained coat,” says the Lord Almighty. “So guard yourself; always remain loyal to your wife.”
Now if you will be patient, and allow God to work, things will change. God has not given a believer the right to divorce. If your spouse is not a beliver and wants to divorce you God's word says to give it to them, but they are divorcing you.
1Corinthians 7:12-16
12*Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man* has a wife who is an unbeliever and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. 13*And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. 14*For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not have a godly influence, but now they are set apart for him. 15*(But if the husband or wife who isn’t a Christian insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is not required to stay with them, for God wants his children to live in peace.) 16*You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you.
What if your spouse is a believer and wants a divorce? Follow Jesus' counsel.
Matthew 18:15-17
15*“If another believer* sins against you, go privately and point out the fault. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. 16 But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. 17 If that person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church. If the church decides you are right, but the other person won’t accept it, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector.
It takes time to deal with any relationship and we should always allow God to move and work if we want our relationship to be restored. Jesus gave the best advice concerning failing relationships.
Revelation 2:5
Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent.
When you have a relationship where the other was been hurt and is distancing themselves from you, do whatever you did in the beginning that drawed that person to you. Do your fist works over. It takes time and patience, but in most cases the efforts are rewarded with a restored relationship.