Help me to forgive this person

[chihuahua14]

I don't see myself having any good conversation with this girl. I want to stay away from her and I want nothing to do with her and do not want to subject myself to her or her abuse. Even the Bible speaks of mean people and says to stay away from them. 2 Timothy 3:1-5

I want to protect and preserve myself. She seems dangerous to me. I don't know if she might hurt me physically or not she seems crazy and people like that are unpredictable. I know she is always trying to hurt me emotionally and mentally. I don't think God wants us to be abused. I will just pray if I ever happen to see her again and if she tries to start something with me I think I will have to stand up for myself. I am going to have self respect and stand up for myself and say something intelligent that might give her some good wisdom. Proverbs 15:1-2

 

[chihuahua14]

Amen Brother ! get your mind off her, I will be praying, one of the biggest things that have helped me in similar situations, is go and find people in some sort of need and help them in Jesus Name, maybe feed the homeless, visit a widow at a nursing home.. Something in the heavens happens when we serve others in the Lords, and we are given a peace unknown to others..

I am a female LOL! Yeah I have got to get my mind off of her. I am just trying to see what all I can learn from all of this. I do not want to idolize anyone or anything!

 

[chihuahua14]

You are right it is not easy to pray for your enemies or those who mistreat you. What is "impossible" with man is "possible" with God.
Pray for God to send someone across their path to hear the Gospel message of salvation and or use you to proclaim it to them.
Before all this, you must forgive them for what they said or done against you.

I guess I can still pray for someone to cross her path and give her the Gospel message of salvation. After that I think I need to move on. This was all just consuming me too much. I just wanted to see what all I can learn from this and how I can use this experience to grow.

 

[chihuahua14]

Amen Brother ! get your mind off her, I will be praying, one of the biggest things that have helped me in similar situations, is go and find people in some sort of need and help them in Jesus Name, maybe feed the homeless, visit a widow at a nursing home.. Something in the heavens happens when we serve others in the Lords, and we are given a peace unknown to others..

Thank you for praying for me. I will include you in my prayers too. God bless you ❤

 

[Peter1]

I say remember you are doing this for yourself obviously you carry this around.Forgiveness releases you of this burden its not about the other person.If a person is abusing you or has abused you - you can forgive them but it does not mean you continue to be a victim you can't control what they do or think.Its about healing yourself and finding peace.Resentment can eat a person up driving them to drink and drugs.When you hate someone you only hurt yourself the other person doesn't feel it the poison is in you.People always feel like they are doing it for the other person and that's where the mistake is made.Shes the one with the problem you could be dealing with a very resentful person these people sometimes never change.
I once heard several people talking that if you pray for that person for 14 days the resentment will be lifted don't know if its true.


"If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free. Even when you don't really want it for them and your prayers are only words and you don't mean it, go ahead and do it anyway. Do it everyday for two weeks, and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate, understanding and love."

 

[Curtis]

Thread 'Forgiveness an act of Faith?'

Oct 21, 2024

I find it amusing that when Jesus had just finished teaching his apostles about becoming offended (unforgiveness), and that they should forgive those who offended them, the first words that came out of the Apostle's mouth were.

“Lord, increase our faith” (Luke 17:3-7)

I could just hear what they were thinking. “We can't do that!! Lord increase our faith so we can do what you just told us to do!!!” It is very important to know, and understand that these men were not “born again” at this time because Jesus was not yet glorified. The LOVE of God had NOT yet been shed abroad into...

• Curtis
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[Christ4Ever]

Dear Brother, @Curtis
And yet, I'm not so far removed from being the same way, even with the Holy Spirit prompting me to!
I was set to go out to street evangelism and the fear was so overwhelming, that I couldn't move. My wife saw this and was concerned, and told me just tell them you can't make it. In prayer, I asked Jesus even as the fear was washing over me in immobility, to help me!
I can still picture Him turning to me in my spirit, with a frown, and said "GO".

Of course I went...running! I didn't even take the time to say good-bye to my wife!

Thanks for reminding me of that brother.

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
\o/
<><

 

[Peter1]

People have a tendency to look outwards its only natural but I think in the Christian Faith and I think its one of the things Jesus meant that you have to look inwards first before looking outwards.Your going to find the Holy Spirit within not out there.
For instance to correct another sinner you must look inwards and clean your side of the street first if needed see if its the Holy Spirit or your judgement.Then approach the person in private never using scandal.Its a tough thing to do.Punishing another person will do nothing it does not absolve them of the sin in any way.But if you do look inwards and clean it up you will be a better conduit of the Holy Spirit.That's what were doing the Holy Spirit becomes stronger in you the more you battle and overcome sin.When we sin it blocks us from the Holy Spirit.A lot of our faith is about whats going on inside so you need to learn to look inward with honesty not ego before looking outwards.It not easy for me but I try to look inwards when something is bothering me first but that big ego of mine keeps blocking the door.

 

[Admon Mikha'el]

I don't see myself having any good conversation with this girl. I want to stay away from her and I want nothing to do with her and do not want to subject myself to her or her abuse. Even the Bible speaks of mean people and says to stay away from them. 2 Timothy 3:1-5

I want to protect and preserve myself. She seems dangerous to me. I don't know if she might hurt me physically or not she seems crazy and people like that are unpredictable. I know she is always trying to hurt me emotionally and mentally. I don't think God wants us to be abused. I will just pray if I ever happen to see her again and if she tries to start something with me I think I will have to stand up for myself. I am going to have self respect and stand up for myself and say something intelligent that might give her some good wisdom. Proverbs 15:1-2

So choose to forgive her, and do it. Speak it...Every day, every hour, every minute if you have to....Forgiving is what YOU do..Nobody can do it for you

 

[chihuahua14]

Thread 'Forgiveness an act of Faith?'

Oct 21, 2024

I find it amusing that when Jesus had just finished teaching his apostles about becoming offended (unforgiveness), and that they should forgive those who offended them, the first words that came out of the Apostle's mouth were.

“Lord, increase our faith” (Luke 17:3-7)

I could just hear what they were thinking. “We can't do that!! Lord increase our faith so we can do what you just told us to do!!!” It is very important to know, and understand that these men were not “born again” at this time because Jesus was not yet glorified. The LOVE of God had NOT yet been shed abroad into...

• Curtis
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• Forum: Devotionals

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Thank you for this! This was educational to me and I needed it! God bless you!

 

[chihuahua14]

@Peter1 Thank you for all your help. God bless you

 

[chihuahua14]

So choose to forgive her, and do it. Speak it...Every day, every hour, every minute if you have to....Forgiving is what YOU do..Nobody can do it for you

I agree I have to do it and no one can do it for me. I have to tend to my own soul.

 

[Twistie]

There is this girl that used to bully and harass me really bad in high school she was one of many girls who bullied and tormented me it was her and her other little friends who would do this anyways I have been seeing her around a lot recently and we are both now in our late twenties and this girl still tries to scare and intimidate me!

I saw her in a grocery store and I saw her before she saw me so I knew she was there and I just chose to ignore her and anyways she came up behind me in line and slammed her frozen pizza down on the conveyor belt behind me and I just ignored her and don't even look at her or give her the attention she wants I just kept minding my own business and continued to pay. Then when I was trying to put my stuff away she was like trying to bulldoze over me getting all in my space like trying to rush me out of the way and it is like she is trying so hard to get my attention and get me to look at her so she can be mean I guess. I just kept ignoring her and would not look at her and when we were getting in our cars in the parking lot I saw her looking at me.

I then saw her again a few months later maybe and she smirked when she saw me she is always trying to act superior and make me feel like I am inferior and worse than her and she is better than me or something. I always try to not look at her so I don't have to deal with her giving me cruel looks.

I then saw her again at a grocery store I was walking out of an aisle around the corner where the shelves are at and she was walking into the aisle and I didn't see her and we almost bumped into each other and I just kept walking. I then a few weeks later saw this girl AGAIN at another grocery store she was walking away from where she had finished paying and was walking toward the exit and I saw her and just looked away. I could feel her staring at me and I just kept ignoring her not looking at her and was just looking at the cashier who I was walking toward so I could pay and leave.

I do not want to look at this girl and give her any opportunity to try to be mean to me! I saw her again at a store after that but she did not see me. It is weird how I keep seeing her so much.

My questions are how do I forgive this girl who bullied me in the past and now whenever I see her she still tries to intimidate and scare me and bring me down? It is hard to forgive someone who will not stop hurting you! I get so tired of seeing her around all the time! Maybe God is using this as a challenge to teach me to forgive! I want to forgive everything the bullies did to me in high school and let go of all those past hurts. You all just don't know what all I went through during my high school years! Seeing her just triggers me and reminds me of all those horrific times!

I really don't want to keep seeing her. I will just keep ignoring her I guess. I just want to know how to forgive. I want to stop thinking about her and everything that is wrong with her and how she drives me nuts. I want to not look at the twig in her eye and look at the plank in my own eye you know? Matthew 7:3-5 I want to stop thinking about people who drive me crazy! I just think there is something really wrong with this girl. She bullied me in school and now here we are so many years later and she is still trying to aggravate me! Please help! I want to forgive I read somewhere forgiving helps you heal from past hurts. I want to be godly and do what God wants!

For some reason you irk this girl or should I say this Spirit and by you ignoring her n keeping your back towards her that shows her you don't fear her.. she's trying to instill fear in ya it seems.. you keep doing what you're doing and draw near to the Father in this time for He tells us
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.”

As for forgiveness I myself asked the Father to show me how to forgive because that spirit of anger that causes one not to forgive will just grow I know I've dealt with it for many many years it was uncomfortable only the Father can teach us

 

[chihuahua14]

For some reason you irk this girl or should I say this Spirit and by you ignoring her n keeping your back towards her that shows her you don't fear her.. she's trying to instill fear in ya it seems.. you keep doing what you're doing and draw near to the Father in this time for He tells us
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.”

As for forgiveness I myself asked the Father to show me how to forgive because that spirit of anger that causes one not to forgive will just grow I know I've dealt with it for many many years it was uncomfortable only the Father can teach us

I know, she is trying to scare me! I just don't give her the attention that she wants. I don't act all scared or hurt I just stay cool calm and collected. I just live my life and go about my business and ignore her. I read somewhere that it's no fun to pick on someone who doesn't seem to care. I think it makes people like this mad when you ignore them because they want your attention and want to see you hurt/sad/scared it gives them like an ego boost or something.

I agree with that Bible verse and I am going to keep praying for God to teach me how to forgive. The feelings of anger and unforgiveness are very uncomfortable! I agree only the Father can teach us and He is the only teacher!