Hi girls, count me four! lolz... Yeah at the end of trying to figure out why God hasnt gave us any special someone yet... we all dawn to the 'giving up part' and the acceptance of having God-only is the best choice afterall. Ive been reading a book which a sister lend me and I want to share a part of it in this forum.
What to do until Love finds you
Copyright 2007 by Michelle McKinney Hammond
note: the earlier chapter discusses an almost perfect dinner date with an almost perfect guy(likely a christian). . .from his knocking on her door* to their sweet dinner conversation...
ONE MAN WHO TRULY LOVES
Most of us women want to believe everything a man tells us because we are hoping he is "the one." So we listen, then shape our own reality. You know the one Im talking about, the one with trousseau you were considering earlier in the chapter. But there's one small problem: There is another reality - God's reality - in the form of the Holy Spirit. Remember Him?
Ofcourse, you don't usually feel like agreeing with His viewpoint during your dinner date, even though He has a bird's eye view of the situation. In spite of his yellow-caution-flag waving during the dinner discussion, you decide that this man is the one. It really doesn't matter that you don't agree with him on several issues, or that he sucks his teeth. He's so sweet!
Still the yellow flag waves somewhere in your peripheral vision. But how do you slow down your heart rate long enough to look with objective eyes and clarify of thought at the man who stands before you? How do you become willing to take your cues from the Holy Spirit instead of from your feelings or your biological clock?
The answers are found in another man. This man has the same line, but He has a completely different method of operation because He means what He says. He says, "Behold, I stand at the door*, and knock: if any [woman] hear my voice, open the door, I will come to [her] and will sup with [her], and [she] with me" (Revelation 3:20). This means you can look forward to spending some quality time! This man is a wonderful conversationalist. He is tender, compassionate, warm, loving, consistent, generous, a good listener, and a wonderful friend. He is fascinating, and he knows how to treat a woman. When He promoses to do "exceeding abundantly above all that [you] ask or think," look out! You are in for the thrill of a lifetime. The best part of all is that He will never leave you or forsake you.
The man I refer to is Jesus. Now don't start groaning, hear me out. I promise I am not going to give you the Jesus-is-your-husband lecture. I've heard it too, and probably cringed as much as you have. I have all the comebacks memorized - "I want a family before rapture"; "Jesus isn't enough" ; "I have physical needs." Proverbs 27:7 says, "A satisfied soul loathes the honey-comb, but to hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet." Let me illustrate. Have you ever said, "Boy, am I starving!" and then proceeded to eat everything in sight that you knew wasn't good for you because you couldn't wait to cook or to get a decent meal? And so it goes with men. If we focus and concentrate on the man-size hole in our hearts, it begins to take on gigantic proportions that threaten to consume us - along with every rational thought we might possess. This is when we desperate women start to settle for men who should never be considered (much to the horror of our friends and families).
Depending on where you relationship is with Jesus, your attitude about having a mate will tend to flauctuate from desperation to quiet acceptance of God's timing. Jesus knows how you feel. He knows you have physical needs. But please know this: Since we are part of the royal harem (as I like to think of it, although we jointly make up the singular bride of Christ), we don't have to settle for less than the best. Jesus has no intention of entrusting us to the care of spiritual paupers who are incapable of recognizing our true worth.
Ok so lets see.
