Property Of God
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SLE, about that, Is there something in specefic we should look for in a man? I know he must be a true Christian, but is there something else? I mean nobody is perfect but how close should he be to perfect?
How do you know you're in love
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Ultrasonic
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How you would guys differentiate true love from a crush? A little story on my part - this girl in my youth group has been on my mind for almost a year. And I dreamt about 2 incidents - first was that I dreamt that I met her at a train station, then we spoke all throughout the ride to youth service. The next day, while waiting a train station (I usually take the bus but it was raining heavily that day), I saw her standing infront of me because she didn't notice me and I was shocked and happy of course and my dream had come to fruition. Next dream was one which is quite weird because I dreamt that I passed by her house and it was a apartment sort kinda house and I thought how foolish a dream it was but few months later I found out it was true that she did live in the kinda house in my dream. That and other series of events have kept me thinking about her. I don't really know how long does a crush on a person lasts but somehow I'm feeling this is more than a crush because I've never thought of anyone else but her throughout the entire time but I'm still seeking God on this topic but what do you guys think? P.S she is very pretty IMO, so I'm not sure if that is playing a part in my liking her for so long but I've seen others that are prettier but the attraction is never as strong as this girl.
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Truehearts
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maybe u think all these dreamings are sort of a sign or something, but u must remember that whenever you think of something too much you'll definitely dream about it.(like if u stared at a carrot for the whole day, ul really dream of carrot, lolz) Dreams are also God's way of showing us visions to foresee things, its not just you who had this kind of experience, like what they call deja vu. I did have those dreams that came real in a day or two.... so for us not to be derailed with the question. set aside the dream..
And re-evaluate yourself.
How much do you know this girl?
What are the things that you like about her?
Could your feelings atleast measure up to God's definition of love?
Afterall maybe you're just really attracted to her and wanted to be really close to her. In my experiences with our youth group at church, i would recommend you to be still and know God's will. Dont just flaunt your feelings and get ahead of it. . . in short - Don't ruin the friendship. Develop it through growing in Christ and praying.
And re-evaluate yourself.
How much do you know this girl?
What are the things that you like about her?
Could your feelings atleast measure up to God's definition of love?
Afterall maybe you're just really attracted to her and wanted to be really close to her. In my experiences with our youth group at church, i would recommend you to be still and know God's will. Dont just flaunt your feelings and get ahead of it. . . in short - Don't ruin the friendship. Develop it through growing in Christ and praying.
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Ultrasonic
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Thank you sister for your reply
It's good to hear from a female's perspective and I'm glad you said this, its making me thinking about it more deeply.
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solidsnakeslug
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Love is a very strong word friends. You must realize that in our generation today, love is a very common relationship word but do people truly mean what they are saying or is it just a cheap waste of a verb? In 1st corinthians chapter 13, it details a very good list of qualities which stand for love."love is patient, love is kind" Love doesn't have an ego rather, it has a very soft side. Also, ecclessiastes 3 also contains a very important them; "patience". There certainly is a time for everything but we must be willing to reliaze that our time will be our time.
If you want to truly know what love is, then just wait for the right sign and everything will fall together like a complex puzzle.
Rafael
If you want to truly know what love is, then just wait for the right sign and everything will fall together like a complex puzzle.
Rafael
SpiritLedEd
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If by "perfect" you mean flawless or nearly flawless, forget it. In Scripture, the word translated "perfect" often means "mature". Measure him by spiritual maturity -does he truly love the Lord? and is he respectful toward others? He may put on an act for you, but how he treats others is a sign of how he'll treat you after the wedding.
SLE
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TheWidowsOffering
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Just like what our single ladies telling here. "I prefer not to marry rather than marrying the wrong person." Hehe... And they are becoming old ladies...
Oh Lord deliver our Isaac in your perfect time.
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rizen1
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Thats really good brother.
I'm single but I've come to the point where the only true love for me is God.
I give up...
I have to go get ready for bible study tonight.
God bless everyone ..
Property Of God
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Yes sister, I really must agree, no guy is even good, let alone perfect, I give up aswell, I'd rather be single actually, and depend on God's love only because many guys are plain evil, if I might say.
Truehearts
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Hi girls, count me four! lolz... Yeah at the end of trying to figure out why God hasnt gave us any special someone yet... we all dawn to the 'giving up part' and the acceptance of having God-only is the best choice afterall. Ive been reading a book which a sister lend me and I want to share a part of it in this forum.
What to do until Love finds you
Copyright 2007 by Michelle McKinney Hammond
note: the earlier chapter discusses an almost perfect dinner date with an almost perfect guy(likely a christian). . .from his knocking on her door* to their sweet dinner conversation...
ONE MAN WHO TRULY LOVES
Most of us women want to believe everything a man tells us because we are hoping he is "the one." So we listen, then shape our own reality. You know the one Im talking about, the one with trousseau you were considering earlier in the chapter. But there's one small problem: There is another reality - God's reality - in the form of the Holy Spirit. Remember Him?
Ofcourse, you don't usually feel like agreeing with His viewpoint during your dinner date, even though He has a bird's eye view of the situation. In spite of his yellow-caution-flag waving during the dinner discussion, you decide that this man is the one. It really doesn't matter that you don't agree with him on several issues, or that he sucks his teeth. He's so sweet!
Still the yellow flag waves somewhere in your peripheral vision. But how do you slow down your heart rate long enough to look with objective eyes and clarify of thought at the man who stands before you? How do you become willing to take your cues from the Holy Spirit instead of from your feelings or your biological clock?
The answers are found in another man. This man has the same line, but He has a completely different method of operation because He means what He says. He says, "Behold, I stand at the door*, and knock: if any [woman] hear my voice, open the door, I will come to [her] and will sup with [her], and [she] with me" (Revelation 3:20). This means you can look forward to spending some quality time! This man is a wonderful conversationalist. He is tender, compassionate, warm, loving, consistent, generous, a good listener, and a wonderful friend. He is fascinating, and he knows how to treat a woman. When He promoses to do "exceeding abundantly above all that [you] ask or think," look out! You are in for the thrill of a lifetime. The best part of all is that He will never leave you or forsake you.
The man I refer to is Jesus. Now don't start groaning, hear me out. I promise I am not going to give you the Jesus-is-your-husband lecture. I've heard it too, and probably cringed as much as you have. I have all the comebacks memorized - "I want a family before rapture"; "Jesus isn't enough" ; "I have physical needs." Proverbs 27:7 says, "A satisfied soul loathes the honey-comb, but to hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet." Let me illustrate. Have you ever said, "Boy, am I starving!" and then proceeded to eat everything in sight that you knew wasn't good for you because you couldn't wait to cook or to get a decent meal? And so it goes with men. If we focus and concentrate on the man-size hole in our hearts, it begins to take on gigantic proportions that threaten to consume us - along with every rational thought we might possess. This is when we desperate women start to settle for men who should never be considered (much to the horror of our friends and families).
Depending on where you relationship is with Jesus, your attitude about having a mate will tend to flauctuate from desperation to quiet acceptance of God's timing. Jesus knows how you feel. He knows you have physical needs. But please know this: Since we are part of the royal harem (as I like to think of it, although we jointly make up the singular bride of Christ), we don't have to settle for less than the best. Jesus has no intention of entrusting us to the care of spiritual paupers who are incapable of recognizing our true worth.
What to do until Love finds you
Copyright 2007 by Michelle McKinney Hammond
note: the earlier chapter discusses an almost perfect dinner date with an almost perfect guy(likely a christian). . .from his knocking on her door* to their sweet dinner conversation...
ONE MAN WHO TRULY LOVES
Most of us women want to believe everything a man tells us because we are hoping he is "the one." So we listen, then shape our own reality. You know the one Im talking about, the one with trousseau you were considering earlier in the chapter. But there's one small problem: There is another reality - God's reality - in the form of the Holy Spirit. Remember Him?
Ofcourse, you don't usually feel like agreeing with His viewpoint during your dinner date, even though He has a bird's eye view of the situation. In spite of his yellow-caution-flag waving during the dinner discussion, you decide that this man is the one. It really doesn't matter that you don't agree with him on several issues, or that he sucks his teeth. He's so sweet!
Still the yellow flag waves somewhere in your peripheral vision. But how do you slow down your heart rate long enough to look with objective eyes and clarify of thought at the man who stands before you? How do you become willing to take your cues from the Holy Spirit instead of from your feelings or your biological clock?
The answers are found in another man. This man has the same line, but He has a completely different method of operation because He means what He says. He says, "Behold, I stand at the door*, and knock: if any [woman] hear my voice, open the door, I will come to [her] and will sup with [her], and [she] with me" (Revelation 3:20). This means you can look forward to spending some quality time! This man is a wonderful conversationalist. He is tender, compassionate, warm, loving, consistent, generous, a good listener, and a wonderful friend. He is fascinating, and he knows how to treat a woman. When He promoses to do "exceeding abundantly above all that [you] ask or think," look out! You are in for the thrill of a lifetime. The best part of all is that He will never leave you or forsake you.
The man I refer to is Jesus. Now don't start groaning, hear me out. I promise I am not going to give you the Jesus-is-your-husband lecture. I've heard it too, and probably cringed as much as you have. I have all the comebacks memorized - "I want a family before rapture"; "Jesus isn't enough" ; "I have physical needs." Proverbs 27:7 says, "A satisfied soul loathes the honey-comb, but to hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet." Let me illustrate. Have you ever said, "Boy, am I starving!" and then proceeded to eat everything in sight that you knew wasn't good for you because you couldn't wait to cook or to get a decent meal? And so it goes with men. If we focus and concentrate on the man-size hole in our hearts, it begins to take on gigantic proportions that threaten to consume us - along with every rational thought we might possess. This is when we desperate women start to settle for men who should never be considered (much to the horror of our friends and families).
Depending on where you relationship is with Jesus, your attitude about having a mate will tend to flauctuate from desperation to quiet acceptance of God's timing. Jesus knows how you feel. He knows you have physical needs. But please know this: Since we are part of the royal harem (as I like to think of it, although we jointly make up the singular bride of Christ), we don't have to settle for less than the best. Jesus has no intention of entrusting us to the care of spiritual paupers who are incapable of recognizing our true worth.
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SpiritLedEd
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Truehearts, Thanks for posting this. Ive been tellijng people for years that the single state is of God just as the married state is. You spoke of people saying "Jesus isn't enough". Whoever says "Jesus isn't enough" may not have enough of Jesus.
SLE
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Truehearts
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oh well, thats not really from me but from the book... its a kind of remorse some desperate single woman might toss out of waiting. I intended not to edit anything from the whole paragraph of that chapter, for copyright sake.
The single truth about being single is that GOD is ENOUGH.
That in mind theres nothing to worry about being single, the past, present and future is in hands of Someone with greater control and assurance...
which by the way, doesn't even measure to any man we wish to be with.
He's the incomparable and perfect partner in life - Jesus.:wink:
TheWidowsOffering
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dates with God?
awwwwww.. so sweet Sis. Rizen..
i remember last year's christmas season which i spent my life alone with Him. O His love, His presence so wonderful..
many wanted to take me home but no.. i just wanted to stay with my Lord..
Never in His presence shall we be incomplete.. Praise the Lord.
"You're more than enough LOrd..''
awwwwww.. so sweet Sis. Rizen..
i remember last year's christmas season which i spent my life alone with Him. O His love, His presence so wonderful..
many wanted to take me home but no.. i just wanted to stay with my Lord..
Never in His presence shall we be incomplete.. Praise the Lord.
"You're more than enough LOrd..''
AudreyNicole
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Hmmm well I believe I found my love 
Ok so lets see.
~Did he come in the package I was expecting/ wanted?
No. lol. I definitely wasn't expecting anything, But I suppose this could be a case of opposites attracting because he was pretty much the exact opposite of what I always had in mind. This made me very hesitant in the beginning; I'm not a "recreational dater" so I had to be sure he was worth my while. After months of him not giving up I finally decided there might be something
~Did he meet my preferences?
Not right away. Again we are pretty opposite personalities so I had to get used to quite a few different things. But what makes us work is our values are the same; I always say we're opposite on the outside but exactly the same on the inside.
~Do opposites attract?
Yes! We both are completely different and come from very different lifestyles and backgrounds. But like I said, our values/morals are the same so that's what makes it work. As for the personalities though, I think our differences only make us stronger. He played basketball in high school and their motto was "adversity is our greatest asset", and that is so true! Differences aren't bad things. In fact, some of them are great because they're things I've always wanted in my life but never had, and now through him I get to experience those, and vica-versa for him. I cannot imagine being with someone who was the same as I, it seems so boring. I always heard the saying opposites attract, but there is a difference between attraction and compatibility. I was always told opposites attract, but only for a short while out of the initial lust of attraction, but that they couldn't survive commitment because they were different. But in this case I believe we are completely compatible because we "complete each other" in a sense. All his weaknesses are my strengths, and his strengths my weaknesses. And he's more familiar with certain things that I'm not familiar with, and vice-versa. So not only do we make a dynamic team together, but we experience more together. Its great! I truly believe God creates such partnerships for that exact purpose
Hope that helps Love is AMAZING!!
Ok so lets see.~Did he come in the package I was expecting/ wanted?
No. lol. I definitely wasn't expecting anything, But I suppose this could be a case of opposites attracting because he was pretty much the exact opposite of what I always had in mind. This made me very hesitant in the beginning; I'm not a "recreational dater" so I had to be sure he was worth my while. After months of him not giving up I finally decided there might be something
~Did he meet my preferences?
Not right away. Again we are pretty opposite personalities so I had to get used to quite a few different things. But what makes us work is our values are the same; I always say we're opposite on the outside but exactly the same on the inside.
~Do opposites attract?
Yes!
We both are completely different and come from very different lifestyles and backgrounds. But like I said, our values/morals are the same so that's what makes it work. As for the personalities though, I think our differences only make us stronger. He played basketball in high school and their motto was "adversity is our greatest asset", and that is so true! Differences aren't bad things. In fact, some of them are great because they're things I've always wanted in my life but never had, and now through him I get to experience those, and vica-versa for him. I cannot imagine being with someone who was the same as I, it seems so boring. I always heard the saying opposites attract, but there is a difference between attraction and compatibility. I was always told opposites attract, but only for a short while out of the initial lust of attraction, but that they couldn't survive commitment because they were different. But in this case I believe we are completely compatible because we "complete each other" in a sense. All his weaknesses are my strengths, and his strengths my weaknesses. And he's more familiar with certain things that I'm not familiar with, and vice-versa. So not only do we make a dynamic team together, but we experience more together. Its great! I truly believe God creates such partnerships for that exact purpose Hope that helps
Love is AMAZING!!tranquility
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Finding Love is a PAIN IN THE NECK!
I wouldn't trade places with any of you single people not for a minute
all the confusing vibes...
never knowing for sure about this one.....
always feeling like a detective.....
and then trying to go home to go to sleep
with all that boiling around inside....
IT'S TOTALLY A REAL DRAG
i totally feel for you all
but for me i knew it was love when i couldn't stand to be away from
my husband
he was always on my mind
i couldn't talk to him enough
i couldnt see him enough
FOR ME, THAT WAS WHAT TOLD ME_ IT HAD TO BE LOVE
HAPPILY MARRIED FOR 8 YEARS NOW!
GOOD LUCK CLEARING YOUR HEAD AT NIGHT SO YOU CAN SLEEP!
MY CONDOLANCES!
I wouldn't trade places with any of you single people not for a minute
all the confusing vibes...
never knowing for sure about this one.....
always feeling like a detective.....
and then trying to go home to go to sleep
with all that boiling around inside....
IT'S TOTALLY A REAL DRAG
i totally feel for you all
but for me i knew it was love when i couldn't stand to be away from
my husband
he was always on my mind
i couldn't talk to him enough
i couldnt see him enough
FOR ME, THAT WAS WHAT TOLD ME_ IT HAD TO BE LOVE
HAPPILY MARRIED FOR 8 YEARS NOW!
GOOD LUCK CLEARING YOUR HEAD AT NIGHT SO YOU CAN SLEEP!
MY CONDOLANCES!