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Hey pookie I enjoy nutting through this marriage thing with you its something thats puzzled me sometimes why do people get married when they wont honor the marriage and treat each other so badly?!
In the bible it doesnt really say that adam and eve got married only that they knew each other...remember they were the only two people on earth at that time and eve came out of adam and obviously she was meant for him (to help him name the animals etc) and that when they came together she was his wife and became the mother of all living.
But obviously God had designed men and women for each other and yes the man was first and women was second and she was for him not the other way round.
I will look up some more scriptures of Gods view of marriage but i do know that..it is something to be celebrated and to stay pure for. Sadly I was not one of those who stayed pure and all the men around me were not interested in staying pure either, so one of my reasons for shying away from it is to do with that experience I think and also someone who I thought would have made a great dad and actually wanted children, perhaps with me...well it was wrong timing, and something I learned is..some men dont actually care for who they marry just as long as they have someone. They will just go to the next one available...to me it all seems swings and roundabouts wheras I wanted a true love! I found that in Jesus.
He is someone who died for me..(so earthly marriage is kind of out of the question lol) but He has always been faithful and true...and I also want to be faithful and true, so well anyway.
This guys thats quite nosy about me has a few issues lol. I mean he was totally trying to check me out and I just said im not that kind of girl (ie a ho). I think its so tempting these days to be that kind of girl...if you in a hurry.
Friendships are far better than so called relationships that people get into these days, I would rather have a friendship than an unhealthy relationship with someone who doesnt know how to be a true friend. Men that jump the gun...far too many! Women who jump the gun...also. The gun has been jumped on way too much. It all gets very awkward I think when I will be thinking one thing but the guy will be only be thinking of one thing and assumes I am thinking if it when Im not!
All the things ive read or God showing me in the Bible is how its ok not to marry and even how its better.
For example in corinthians it does say if a man keeps his virgin and doest marry her (i.e lets her be free and doesnt defile her) all the better. But if he cant contain himself (ie self control) then he should marry her because if he cant contain himself then he might be distracted by women all the time.
Us women are apparently very distracting to men. I mean I will just be wearing normal clothes and it would turn some men to look at me. Its like,,,havent you seen a woman wearing a dress before? i dont think it was even a dress just a normal trenchcoat thing. Its not like Im putting on a show. I mean the whole boob thing as well. For some men its like they need to stare. Well they can look but they cant touch.
I was on the beach one day with a friend she went off for a swim and i was lying on the sand face down having a nap in my bathers and next thing i know I feel this hand on my leg..this guy who I dont even know was stroking it?!
I was like hey rack off! I think he was a bit intellectually challenged. But it was unnerving cos he must have been staring at me for a while all that time.
I mean some women I guess are flattered that men stare at them but I never really learned how to deal with that kind of attention or look I mean in many ways its intrusive, and sometimes downright creepy. But then women do it too like always commenting on what you wear all the time and I just wonder what does it matter yes make an effort to look nice but some people focus on that and dont really see the person.
And I think I havent ever deliberately tried to charm or seduce someone like women are told to do, like tart themselves up for men, hoping to snag one. I never really went in for the whole red lipstick and cake of makeup all the time like many women do.
In the bible it doesnt really say that adam and eve got married only that they knew each other...remember they were the only two people on earth at that time and eve came out of adam and obviously she was meant for him (to help him name the animals etc) and that when they came together she was his wife and became the mother of all living.
But obviously God had designed men and women for each other and yes the man was first and women was second and she was for him not the other way round.
I will look up some more scriptures of Gods view of marriage but i do know that..it is something to be celebrated and to stay pure for. Sadly I was not one of those who stayed pure and all the men around me were not interested in staying pure either, so one of my reasons for shying away from it is to do with that experience I think and also someone who I thought would have made a great dad and actually wanted children, perhaps with me...well it was wrong timing, and something I learned is..some men dont actually care for who they marry just as long as they have someone. They will just go to the next one available...to me it all seems swings and roundabouts wheras I wanted a true love! I found that in Jesus.
He is someone who died for me..(so earthly marriage is kind of out of the question lol) but He has always been faithful and true...and I also want to be faithful and true, so well anyway.
This guys thats quite nosy about me has a few issues lol. I mean he was totally trying to check me out and I just said im not that kind of girl (ie a ho). I think its so tempting these days to be that kind of girl...if you in a hurry.
Friendships are far better than so called relationships that people get into these days, I would rather have a friendship than an unhealthy relationship with someone who doesnt know how to be a true friend. Men that jump the gun...far too many! Women who jump the gun...also. The gun has been jumped on way too much. It all gets very awkward I think when I will be thinking one thing but the guy will be only be thinking of one thing and assumes I am thinking if it when Im not!
All the things ive read or God showing me in the Bible is how its ok not to marry and even how its better.
For example in corinthians it does say if a man keeps his virgin and doest marry her (i.e lets her be free and doesnt defile her) all the better. But if he cant contain himself (ie self control) then he should marry her because if he cant contain himself then he might be distracted by women all the time.
Us women are apparently very distracting to men. I mean I will just be wearing normal clothes and it would turn some men to look at me. Its like,,,havent you seen a woman wearing a dress before? i dont think it was even a dress just a normal trenchcoat thing. Its not like Im putting on a show. I mean the whole boob thing as well. For some men its like they need to stare. Well they can look but they cant touch.
I was on the beach one day with a friend she went off for a swim and i was lying on the sand face down having a nap in my bathers and next thing i know I feel this hand on my leg..this guy who I dont even know was stroking it?!
I was like hey rack off! I think he was a bit intellectually challenged. But it was unnerving cos he must have been staring at me for a while all that time.
I mean some women I guess are flattered that men stare at them but I never really learned how to deal with that kind of attention or look I mean in many ways its intrusive, and sometimes downright creepy. But then women do it too like always commenting on what you wear all the time and I just wonder what does it matter yes make an effort to look nice but some people focus on that and dont really see the person.
And I think I havent ever deliberately tried to charm or seduce someone like women are told to do, like tart themselves up for men, hoping to snag one. I never really went in for the whole red lipstick and cake of makeup all the time like many women do.
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