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Actually, that passage speaks against using personal appearance to influence how others think of you (".....do not look -----as the hypocrites do......").
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Is it wrong for a Christian to want to look Attractive
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Actually, that passage speaks against using personal appearance to influence how others think of you (".....do not look -----as the hypocrites do......").
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Good hygiene is so important!
I just found this....A report on the state of hygiene across the world...
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I find nothing ill about anyone looking attractive anywhere, but looking seductive anywhere, that is out of the private marriage bedroom, is another issue. As for keeping clean, smelling good, exercising, taking care of the teeth..definitely yes! 
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Amen!
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Amen to that brother.
The way I see this Scripture is,
1. Enjoy both sides
2. Make sure your priorities are right with God. Nothing should come before GOD.
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Its been my high honor and privilege to mentor a man thirty years my junior in his born-again Christian faith. When I first began to work with him, lust was his lifestyle. Every time he saw a pretty young woman, he wanted sex with her. He was also a health nut; regular work-outs, running, etc. He was divorced and was living alone with his dog and lonely, so pretty girls were dangerous for him. At age 35, he was still trying to be a 20 year old hunk. He wanted a relationship with Jesus AND an active singles sex life.
He finally realized that nothing was going to work for him until he surrendered his will completely to the Lord. He's been celibate nearly two years as I write this and he's in a relationship with a celibate Christian woman and I'm betting they'll be marrtied within a year.
So, my response to Lawtigator's question in the OP is - What's the motive? If it's good health and self respect, by all means the answer is "no". But, if the reason is vanity, a desire to be sexy, the answer is "Yes, it is wrong!" and God hates it.
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He finally realized that nothing was going to work for him until he surrendered his will completely to the Lord. He's been celibate nearly two years as I write this and he's in a relationship with a celibate Christian woman and I'm betting they'll be marrtied within a year.
So, my response to Lawtigator's question in the OP is - What's the motive? If it's good health and self respect, by all means the answer is "no". But, if the reason is vanity, a desire to be sexy, the answer is "Yes, it is wrong!" and God hates it.
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To want to look attractive I say .....yes it's wrong.
The word attractive carries the action word..." Attract "
Attract :
transitive verb
: to cause to approach or adhere: as a : to pull to or draw toward oneself or itself <a magnet attracts iron> b : to draw by appeal to natural or excited interest, emotion, or aesthetic sense : entice
To summarize all of that the end result is to obtain attention or draw attention to oneself....entice
Then the question to you is what's your definition of " looking attractive ",
If I was asking that question, my motive behind asking would be to know.." my limits"...what's acceptable Christian attraction. Can I be a Christian and be enticing at the same time ?, or is there a Holy way to be enticing and modest ?
I want to know is it wrong for me to look attractive, if yes where do I draw the line ...if there is a line.
Some might say Rizen, you're misinterpreting the question, but I'm going by the meaning of the word and drawing my answer from that.
Everything starts with the mind, and the heart of a person..You could look like America next top model in your modest apparel and not be attractive.
When I travel in the subway I'm surrounded by all walks of life..holding his new york times, business suit looking respectable and attractive..now get above ground he's on his phone cursing up a storm..now he looks like a ugly Toad.
What I'm trying to say beauty goes skin deep, if your mind is messed up and your heart is ugly..trust me all the makeup in the world can't cover that blemish....no amount of weight training or bench pressing can pump that macho stench out of you.
Attraction is manipulative if the communication is being done by the physical, because you must find out what A and B says is attractive, then you have to imitate it,then make it your own to entice A and B.
Now inner attraction is more intimate, because only few will truly get to know your inner beauty. When men/women marry people who are deformed or have diseases it was the inner beauty that held the attraction.
Respecting your body and what goes inside is more important. All the healthy bumbojumbo living are merely phrases to get you to by books and the latest pills to lose weight. The media is making us obsess with improving ourselves, " How to be a better you "....Allowing us to live in vanity by say no it's being healthy.
I don't know what it means to be attractive, nor do I know the steps to making a Christian attractive, or the limitation of attractiveness.
But I do know if you eat what is natural, throw out everything that is man made, master the fruits of the spirit, ride your bike instead of drive and be who God called you to be...you'll be a beautiful person and people would want to be around you. Not because you went to the gym but because YOU didn't draw them to yourself ( distraction )
But you drew them to the Son of God.
So to answer your question " Yes ", I believe it's wrong for Christians to "want" to look attractive. Why ? Because the laws of attraction is govern by this world and not the Bible, making it easy for Christians to fashion themselves after things not important.
God created us Attractive beings from birth with all our differences. So to " want " to look attractive means to change what is already there. You have to NEED something to WANT it.
You are already beautiful so there's no NEED to WANT to look attractive, because your own skin and natural state is already beautiful. No need to add to it, accesorize it or color code it. That's why I love watching muslim women in their attire covered from head to toe. That's why it's so important for fathers to affirm their daughters beauty so the world won't be able to dictate it. Women wear pants to be comfortable, I understand but whats the purpose of skin tight jeans.
Now men are so metrosexual it's demonic, they take forever now to get ready almost as if they're competing with women.
Let me stop, I can go on and on...
I hope you get what I'm trying to say...
The word attractive carries the action word..." Attract "
Attract :
transitive verb
: to cause to approach or adhere: as a : to pull to or draw toward oneself or itself <a magnet attracts iron> b : to draw by appeal to natural or excited interest, emotion, or aesthetic sense : entice
To summarize all of that the end result is to obtain attention or draw attention to oneself....entice
Then the question to you is what's your definition of " looking attractive ",
If I was asking that question, my motive behind asking would be to know.." my limits"...what's acceptable Christian attraction. Can I be a Christian and be enticing at the same time ?, or is there a Holy way to be enticing and modest ?
I want to know is it wrong for me to look attractive, if yes where do I draw the line ...if there is a line.
Some might say Rizen, you're misinterpreting the question, but I'm going by the meaning of the word and drawing my answer from that.
Everything starts with the mind, and the heart of a person..You could look like America next top model in your modest apparel and not be attractive.
When I travel in the subway I'm surrounded by all walks of life..holding his new york times, business suit looking respectable and attractive..now get above ground he's on his phone cursing up a storm..now he looks like a ugly Toad.
What I'm trying to say beauty goes skin deep, if your mind is messed up and your heart is ugly..trust me all the makeup in the world can't cover that blemish....no amount of weight training or bench pressing can pump that macho stench out of you.
Attraction is manipulative if the communication is being done by the physical, because you must find out what A and B says is attractive, then you have to imitate it,then make it your own to entice A and B.
Now inner attraction is more intimate, because only few will truly get to know your inner beauty. When men/women marry people who are deformed or have diseases it was the inner beauty that held the attraction.
Respecting your body and what goes inside is more important. All the healthy bumbojumbo living are merely phrases to get you to by books and the latest pills to lose weight. The media is making us obsess with improving ourselves, " How to be a better you "....Allowing us to live in vanity by say no it's being healthy.
I don't know what it means to be attractive, nor do I know the steps to making a Christian attractive, or the limitation of attractiveness.
But I do know if you eat what is natural, throw out everything that is man made, master the fruits of the spirit, ride your bike instead of drive and be who God called you to be...you'll be a beautiful person and people would want to be around you. Not because you went to the gym but because YOU didn't draw them to yourself ( distraction )
But you drew them to the Son of God.
So to answer your question " Yes ", I believe it's wrong for Christians to "want" to look attractive. Why ? Because the laws of attraction is govern by this world and not the Bible, making it easy for Christians to fashion themselves after things not important.
God created us Attractive beings from birth with all our differences. So to " want " to look attractive means to change what is already there. You have to NEED something to WANT it.
You are already beautiful so there's no NEED to WANT to look attractive, because your own skin and natural state is already beautiful. No need to add to it, accesorize it or color code it. That's why I love watching muslim women in their attire covered from head to toe. That's why it's so important for fathers to affirm their daughters beauty so the world won't be able to dictate it. Women wear pants to be comfortable, I understand but whats the purpose of skin tight jeans.
Now men are so metrosexual it's demonic, they take forever now to get ready almost as if they're competing with women.
Let me stop, I can go on and on...
I hope you get what I'm trying to say...
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The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines attractive as drawing attention, as in charming or appealing. When I met my future wife about 45 years ago, she was a very attractive, nicely dressed young lady but she was not trying to be sexy. She expected both of us to be celibate until we married, which we were.
When God introduced Eve to Adam, Adam's response was to exclaim "This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh." (Ge 2:23a NIV). That tells me that there was an immediate attraction on Adam's part.
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When God introduced Eve to Adam, Adam's response was to exclaim "This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh." (Ge 2:23a NIV). That tells me that there was an immediate attraction on Adam's part.
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there is a real difference between looking clean and nice and trying to show parts of our bodies to attract others !
Or putting on face paints and wearing lots of things on our bodies!
1 Pe 3:3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
We all want to look nice!
But some use so much stuff , they even look bad!
WE should not dress any way , that causes others to be tempted !
I have seen men and women dress just to temp others!
Or putting on face paints and wearing lots of things on our bodies!
1 Pe 3:3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
We all want to look nice!
But some use so much stuff , they even look bad!
WE should not dress any way , that causes others to be tempted !
I have seen men and women dress just to temp others!
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Joh 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.
2Co 5:12 For we commend not ourselves again unto you, but give you occasion to glory on our behalf, that ye may have somewhat to answer them which glory in appearance, and not in heart.
2Co 10:7 Do ye look on things after the outward appearance? If any man trust to himself that he is Christ's, let him of himself think this again, that, as he is Christ's, even so are we Christ's.
1Th 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.
2Co 5:12 For we commend not ourselves again unto you, but give you occasion to glory on our behalf, that ye may have somewhat to answer them which glory in appearance, and not in heart.
2Co 10:7 Do ye look on things after the outward appearance? If any man trust to himself that he is Christ's, let him of himself think this again, that, as he is Christ's, even so are we Christ's.
1Th 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.
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Being attractive
Nothing wrong with being attractive it is the motive behind wanting to be attractive that should be looked at. If you are in Christ and are displaying His likeness to the world (2 Corinthians 3, 1 Corinthians 3), then your attractiveness comes from within. People will know the truth by the fruit you bear. As a genuine born again disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ others will be attracted to you because of the Christ likeness in you and because of the outward love you display towards others. The trinkets, bracelets, the hairs highlights, the facual makeovers, the wearing of enticing clothing and the enticing mannerisms, etc will fade away in the the Glory of God revealed in you. Only in Christ can we deal with anything that sets itself up against the knowledge of God and His Glory.
If you are in Christ then the promise of the Holy Spirit to empower (Acts 1:8) you to become His witness resides within you and if you allow the Holy Spirit to write on you mind and your heart (Hebrews 8:10, Romans 12:1-2) the law of God you will soon have no problems in dealing with attractiveness. You will shed off any desire to want to attract persons by your looks and will be satisfied to have other love you because of Christ in you - the Hope of Glory.
Attractiveness in looks is a natural thing placed in the genes by God and is there to Glorify Him and not ourselves. Satan has used the attractiveness in woman to sell anything from cars to cell phones (mobiles), have naked for men to lust after, etc and this is an abuse of woman in order to make money and we all know that scripture says that the love of money is the root of all evil. The films stars have sold themselves into this slavery and they draw those who idolise them to do the same. When the person cannot meet the standard they become very self focused and feel rejected because they cannot be as beautiful or handsome as they are. Their hearts tell a story that they are in sin up to the necks and eventually their fruit is seen by everyone for what it is - money making, lust for earthly things and the desire to be worshiped. Only God is to be worshipped not man.
I hope this has set you free a bit and has encouraged you, enjoy your walk with the Lord, cling to the cross and keep your eyes on the author and perfector of our faith - The Lord Jesus Christ and you will enjoy life to the fullest knowing that in Him we have grace to grow in His likeness and to display His likeness in our attitudes towards others. Do not let worldly attractiveness cause others to fall. If you are an attractive person then praising God is where the focus should be thanking Him for the previllege of being beautiful and attractive in looks as well as in your heart.
Nothing wrong with being attractive it is the motive behind wanting to be attractive that should be looked at. If you are in Christ and are displaying His likeness to the world (2 Corinthians 3, 1 Corinthians 3), then your attractiveness comes from within. People will know the truth by the fruit you bear. As a genuine born again disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ others will be attracted to you because of the Christ likeness in you and because of the outward love you display towards others. The trinkets, bracelets, the hairs highlights, the facual makeovers, the wearing of enticing clothing and the enticing mannerisms, etc will fade away in the the Glory of God revealed in you. Only in Christ can we deal with anything that sets itself up against the knowledge of God and His Glory.
If you are in Christ then the promise of the Holy Spirit to empower (Acts 1:8) you to become His witness resides within you and if you allow the Holy Spirit to write on you mind and your heart (Hebrews 8:10, Romans 12:1-2) the law of God you will soon have no problems in dealing with attractiveness. You will shed off any desire to want to attract persons by your looks and will be satisfied to have other love you because of Christ in you - the Hope of Glory.
Attractiveness in looks is a natural thing placed in the genes by God and is there to Glorify Him and not ourselves. Satan has used the attractiveness in woman to sell anything from cars to cell phones (mobiles), have naked for men to lust after, etc and this is an abuse of woman in order to make money and we all know that scripture says that the love of money is the root of all evil. The films stars have sold themselves into this slavery and they draw those who idolise them to do the same. When the person cannot meet the standard they become very self focused and feel rejected because they cannot be as beautiful or handsome as they are. Their hearts tell a story that they are in sin up to the necks and eventually their fruit is seen by everyone for what it is - money making, lust for earthly things and the desire to be worshiped. Only God is to be worshipped not man.
I hope this has set you free a bit and has encouraged you, enjoy your walk with the Lord, cling to the cross and keep your eyes on the author and perfector of our faith - The Lord Jesus Christ and you will enjoy life to the fullest knowing that in Him we have grace to grow in His likeness and to display His likeness in our attitudes towards others. Do not let worldly attractiveness cause others to fall. If you are an attractive person then praising God is where the focus should be thanking Him for the previllege of being beautiful and attractive in looks as well as in your heart.
