Looking for healing and answers

[Brighthouse]

Sister Nickles,You really seem like a very kind person! If someone came up to you everyday for a week and offered you a thousand dollars,and you never would take it,how long would you expect to see that person make an offer to you??

The reason this person did this to you in the first place,was to make a peace offering,which is what you have done to her!! Jesus did far more for each one of us!! here look!! John 15:11-13!! Yet so many have rejected him!! HOW?? WHY?? There are many things in our life, we do not understand,to worry about them,does us no good,each person makes his or her decision on things not based on another.

You have believed she is this way to you,because of what you have done? You have repented,and still she has not accepted your love,even though she has indeed caused you to stumble!( Matt 18:6-7)

Love is always here for you dear sister,it is here because we here,care about one another in Christ! When a part is hurting we all hurt for that part,in this case your part!

Why worry about what you cannot control? No sense in this!! Only the enemy loves what you are doing to yourself in this.Remember he is a thief!!( John 10:10) and the very father of all lies!( john 8:44) He looks to rob our joy, anyway we let him! Do not let him do this to you! When so many love you here!

I sure will be praying for you! What a believer has to learn is not always easy,we really have to grow some tough skin!AH it comes with the armor we take,or should take!( eph 6) So blessing unto you,and do not take cares,we are to cast them to our Jesus! ( 1 Peter 5:7) all means all! Blessing sister.

 

[nickles]

The reason this person did this to you in the first place,was to make a peace offering,which is what you have done to her!! ...

Brighthouse, this is what you said, can you explain more on what you mean? Thank you so much for your reply. I appreciate any insight I can get and others view on what info. I have provided, because sometimes I feel like I look at things to deeply or the wrong way.

I am trying to find ways to cope with this situation. So what I have done so far is prayed for her to be blessed, I have prayed for me to find peace with the situation and for god to reveal to me any lessons he wanted me to learn. I have read some scripture..I never know what to read, but I have read some.

What I really want out of this situation is to not think about it everyday. It isnt about her that I think about but the hurt feelings from the situation and the fact I have no clue why she didnt respond to me, even if it were for her to just have said sorry, I think that we shouldnt speak anymore...

 

[Brighthouse]

Sure Nickles,what I was saying is that you did everything you could to make peace with this person.My only concern for you is,to stay hurt over this. If you feel that not speaking to her again, will help you, cool. Just do not lose your love in Christ. blessing

 

[nickles]

I meant to write that she is the one who refuses to speak to me and I have to respect that. But the act of ignoring someone & to not respond I believe is very disrespectful this friend initiated the friendship n asked n got very personal information out of me...almost being nosy & then she wanted nothing to do w me. She offered her help n told me I could always call of I needed something no matter when n didn't follow through meaning when I did need her she wasn't there n got mad at me. This is weird but we are both married n it almost seemed like she had a crush on me.

 

[nickles]

I'm not happy

 

[poobear]

nickles: I understand where you are coming from. Of course we need to rely on Jesus but it is nice to have at least one person that we can trust and confide in. I think this is what you are referring to. I have just been betrayed by someone I thought was a friend too so I know how you feel. The same thing. Being ignored and misjudged. Not the way a Christian should treat another Christian as far as I am concerned.

The reality of it is that there are a lot of people who claim to be believer's yet they don't have any empathy or compassion. Maybe there is something wrong with her. Or maybe she was false with you and didn't like you but was playing games. Better for her to tell you directly instead of leading you on and then hurting you. I think what she did was a very cowardly act.