My teenage son

[joshuamclean]

Hello. I may be able to help your Son as I have experience it before. I have been very addicted to computers games like World of Warcraft (I also played WoW). I have been battling it for more than 6 years.

Firstly, do not shout or be angry at your Son, it will only make it worse. (My parents has failed to realise this) Your Son will say "You do not understand!! **** off" Instead, give wise advices and loving suggestions - and be patience. It is his battle. It may last for years, but if your Son is strong-willing (unlike me) - it may be short.

Let me share with you why people are addicting to computer gaming, especially MMORPG (Massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games). Online, it is very easy to gain fame and to be popular unlike in real-life. Your Son may not do well in real-life (in terms of sports, speech, or has few friends), but can do well in the game. In the game, you do quests, you gain levels (The higher your level is, the stronger you are - and PVP (Player vs Player), you win etc and it makes you feel good. Also, online, no one judges you. They're just merely characters (and everyone looks equally online). For example, a over-weight or ugly person in real-life finds it hard to make friends because of their appearance, and finds it easy to make friends online. Most of my (past) online friends said to me "Only if real-life was like this game". I can tell you this, because I am deaf (supported by a hearing aid) and I struggle to communicate with other people, because my speech isn't that great. That's why I find online games addicted - I can speak and listen freely online - I have many many online friends and I'm popular...

It was with God's help that I quit gaming (last week). My parents made it worse by their shouting and insulting words.. All I can say to you, is to pray for him and give him wise advices from the bible (not loudly, but gently - of course he may tell you to get lost, but the words will strike his heart, and he will think about it)

Also, another good advices is to introduce him into different hobbies. Don't introduce him into reading books or puzzles etc (he will find that very boring - compare to online quests). Instead, give him adventure or action. All boys long for adventure and battle. Get his father to take him rock-climbing, hiking, camping, hunting - anything that involves adventure or action. It will cost you money, but it may be worth it. It will make him realise that there is life and adventures out there.

He has to overcome his temptation by himself. It is his battle. It may be a good suggestion to talk with the boy's father.

I have so much to say.. I had so much experience. I know what they think, I know how we react to such things. I understand them. It is difficult and only God himself will get us out of the situation we are in.

I will pray for him.
Joshua.

 

[Yeshualives]

Hi abigya,

Thank you so much for drawing attention to that excellent post - thank you and God bless,

Yeshualives

 

[Yeshualives]

Hello. I may be able to help your Son as I have experience it before. I have been very addicted to computers games like World of Warcraft (I also played WoW). I have been battling it for more than 6 years.

Firstly, do not shout or be angry at your Son, it will only make it worse. (My parents has failed to realise this) Your Son will say "You do not understand!! **** off" Instead, give wise advices and loving suggestions - and be patience. It is his battle. It may last for years, but if your Son is strong-willing (unlike me) - it may be short.

Let me share with you why people are addicting to computer gaming, especially MMORPG (Massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games). Online, it is very easy to gain fame and to be popular unlike in real-life. Your Son may not do well in real-life (in terms of sports, speech, or has few friends), but can do well in the game. In the game, you do quests, you gain levels (The higher your level is, the stronger you are - and PVP (Player vs Player), you win etc and it makes you feel good. Also, online, no one judges you. They're just merely characters (and everyone looks equally online). For example, a over-weight or ugly person in real-life finds it hard to make friends because of their appearance, and finds it easy to make friends online. Most of my (past) online friends said to me "Only if real-life was like this game". I can tell you this, because I am deaf (supported by a hearing aid) and I struggle to communicate with other people, because my speech isn't that great. That's why I find online games addicted - I can speak and listen freely online - I have many many online friends and I'm popular...

It was with God's help that I quit gaming (last week). My parents made it worse by their shouting and insulting words.. All I can say to you, is to pray for him and give him wise advices from the bible (not loudly, but gently - of course he may tell you to get lost, but the words will strike his heart, and he will think about it)

Also, another good advices is to introduce him into different hobbies. Don't introduce him into reading books or puzzles etc (he will find that very boring - compare to online quests). Instead, give him adventure or action. All boys long for adventure and battle. Get his father to take him rock-climbing, hiking, camping, hunting - anything that involves adventure or action. It will cost you money, but it may be worth it. It will make him realise that there is life and adventures out there.

He has to overcome his temptation by himself. It is his battle. It may be a good suggestion to talk with the boy's father.

I have so much to say.. I had so much experience. I know what they think, I know how we react to such things. I understand them. It is difficult and only God himself will get us out of the situation we are in.

I will pray for him.
Joshua.

Hi Joshua,

Thank you very much for your post - it is very encouraging to read. I am grateful for your advice - particularly about giving my son the opportunity to get involved with action sports and to give wise advice from the bible. Thank you for explaining some of the attraction with the games so I can better understand.

With respect to losing your hearing at age 3, as it happens I have recently been to a seminar by Andrew Wommack, who has his own online site, and he testified to many healings at his meetings. He has a great teaching ministry and in particular has an international prayer line and teaching on healings for all sorts of conditions - my group leader at church is currently finding one of his dvd's very helpful. (I gave her this and one of his pamphlets entitled 'God Wants You Well'). I mention this incase this is of any interest to you.

Thanks again and God bless,

Yeshualives :girl_hug:

 

[joshuamclean]

The funny thing is.. I'm happy for whom I am. If I wasn't deaf, I may not be a Christian. I thank God for this. I believe it was his will for me, because I am currently making something that will benefit the whole world.

Joshua.

 

[Yeshualives]

The funny thing is.. I'm happy for whom I am. If I wasn't deaf, I may not be a Christian. I thank God for this. I believe it was his will for me, because I am currently making something that will benefit the whole world.

Joshua.

Dear Joshua,

God is good - and I believe that you are in a unique position where God can use you to be a blessing to other people because of the circumstances that you have experienced, as in a sense are we all. However, while the Lord allows you to experience deafness, He is your healer - Jehovah Rophe - see Exodus 15:26 - The Lord who Heals.

I am sure there will be other threads that will discuss this.

Be blessed,

Yeshualives

 

[joshuamclean]

Thank you Yeshualives. I will keep that in mind.

God bless you too.
Joshua.