Neuro---Your not prying as I have opened myself up to other Christians for Christian advice on an issue I'm somewhat perplexed with-----But I do have sort of questioning with your response----First I don't think there is any good rationale for reading something that is unfit for Christian morals ----Secondly your advice is gentle and with good intent, but I find it lacking Christian character---It's more like humanistic reasoning, sort of like straight out of psych 101, " and how do you feel about that Mrs. Jones etc"---I'm wondering, do you know the Lord yourself---Something is just not right here---If I'm wrong then please forgive me in advance----If I'm not then you shouldn't be offering advice to sincere Christians who are seeking biblical answers from fellow believers.
Happy
Harold, I have a few quick points to address,
1) We're not talking about what you think is best; we're talking about the relation between your daughters feelings and your feelings concerning cosmopolitan and what to do about it. I'm not questioning your reaction of the magazine; I'm questioning your course of action because you're essentially making the decision for your daughter, and warning you that - what we know from previous research - is that an authoritarian principle in parenting is not going to help your daughter in the long run.
2) You're equating Psychology and Humanism which is a big, fat, 'No.' The Humanistic approach to Psychology was something pioneered by Carl Rogers and his Client-Centered Therapy. It's also the case that "and how does that make you feel" is certainly not something out of Psych 101; I'm honestly a bit flabbergasted that you could say that it is. While you could make the case that an introduction would skim over CCT, it's also the case that CCT is not "and how did that make you feel" therapy. In fact, that's a bad representation of the idea behind the therapy as it is simply to give the client an outlet and elaborate on whatever is said. "And how does that make you feel" is an antiquated stereotype about the practice.
3) What I believe is completely irrelevant to the fact at hand. Essentially, if I'm not a believer, you'll say that my advice is not valid because it does not have a biblical basis (which isn't entirely true as I can be a non-believer and still give a biblical basis). However, all of this is beside the point because you didn't
ask for a biblical answer. You only asked for someone to "shed some light on this." I decided to focus on the relation issue and suggested that you sit down and talk with your daughter about the issue; I'm not saying that she can give you a good rational for reading the magazine, however there's no reason that you can't (and plenty of reasons for why you should) have a conversation with her.
Why - in any case - does my belief affect whether or not my suggestion is valid, especially when this is an issue we know about - from Developmental Psychology - what is often most effective?
*shock*. With that said, I would not let my teenage daughter read it (if I had a teenage daughter).
