Suppression of emotions

[Brother Mike]

Glory to God.. emotions?

Sister Julia quoted:

As Christians we need to be receptive, loving and kind towards those who are going through emotional difficulties

If you have done a lot of consoling you will know that there are two types.

Those that really want help and will listen.

Those that want someone to side with the way they feel and justify their feelings. Take part and "Be understanding." They may not even really want help, but just need people rally around them and tell them how bad they feel for them.

The second group will **** the anointing from you and will need your attention constantly.

To make it worse, the go and tell the one that hurt them that Pastor mike said you wronged me, so you should now believe you did wrong me as I had a Pastor say so.

There are people that do not want help, they feed off their negative emotion. They must truly want to feel different inside.

If you want to be negative and tell everyone about how awful you feel then don't come to me about it. Lets get the solution, and not dwell on bad feelings. When helping someone, I never agree with how someone wronged them. I just listen. You must always be Spirit led to handle these things.

We need to look at Jesus, if we are going to help. He is our best example. We must accept that not everyone can be helped.

What did he tell Jairus after he heard his daughter was dead.
He did not say, "Now, now. It is going to be ok, I am here."
No, he told him to Fear Not, believe only..........

Remember when the storm came up and they were in the boat, they were afraid and went down to wake Jesus? did he give words of comfort? Did he tell them it's ok, I understand your afraid?
No he did not.

When helping someone you have to get them to see that how they feel is not going to help them. You have to get them to see that Joy is a choice, and not based on what happens to you.
You have to get them to see that God is more than able to turn things around for them.

I am receptive to those that are hurting, but I can not side with hurt feelings, as this will not help them.

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Fragrant Grace]

can you please tell me what draws to to Christ,and how he got ur full confidence?
why do you believe in what you do?

Dear sister Ritsuka

I could write pages on what draws me to the beloved Saviour, which is why I wanted to take some time to pray and seek guidance from the Lord...

Sister, I can tell you that I am fully convinced because I know that the Lord Jesus lives in my heart. Daily He blesses me with such an abundance of His love, daily His Holy Spirit opens my heart to new treasures and depths of His love...He is all my reasons for being alive.

But an example may be more helpful to you dear sister.....and to keep in context with this thread....I will share something that happened to me when I first became a Christian....

I was saved when I was 11 years old...after which I went to a very strict Christian school where the headteacher preached daily on hellfire and the unforgivable sin.....terrifying most of the children (well me anyhow).

For years I tortured myself thinking that I had committed something unforgivable.....and despite the fact I'd given my heart to the Lord Jesus...I thought I was still somehow doomed. Now I kept this fear totally suppressed, for some years, because I was so embarrassed and scared to talk about it....outwardly I presented as fine....inwardly I was been eaten up and satan was having a great time.....It came to the point that I couldnt sleep, eat or function, because I was living in such fear....

.....then one night, out of the blue, I heard a hymn on the radio... 'Now I belong to Jesus'.......and the last lines were 'Saved not for the years of time alone but for eternity'...and on hearing this, I was drawn to the scriptures......(It is amazing how God speaks to our hearts to draw us to Him)

Be it known unto you therefore, men and brethren that through this man is preached unto you the forgiveness of sins and by Him all that believe are justified from all things,,, Acts 13: 38,39

My sheep hear My voice and I know them and they follow Me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of My hand... John 10:27,28

And with these promises, striking my heart, all those suppressed feelings were poured out to the Saviour. Hallelujah God justifies sinners who believe...that is a fact, not a feeling.

O what relief flowed into my heart.... I knew I was saved and it was His grace alone that had saved me...It was His gift to me a sinner..but for so long I'd been relying on my feelings and not on His glorious promises to the point that I'd lost the joy of my Salvation.

So dear sister if you have committed your life to the Lord Jesus...no matter how unconvinced you feel, no matter what your struggles you are safe in His hands. If you have difficulty expressing your feelings, or doubts just reach out to Him. I can assure you that He is there for you and that He will guide and comfort you...

Sister, do reach out to the Lord... reach out to a fellow Christian friend, even pm someone here at Talk Jesus....we are all part of the same loving family...all children of the King

The Lord bless you sister.

Julia

You have His promises and they will never, ever fail you

I am the resurrection and the life, he who believes in Me will live
John 11:25 (NIV)

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, which according to His abundant mercy hath begotten us again unto a lively hope by the ressurection of Jesus Christ from the dead, To an inheritance incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, reserved in heaven for you. 1 Peter 1: 3,4

Verily verily, I say unto you, he that heareth My word, and believeth on Him that sent me, hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life John 5:24

 

[Br. Bear]

From C. Spurgeon....


“Love is strong as death.”
Song of Solomon 8:6


Whose love can this be which is as mighty as the conqueror of monarchs, the destroyer of the human race?

Would it not sound like satire if it were applied to my poor, weak, and scarcely living love to Jesus my Lord?
I do love Him, and perhaps by His grace, I could even die for Him, but as for my love in itself, it can scarcely endure a scoffing jest, much less a cruel death. Surely it is my Beloved’s love which is here spoken of-the love of Jesus, the matchless lover of souls.

His love was indeed stronger than the most terrible death, for it endured the trial of the cross triumphantly. It was a lingering death, but love survived the torment; a shameful death, but love despised the shame; a penal death, but love bore our iniquities; a forsaken, lonely death, from which the eternal Father hid His face, but love endured the curse, and gloried over all.
Never such love, never such death. It was a desperate duel, but love bore the palm.

What then, my heart?
Hast thou no emotions excited within thee at the contemplation of such heavenly affection?
Yes, my Lord, I long, I pant to feel thy love flaming like a furnace within me.

Come thou thyself and excite the ardour of my spirit.

“For every drop of crimson blood
Thus shed to make me live,
O wherefore, wherefore have not I
A thousand lives to give?”

Why should I despair of loving Jesus with a love as strong as death?

He deserves it: I desire it.

The martyrs felt such love, and they were but flesh and blood, then why not I? They mourned their weakness, and yet out of weakness were made strong. Grace gave them all their unflinching constancy-there is the same grace for me.

Jesus, lover of my soul, shed abroad such love, even thy love in my heart, this day.


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Bless you ....><>

Br. Bear


Trust in Him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before Him: God is a refuge for us. Selah.
...Psalm 62:8

 

[Br. Bear]

Dr. Bear
thank you for those encouaging words. Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on Thee.
i on going through a very bad time at the moment and my friends on chat listen and talk to me. It has helped me a lot. I dont know what i would do without them.
I liked your scriptures also, and will copy them out.
thank you
In the name of Jesus Christ
Amen.

<To the chief Musician, Maschil, for the sons of Korah.>
As the hart panteth after the water brooks,
so panteth my soul after Thee,

O God.

My soul thirsteth for God,
for the living God:
when shall I come and appear before God?

My tears have been my meat day and night,
while they continually say unto me,
Where is thy God?

When I remember these things,
I pour out my soul in me:

for I had gone with the multitude,
I went with them to the house of God,
with the voice of joy and praise,
with a multitude that kept holyday.

Why art thou cast down, O my soul?

and why art thou disquieted in me?

hope thou in God:
for I shall yet praise Him for the help of His countenance.

O my God,
my soul is cast down within me:

therefore will I remember Thee from the land of Jordan,
and of the Hermonites, from the hill Mizar.
Deep calleth unto deep at the noise of thy waterspouts:
all thy waves and thy billows are gone over me.

Yet the LORD will command His lovingkindness in the daytime,
and in the night His song shall be with me,
and my prayer unto the God of my life.
I will say unto God my rock,
Why hast thou forgotten me?
why go I mourning because of the oppression of the enemy?

As with a sword in my bones,
mine enemies reproach me;
while they say daily unto me,
Where is thy God?

Why art thou cast down,
O my soul?

and why art thou disquieted within me?

hope thou in God:

for I shall yet praise Him,
who is the health of my countenance,

and my God.

Psalm 42





Greetings jas,

How are you? There have been all sorts of responses to this thread so far, since you posted this.

Emotions are strong... but, and let us thank the Lord, He is stronger, His love is Supreme.... above all things, and to be trusted and best of all, He, our Lord Jesus Christ, only wants to give you and me and everyone His pure love.

King David appeared to have a bundle of different reactions to things, and we tend to call those things 'emotions' these days. Only now, we have all sorts of extra labels to call them.. and even 'our condition'.

But generally, 'our condition' is either walking in fullness with the Lord or not. He doesn't give half or empty measures of Holiness and Love.

If you read the Psalms, you might see that David often begins in praise, gets to the sore points, and then finishes in praise. It is important to remember this.
Let the emotion do it's work in reminding us of our Lord and our great eternal need for Him in every situation.... and then see and know His goodness and praise Him again..and again... and... again.

For years, the Psalms didn't really 'do much' for me..... sounds a bit rough doesn't it! But it's true. THEN, things happened which came as close to breaking and destoying me as possible, in more ways than one.... and for months I was a walking emotional wreck.
I solemnly believe the Lord pointed and lead me to read the Psalms.... I did so... over and again... it was a daily medicine.... to read a Psalm daily and took it in... digest it and allow the Lord to do His thing(s) in me.
I soon realised how beautiful they were.... how beautiful they are..... and everyday I find myself in them again even today, years later... not because I am still emotional about my lot as such, but because they are beautiful and my soul delights in the Lord and His abounding love.

So, even though at the time, there is no way I could have appreciated it... if it took a good shaking and near breaking to get me to His word in this wonderful way.... I can only thank Him.... and praise His glorious name.

Bless you jas ....><>


Br. Bear





Psalm 5

<To the chief Musician upon Nehiloth, A Psalm of David.>
Give ear to my words,

O LORD,

consider my meditation.
Hearken unto the voice of my cry,

my King,
and my God:
for unto thee will I pray.

My voice shalt thou hear in the morning,

O LORD;

in the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee,
and will look up.

For thou art not a God that hath pleasure in wickedness:
neither shall evil dwell with thee.
The foolish shall not stand in thy sight:
thou hatest all workers of iniquity.
Thou shalt destroy them that speak leasing:
the LORD will abhor the bloody and deceitful man.

But as for me,
I will come into thy house in the multitude of thy mercy:
and in thy fear will I worship toward thy holy temple.
Lead me,

O LORD,

in thy righteousness because of mine enemies;
make thy way straight before my face.

For there is no faithfulness in their mouth;
their inward part is very wickedness;
their throat is an open sepulchre;
they flatter with their tongue.
Destroy thou them,

O God;

let them fall by their own counsels;
cast them out in the multitude of their transgressions;
for they have rebelled against thee.

But let all those that put their trust in thee rejoice:
let them ever shout for joy,
because thou defendest them:
let them also that love thy name be joyful in thee.
For thou,

LORD,

wilt bless the righteous;
with favour wilt thou compass him as with a shield.

 

[Soumayadove]

Expressing Emotions

Hay Jas,

I'ts really important to understand that sharing your feelings is not an easy thing to do, It is however, very important to not suppress feelings so we must be very careful not to be misunderstood.

This is why we need to seek Him early. Seek the Lord first through prayer and supplication. Remember, we all are unique individuals who view life from a totaly different perspective and what we see is not necessarily what my brother or sister might see this is why we are not to be moved by what we see.

This is also why it is so important to pray for the right words and the Lord's Leading in all things and give your burden to Him. For His Love for you abounds most richly.

Bless You Dear Sister in Christ,
Soumaya.



I love them that love Me; and those that seek Me early shall find Me.
Proverbs 8:17