Any suggestion that the gift of tongues, or any other spirit gift, is a sign of God's special favour or pleasure is deeply divisive.
God gives gifts according to his purposes, and it not for us to question.
Personal history: there was a charismatic resurgence when I was a teenager, with a lot of emphasis on speaking in tongues, and a fair bit of unwise and unhelpful pressure too.
My younger sister prayed and prayed for the gift and never received it. That signalled her disillusionment with the church and she walked away from her faith.
Hekuran has walked away from the discussion and is free to not participate any more, but I had a dream that told me that what I write will cause a unfavorable response even though I was convinced that the Lord did not want me to post any more on the subject because of the sudden lack of response and 4 members liking Hekuran's last reply, but moreso by the two reference in scripture about the prophecies in these latter days which I was about to post in another thread in asking the question whether I should even bother or not, until a pop up from Microsoft once again warned me about a virus to con me into calling, and then I was no longer online. The dream told me that another and not the Lord, was doing this.
It is 4:33 AM now, and so I am led to write this.
In relation to the topic, he had shared what had happened to his sister. Each reader has to determine if God would ever use His gift of tongues that would ever produce the fruit of causing someone to stumble as his sister had done, even by unwise and unhelpful pressure.
Romans 14:21 It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak. 22 Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth.
Surely the Lord saw her desire even if it was under unwise and unhelpful pressure. This reference comes to mind.
Romans 8:31 What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? 32 He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things?
Thanks to Hekruan's testimony, I bring what had happened to his sister to again draw the attention to the topic of why God interjected the love chapter in between 12 and 14 which it was in relations to tongues.
Many of the people I most respect and look up to in my faith don't speak in tongues, and likely wouldn't encourage it in others.
For myself, I think I have the gift in order to make up for a lack in myself. I am grateful for it.
Boasting on one side and envy or feeling belittled on the other is sure to lead to division. Lord, give us all grace.
I would also like to point out that in a way, Hekuran being grateful for what he claims that tongues for private use makes up for his lack is something every believer goes through and so it does pose the obvious question to God; "why him and not me?" to any one reading his reply.
Tongues with interpretation is an example of God's love in action.
Tongues without interpretation is not God's love in action; not even towards the tongue speaker when they do not know what that tongue is doing for private use as claimed by many tongue speakers which includes the assumed means by the Holy Spirit to utter His intercessions. The scripture John 16:13 in any modern Bible testifies that the Holy Spirit cannot speak for Himself but can only speak what He hears so that He cannot use tongues to utter His own intercessions to God the Father. In the correct translation in respect to all the words in Greek, the Holy Spirit cannot utter His groanings ( Romans 8:26 KJV )
Now as much as offensive that can be seen as, scripture reproves it and not only exposes that God would not use tongues for private use to cause division like that at all nor to cause one to stumble.
Indeed, the Catholic Charismatic Churches speak in tongues and for all that time, God never reproved it with interpretation of doing the works of catholicism? Just as He did not reprove Hekuarn's church in his teenage years for unwise and unhelpful pressure on his sister?
Tongues for private use would be either evidence for lack of God's love towards the body of believers and going against His own words or tongues for private use was never His gift of tongues for why it is producing an evil fruit.
Matthew 7:15 Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. 16 Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? 17 Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. 19 Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. 20 Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.
Tongues for private use is ecumenical in nature. It is seen across the world in other religions, idol worships, the occult, and not just cults in christianity
Defining Evidence on Supernatural Tongue Before Pentecost
It may be the means for which the one world church may come about by in the great tribulation, but whatever the future event holds, 1 Timothy 4:1-2 KJV proves that this is happening now as Jesus was warning the church about this ( Matthew 7:15-20 KJV ), and how other supposed miracles can come by seeking to receive the Holy Spirit apart from salvation after a sign ( Matthew 7:21-23 KJV ) wherein believers do fall down in ( Matthew 7:24-27 KJV ) even when seeking tongues for private use as a sign.
Proverbs 25:26 A righteous man falling down before the wicked is as a troubled fountain, and a corrupt spring. 27 It is not good to eat much honey: so for men to search their own glory is not glory. 28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
Matthew 12:39But he answered and said unto them, An evil and adulterous generation seeketh after a sign; and there shall no sign be given to it, but the sign of the prophet Jonas:
1 Timothy 4:1Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils; 2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;
The departure from the faith is the departure from the traditions taught of us.
2 Thessalonians 2:13 But we are bound to give thanks alway to God for you, brethren beloved of the Lord, because God hath from the beginning chosen you to salvation through sanctification of the Spirit and belief of the truth: 14 Whereunto he called you by our gospel, to the obtaining of the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ. 15 Therefore, brethren, stand fast, and hold the traditions which ye have been taught, whether by word, or our epistle.
That departure is usually done by preaching this by which many has gained tongues for private use by which is believing they can receive the Holy Spirit apart from salvation after a sign of tongues.
2 Corinthians 11:3 But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ. 4 For if he that cometh preacheth another Jesus, whom we have not preached, or if ye receive another spirit, which ye have not received, or another gospel, which ye have not accepted, ye might well bear with him.
It is divisive, but it is Christ's love towards Hekuran's sister that I write to prevent what had happened to her from happening to any one else. Tongue speakers will cling to that which sets them apart from the rest of us, but this is for those whom have gone astray in their faith in Him because they did not receive tongues for private use and I hope in Him to prevent any reader that is questioning whether or not to seek to receive tongues for private use, to not even bother.
Hekuran has nothing to offer in a way of advise in another thread of his own to prevent what had happened to his sister from happening to any one else and I believe it is because there is no way that he can.
So the only way I believe it can be prevented is for each reader to make his or her own determination with the Lord, whether or not God's love is seen in tongues for private use to even consider it as God's gift of tongues at all.
And by the Lord's help, you may find that it also involves keeping the faith in Jesus Christ which is the good fight.