Want To Give Up? Go Ahead!

[Dreamer]

One Thing I've Noticed

Since I first posted "Want to let go---Go Ahead", there has been progress and there have been some horrible moments too, of course.

The excellent thing about my husband, though, is that he really is sorry (eventually) when he treats me wrong. That is something I'm not accustomed too, and it is a wonderful blessing. Two people who genuinely love God can work together on their marriage and get through anything---I mean, anything.

One thing that I've noticed I do wrong: I go into a passive mode and let things slide by that I know aren't right. Then, all of a sudden, I find myself angry at him---mainly because I was just going along with something to keep the boat from rocking. God wants me to be honest (and gentle) about my views. If I don't believe God is leading us to buy a house, and Jim is forging ahead to buy it, God wants me to stop being passive and say something! LOL. Life-long habits are hard to break.

 

[calluna]

It's so great to see your progress, Praise God. I was reading the other thread about submission to husband, and I really want to submit to my husband and really need him to be the spiritual leader in the home, and so I am praying for him and just loving him (as advised).Sometimes it is difficult when I see perhaps he is not seeking guidance , or submitting himself to God's will when it comes to making decisions, like moving, buying home, employment, children etc.
Frequently I use to say things in the past and he took my responses as that I didn't trust him, and I was undermining his authority in the home which in reality was true .lol .I didn't trust his decisions but now it's becoming more easier as I am Trusting the Lord that He will take care of things and so I am more careful about what I say to my husband thats IF I even say anything at all. At times I want to say something but I know it would aggravate the situation so I am learning to ask the Lord to help me, (its hard to keep my comments to myself) sometimes I just smile and agree with my husband and I actually hear God whisper to me 'good job...that's the way'. It is getting easier for me and there is more peace overall when I do obey God.
"Set a guard over my mouth , O Lord;
keep watch over the door of my lips" Psalm 141:3
Now, ..... if I thought my husband was going to lead us into a perilous situation(which I doubt) then of course I would speak, or even yell
Your friend in Christ
heather