One thing I believe is that we should seek the Giver and not the gift. Gifts of the Holy Spirit received as quoted in 1 Corinthians 14 are of no use without the love quoted in the previous chapter and we need to show the fruit of the Spirit shown in Galatians 5 v22.
We all have a increased measure of the Holy Spirit when we receive salvation as we invite God to live in us and we are new creations in Christ.
Just as faith without actions is dead so people who don't evidence gifts should be respected as God can speak to all alike and we in the church are all parts of the body of Christ and we are all God's favourites as He died for us all.
God bless