Spreadtheword
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I still haven't gotten mines yet
First kiss?
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Stylez4Christ
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Is french kiss or tounge kissing a sin????
CrazyForChrist
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It all depends. Any action done is lust is a sin. Tounge kissing can show great passion between a couple. If the couple was created by God, how can it be wrong.
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Re: First Kiss
I have a good friend who struggles with sexual addiction. For him to kiss a girl on the lips early in a relationship is like striking a match in a warehouse full of dynamite and he knows it, so he is staying dateless and celibate until some addiction issues have been overcome.
I'm certain that each of you young people knows in your heart how you feel right awaywhen you kiss on the cheek (a "starter kiss", you might say).. Do you feel like "well, that was nice", or do you quickly experience sexual excitement building up?
If the former is true, kissing on the lips might not be dangerous, it may be a good thing that will determine if there is some spark in the relationship. But, if the latter is true, kissing on the lips before marriage is probably dangerous and to be avoided.
SLE
I have a good friend who struggles with sexual addiction. For him to kiss a girl on the lips early in a relationship is like striking a match in a warehouse full of dynamite and he knows it, so he is staying dateless and celibate until some addiction issues have been overcome.
I'm certain that each of you young people knows in your heart how you feel right awaywhen you kiss on the cheek (a "starter kiss", you might say).. Do you feel like "well, that was nice", or do you quickly experience sexual excitement building up?
If the former is true, kissing on the lips might not be dangerous, it may be a good thing that will determine if there is some spark in the relationship. But, if the latter is true, kissing on the lips before marriage is probably dangerous and to be avoided.
SLE
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totally agree
I agree me and my seven sisters grew up not dating at all. And that's helped us in alot of ways. To think before we do something involving boys. I think intimacy is very private and sacred and should totally be saved for marriage. That's just what I think veiwers but I agree that kissing should be saved for the person you're going to marry.Though I would still be interested in the book you mentioned. I love to read!!!!!!God Bless
I agree me and my seven sisters grew up not dating at all. And that's helped us in alot of ways. To think before we do something involving boys. I think intimacy is very private and sacred and should totally be saved for marriage. That's just what I think veiwers but I agree that kissing should be saved for the person you're going to marry.Though I would still be interested in the book you mentioned. I love to read!!!!!!God Bless
some of my friends who are newly married couples now, did not Kiss until they were engaged to each other. Their stories of how much more meaningful this was are encouraging and a blessing.
Although I have to agree along with SpiritledEd, that if any kiss at any time sparks any temptation then we are instructed to FLEE from that temptation.
Although I have to agree along with SpiritledEd, that if any kiss at any time sparks any temptation then we are instructed to FLEE from that temptation.
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I totally agree with this. There are no specific "rules" on kissing, but if it "turns you on" then it should be saved for marriage. Otherwise, how do you determine how far you will go without being married? The line is so hard to define that even kissing is best left for marriage.
On the other hand, I heard of a couple who saved their first kiss for their wedding day, and it was the longest kiss... so everyone else just had to stand and wait. I don't know if i would want my first kiss to be infront of everyone, so for me, I think that your FIRST kiss is ok when you are engaged, but I wouldnt go further... That way its not weird at your wedding rehersal too!! LOL
And for those of you who think kissing is no big deal, I have a few other friends who used to kiss on dates, and they all wish they could say that their spouse was the only person they ever kissed, so remember that nomatter how much you THINK you are in love, its better to keep that kind of stuff til marriage, because then you know that you have made a life-time commitment to that person on paper- and paper is stronger than words in any kind of agreement or commitment.
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oh, i definitely believe so.... everyone should save their first kiss.... wouldn't that be exciting, u saved something sacred, it makes u more special as well as your partner in life. Wow...Well, im sure saving mine. 
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A friendly kiss at church
What about the bible saying about the Holy Kiss I be going to church and some ladies or girls or what ever want to call them, but they be kissing on my check everytime I about to hug them, It dose make you feel like going to a aunt and a uncles house where your aunt give you a kiss on the check and the uncle be giving a big crazy hug enough to pop your eye out hahahahaha, and that dose sound a bit like my pastor, well accept he dose not hug so hard to try to pop my eyes out but he also dose sometime kiss on my face or my forehead or top of my head hahahahahahahah but anyways that my dad so yea heheehe:shade::shade: LOL
Romans 16:16
Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you.
1 Corinthians 16:20
All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.
2 Corinthians 13:12
Greet one another with an holy kiss.
1 Thessalonians 5:26
Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss.
What about the bible saying about the Holy Kiss I be going to church and some ladies or girls or what ever want to call them, but they be kissing on my check everytime I about to hug them, It dose make you feel like going to a aunt and a uncles house where your aunt give you a kiss on the check and the uncle be giving a big crazy hug enough to pop your eye out hahahahaha, and that dose sound a bit like my pastor, well accept he dose not hug so hard to try to pop my eyes out but he also dose sometime kiss on my face or my forehead or top of my head hahahahahahahah but anyways that my dad so yea heheehe:shade::shade: LOL
Romans 16:16
Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you.
1 Corinthians 16:20
All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.
2 Corinthians 13:12
Greet one another with an holy kiss.
1 Thessalonians 5:26
Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss.
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lou_lou1345
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i dont think that kissing is wrong outside of marriage. i think that is one way that love grows for the couple. i believe if u go into the intentions of the kissing going into more sexual activities then yes i believe it is wrong but just kissing to show u love to your boyfriend is fine.
i dont believe that french kissing or kissing with tongues is wrong either because its just again kissing but if it turns into something else then that is when it becomes wrong. i dont think i could wait until i got married just to kiss my partner.
my first kiss was amazing and even tho me and my ex split up i will never forget that kiss.
lou xxx
i dont believe that french kissing or kissing with tongues is wrong either because its just again kissing but if it turns into something else then that is when it becomes wrong. i dont think i could wait until i got married just to kiss my partner.
my first kiss was amazing and even tho me and my ex split up i will never forget that kiss.
lou xxx
I don't think that kissing is a sin but we need to be careful.
Some could deal with it better than others so each person needs to decide for him/her self. One person may see it as just a kiss while another person may feel they need to go further because of the feelings they get.
I remember my first kiss, I was 20, that boyfriend and I broke up a little while after and I have had 2 other boyfriends whom I kissed and now I am 29 and have managed to keep away from sinning. I guess that's why it's so important to have only christian boyfriends.
It's good to talk about what is best for the relationship. Set boundaries early.
Alicia
Some could deal with it better than others so each person needs to decide for him/her self. One person may see it as just a kiss while another person may feel they need to go further because of the feelings they get.
I remember my first kiss, I was 20, that boyfriend and I broke up a little while after and I have had 2 other boyfriends whom I kissed and now I am 29 and have managed to keep away from sinning. I guess that's why it's so important to have only christian boyfriends.
It's good to talk about what is best for the relationship. Set boundaries early.
Alicia
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i totally agree with that.
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For me I look at it in stages.
If someone went on a date with another, they should stick to talking and hanging out and when they become boyfriend girlfriend they can hold hands and hug. but when you get engaged, you can start kissing. I guess its different for everyone. Kissing isnt wrong outside marriges, but if some are tempted by this, thats when bounderies should be set. In my personal opinion, i'm waiting until enagement or marrige.
If someone went on a date with another, they should stick to talking and hanging out and when they become boyfriend girlfriend they can hold hands and hug. but when you get engaged, you can start kissing. I guess its different for everyone. Kissing isnt wrong outside marriges, but if some are tempted by this, thats when bounderies should be set. In my personal opinion, i'm waiting until enagement or marrige.
i think when you are dating you can hold hands, maybe a little peck on the cheek or peck on the lips, but frenching should wait til your married, because what happens if you french kiss that person then break up for some weird reason, then it is like you waisted your kisses
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i believe people can kiss before marriage, i think it's fine to kiss but i think you should be "in love" with the person.
I still have not kissed someone because i want the person i first kiss to be the one, or at least acts like it.
I still have not kissed someone because i want the person i first kiss to be the one, or at least acts like it.
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I know this post is rather old, but I would say that saving your first kiss till your marriage day might be a little irrational. My suggestion is to wait till your engaged. My fiance was my first kiss, I dated before him, but he was the guy God placed in my life. I knew that the day I met him. It was clear. When I kissed him I knew I had given my first kiss away to the man I will soon call my husband. There is no fear in true love. He gave me his first kiss and I gave him mine. I think when you finally kiss a person you love more then life itself, your kisses never loose their meaning. It becomes away you embrace each other, away of saying I love you, away of saying I'm here for you. I advise waiting till your engaged... A first kiss in front of an audience might just not be a truly romantic experience.
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Hello everyone. I know it has been a while since I posted here.
Another thing that I think is that, when you save your kiss for your future spouse, you are really saying that you are willing to wait for him/her.
If I knew that my husband saved his kiss for me, I would be so greateful!
To know that he saved his kiss for me, I think that would show his love for me more than a kiss while dating would.
Another thing that I think is that, when you save your kiss for your future spouse, you are really saying that you are willing to wait for him/her.
If I knew that my husband saved his kiss for me, I would be so greateful!
To know that he saved his kiss for me, I think that would show his love for me more than a kiss while dating would.
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i dont like this idea of 'drawing a line' since when has love been on this or that side of the line. love is a direction of the heart. if you 'draw the line' at hand holding and you do that in lust its still not love. for some a pure kiss might not be possible outside of marriage for other it could be simply an expression of there love. if your acting in love its alllllll good. but love isnt a line, its a direction
