@Brad Huber @Ivar @Br. Bear @amadeus2 @Thiscrosshurts @Christ4Ever
Wow, wow, wow.
I'm looking back at this and I forgot that I had posted this on here. God is certainly amazing.
I went through the fire but glory to God I was was not burned.
So here is the update:
It was like a soap opera. Prior to the divorce she filed a false report with the commissioners office and got a protective
order against me stating that she was fearful for her safety. It was granted temporarily until the court case for her to make
her case. I prayed about how to handle the situation and I knew that I could make her look bad because I had so much that
I could use against her. However I still wanted to honor my marital vows even if she wasn't honoring hers. So I prayed and felt
God was telling me to let him fight the battle.
Please don't misunderstand me here, I'm one who always prepares. In college I was the student
done the final project for the course about half way through the semester. With that said, not going prepared to court
was not at all normal for me. However I followed what I felt the Lord was telling me to do. I didn't want to make her look bad and that
was the only way I could think of to defend the false charges she had against me. But knowing I was innocent I said I rather let her
hurt me than to harm her because I didn't want to harm my wife (no matter how evil she was acting). So I went to court the day of
the protective order hearing with no documents. Zero, no court papers at all to defend myself, no financial papers, records, nothing,
trusting that God was going to defend me. Like I said, this is not typical of my nature.
On the day of court she did not show up and the judge threw out the case and the
case was dismissed and the protective order was lifted. I was so thankful to God for fighting the battle for me.
At that time we were living in separate homes.
She continued to pushed for the divorce and I drafted a mutual agreement so that the process would be smooth. In the agreement I
told her that I would give her financial support for 1 year after which she would be on her own. We went to court a 2nd time, this time
for the divorce. The judge asked her if she consented to the agreement, she changed her mind the day of the court telling
the judge that she wanted to change it and wanted more money. The judge told her that she had already signed the agreement
and if she wanted a new one she would have to set a new court date and we would still be married. Desperate to be divorced from me
she told the judge that she would stick to the original agreement that her and I had signed and it was finalized.
After the divorce and after 1 year of giving her financial support that I had drafted in the mutual agreement she messaged me and was asking
for some more money. At that time she knew that I owed her nothing legally, but I helped her out twice. Currently we just keep our distance and don't
communicate. No hatred, just an understanding that it is best if we keep apart.
Life seems to be much better for me since the process. I'm working on my Doctorate degree in Social Work, I now am part of a private group mental
health practice. I have about 3 times the money I had in my bank account compared to when I was with her. I moved back to the town where
my parents are to be closer to family. I'm active in my church ministry and play the keyboard on Sundays. I started volunteering in the community
and I teach chess lessons free at the library. Last week we had 20 children that showed up. I've been doing the chess lessons for about 9 months now.
So life is good. I still desire to get married in the future but no rush, waiting on God's timing. I've had two failed relationships since the marriage, both
lastly about 6 months. So yup, that is the update.
