It's not about physical limitations.
My ex-wife got into a bad car wreck while I was deployed. Emergency leave and I go home, get her from the hospital and spend 3 weeks taking care of her. By that time she's good enough to do more on her own and I have to go back.
You don't know true love and a relationship until a person can't do much and you have to bath, help them go to the restroom, fix all their meals, do laundry a different way b/c she has this "thing" about it, and take her places in a wheel chair.
It's not 50/50. Not 20/80. It's at minimum 100/100. Sometimes it's 180/20 b/c he/she is unable for some reason. It might be 20(You) and him/her 180 for some reason. When vows in front of God are taken seriously, you can learn real quick what is required.
We learn to b less selfish n more selfless every day
Twistie
Dear Brother and Sister,
Kinda true the 100/100 or any other percentage you want to give to the serving.
I had to do everything for her that was physically needed for the past 4 years, until my wife's passing the end of this July, while I held her hand.
Yet, there was so much more that she had given me, that all the while I had to that 100 percent, she was still giving me the additional 1000% and more I couldn't even begin to touch or grasp fully.
A smile, grin, growl, look, laugh or groan because of something I had said or done. The million little things that go uncounted and taken for granted in a relationship that goes up and down like a rollercoaster over the years.
While she could still talk earlier this year, she said I deserved another woman! The unselfishness and love in that little statement was overwhelming! As if I could leave her if it were
even possible for anyone else!!! God picked rightly when he placed us together, even while we didn't know it at the time ourselves.
There was a movie that we both watched a number of times over the years that is called Marriage Retreat. I would suggest you watch it if you haven't. Well worth it, and clean entertainment too.
Anyway, in one part the counselor drew on one of the wives' hands what appeared to be a triangle. She was at a loss at its significance and how it related to her marriage which was in trouble. As he said something like "you'll know when you figure this out". A little cheat here on this part of the movie. The meaning was that both her and her husband were at one corner which was the furthest from each other and from God, while God was at the top. As each one of them drew closer to God at the top, they in turn were drawing closer to each other. Great imagery, but even better point to take when married. Don't forget to keep God in front of your marriage, and when you do, because we do have a tendency to fall away, then reorient yourselves to going back to getting closer to God in your relationship, and your marriage will grow brightly in His loving Grace, and the Love for each other shines ever brightly. Till one of you or both go Home!
So, no matter how much you know or don't know about the other, allow God to be the keeper of one's marriage, and seek His advice/guidance before you seek a friend, or family, or even a counselor! He will answer and guide you in the way you each need to walk, even if it goes against the grain, or seems to make little sense at the time! He is Gracious and Loving and wants the best for those He made one in this covenant called Marriage.
With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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Twistie
