My prayers go out to you! I pray that in your struggles you may seek and find all the help you need.
Help comes straight from God.
Help comes from those around us we can trust.
(and I pray that you have friends or find friends close at hand as well as here that can fill that need. I found help like this from a local Christian counselling service and a good home church is essential for us all. I pray He may lead you to one. I know you have mention unhelpful experiences in the past but it is worth persevering with the knowledge that the rest of us christians are only human too! )
Help comes from doctors and the NHS
(I mention this because you talk of sleepless nights and have mentioned other ills in the past. I'm familiar with sleepless nights and know these can be a real added burden. Anything the Doctors can do to help is also God's provision!)
You talk of 'not resisting enough' , but I would invite you to look at that from a slightly different perspective.
Then rain falls on us all, and it seems to have been raining hard in your life for a long time. Your family, who should have been your shelter have been the reverse from what you've said in the past. You need the help and shelter of Our Father, who knows how to shelter and love you perfectly. In fact it is completely foreign for Him to do anything less.
Perhaps it is not a question of resisting badly but not knowing how to draw close to God through Jesus to receive the help He longs to give you.
In the book "The Father Heart of God" by Floyd McClung, He talks of the difficulty if getting to know God as Father especially if we have had bad experiences with our own fathers. With two abusive fathers, who can blame you for finding it hard to relate to the idea of a loving Father!
I pray that you may find a way to draw close to God and feel his love envelope you and then gradually you may find, in the security of this perfect relationship, a sense of wholeness and healing. And if I read you aright, your desire to forgive, that you find so difficult to realise, may grow into an ability to do this actually. In this there is freedom from past hurts, but I suspect it may be a while before you can get there. Don't worry, God takes is step by step and everything happens by degrees (and many things are shifting together).
God bless and sleep well,
Daniel